Text: Camel
A few days ago, my husband and I had a quarrel because we had to live with a large family, cook for their large family, and take care of the children.
I was so angry that I ran away from home. Because it was after 11 o'clock in the evening, I didn't take the child with me and left the child with him.
I cruelly left my one-year-old daughter in the care of my husband. I was away from home for two days, and he took care of the baby at home for two days.
During the two days when I was not at home, he did not send me any messages or even make a phone call.
I'm angry. If he doesn't ask me to go back, I won't go back.
Later, my mother found out about our quarrel from somewhere and yelled at me to go back and take care of the child.
My mother said that I was cruel enough to leave my child at home.
I said, isn’t there my mother-in-law and my husband! I'm not here, can't I let my mother-in-law and husband take care of me?
Finally, because of my mother's troubles, my husband took me back.
In this case, I blame my mother for being nosy. I originally wanted to teach my husband a lesson, but she insisted on stepping in to intervene.
I am even more angry with my husband. Every time we quarrel, I have to tell my mother and mother-in-law. What a big deal happened when the two couples quarreled!
Once we had an argument and I was pregnant at the time. When I got angry, I kicked my husband's feet.
My husband told my mother-in-law that I would beat him.
My mother-in-law said, I can’t bear to beat my own son. But I beat you!
Since then, I have never hit my husband, not even lightly. But my relationship with my mother-in-law has finally come to an end.
To be honest, I don't like her, in many ways.
I also know that she doesn't like me.
At that moment, I wanted to get divorced and never go back. Because of my husband, because of my mother, because of my mother-in-law.
But thinking about my young daughter, I softened again and could only tell myself to make do with it!
Because I am no longer a child, my children need me and need a complete home.
01
I was watching Douyin videos yesterday and saw Henan Urban Channel posted a video about a little girl who wanted to commit suicide.
The content of the video is as follows. This is the girl's original words:
"Can you come and salvage my body? Can you come and salvage my body? I can't hold on anymore. I have severe depression and severe anxiety. Syndrome, delusional disorder.
A lot of things have happened in the past few days, and I really can’t stand it anymore. Is it my fault that my parents are getting divorced?
Why do everyone want to abandon me? A few days ago, I wanted to let my mother and My dad remarried, but my mom said I was crazy, and I also wanted to have a perfect family. What was wrong with me?
Is it my fault that they got divorced?
My mom took care of someone else’s daughter for seven years. She ignored me and left me when I was seven years old.
People in our village were big talkers, saying that I was a wild child who had no mother and no one wanted me. They said that my mother no longer wanted me.
When I was in the fifth grade, the teacher also gave me a nickname because my study was not good in the fourth grade.
The teacher also had a bad impression of me, and the whole class targeted me and isolated me. I have unpleasant nicknames. I do everything by myself and dare not communicate with others.
Family of origin is very important. If we get divorced, it will have a huge impact on our children.
There is a girl in her family who is one year older than me. When I got there, that girl said, Mom, you are back.
I was standing there, and I heard her calling me mom.
I felt very sad because I didn’t want to accept my mother. Someone else’s mother took care of someone else’s daughter for seven years and ignored me.
People in our village said how good my mother was! But they didn’t know how bad my mother was. ”
This was the girl before she committed suicide. What to call a firefighter.
Fortunately, the girl's life was not in danger and was saved by firefighters.My mood has also stabilized!
Looking back at the girl's story, let's take a look at the marriages of today's young people. Just like instant noodles, they come and go quickly.
If your marriage is unhappy, there is nothing wrong with your parents getting divorced. But the premise is to take good care of the children. Because children are innocent, children should not be harmed when their parents divorce.
If parents divorce, the children are at fault. That is, their mistake is that they chose bad parents, and their mistake is that they were born in the wrong child.
02
My eldest aunt's husband had a cousin. When he was very young, his parents had a bad relationship and divorced.
After his mother got divorced, she remarried in the same village. Soon more children were born.
My eldest aunt’s cousin’s father died not long after. I heard he was pissed off.
Later, my cousin was given to his grandparents to raise.
Because his grandparents are old and can't make much money, their life is very difficult.
The eldest sister’s mother-in-law and his relatives saw that he was pitiful without a father and a mother, so they often gave him money and helped him.
And where is his mother? Although she was married in the same village, all the snacks she bought were for her remarried children. Even though her own child was there, she didn't buy it for him and ignored him.
Think about how his cousin felt at that time. His mother bought snacks for other people’s children but not for herself.
How sad and desperate he must have been at that time!
Because his mother did this, people in the village gossiped about her mother being ruthless.
Although they are divorced, the children are still their own. You should be kinder to your children.
The misfortune of childhood did not make the eldest aunt's cousin lose his love for life. Instead, he made him work hard and strive for success.
At a young age, I followed my uncle (my eldest aunt’s father-in-law) to work on construction sites, learning how to read architectural drawings.
He is very smart and can understand the drawings at a glance. He can understand the drawings that the eldest aunt's father-in-law cannot understand at a glance. Slowly, he also began to contract construction sites.
The construction sites he contracts are all profitable, with each construction site earning millions and tens of millions.
Now in his thirties, he has a net worth of over 10 million and has two sons. There are several apartments and several luxury cars.
Now he is the envy of many people.
After his cousin became successful, he did not forget the relatives who had helped him.
He asked his aunt's husband to help him manage the construction site and gave him more than 200,000 yuan a year. There is also an eldest sister who is also helping him work at the construction site.
He is also very kind to his eldest aunt’s parents-in-law, and gives them red envelopes and buys them gifts during holidays.
Although these years, his biological mother has ignored him. But he didn't hold a grudge against her either.
On the contrary, he arranged for the children born to his mother and stepfather to work on his construction site. I will give my mother money during the Chinese New Year.
When his relatives found out, they all told him not to give it, saying that his mother was so ruthless and shouldn't have given it.
Perhaps only he knows that only if he pleases his mother in this way will his mother think of him!
Holding grudges will only make you more and more tired. Only by letting go can you have more.
Now I have also changed the way I get along with my husband. Try not to make any noise if possible, and try not to make any noise if possible. Live well as a family.
is not for anything else, just for the children.
hopes that children whose parents are divorced can have a happy home. Everyone has parents who love them.
