This week I read a book that can make us feel better when starting a business. It's called "High Energy Postures".
Before reading this book, I never understood one thing, that is why our state always fluctuates, sometimes good, sometimes bad.
For example, when I was playing basketball in the past, I would sometimes be in very good shape. I would make every shot and I would not feel tired at all after the game, but I would still be very excited.
But sometimes the state is very poor, and he can't even score more than a dozen goals.
At that time, I thought that maybe I was unlucky today and just couldn't make a shot. But the more I failed to make a shot, the more impatient I felt. The more impatient I was, the less likely I was to make a shot, entering a vicious cycle.
This makes this game not fun at all!
Also during our interviews, after finishing the interview, I would always think, “I wish I had not said that sentence at that time,” or “I wish I had spoken out about this advantage of mine,” but I just couldn’t perform on the spot. good.
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What are the symptoms of poor status listed by the author?
The first state is that you care too much about other people’s impressions of you.
Have you noticed that we always like to "pretend", especially on more important occasions.
For example, for interviews, we have to rehearse and practice in advance. We are always very nervous before the interview.
This state is not the real self, but the self we want others to think. In the author's words, it is called the public self.
When all we think about is our public selves, do we find that we are under a lot of pressure. We always have to pay attention to our own image and whether we have said or done the wrong thing.
The most typical thing is to shoot short videos. Many people have idol baggage when making short videos, which means they must look good, show their good side, and make everyone have a good impression of themselves.
No one cares about the truth, but often what everyone wants to see most is the truth!
There are still many entrepreneurial partners who want to promote themselves, but they can't break through the psychological barriers. Why?
Because you always feel that everyone is looking at you, this is called the " focus effect ", which means that although everyone is not paying attention to you, but you think that everyone has been paying attention to you, you will feel nervous and anxious, and then you will stop talking. Stuttering and blushing! After being rejected several times,
chose to give up.
And the true self means that you have to truly express your own values and express your own life beliefs.
For example, when I do business incubation, I really hope to help everyone who wants to start a business, so that everyone can avoid detours on the road to starting a business, and reduce the risks of starting a business.
Every time I think of this, I feel very happy and energetic. This is my true self.
The second state is "imposter syndrome".
What is "Imposter Syndrome"?
The author classifies it as a mental illness. To put it simply, for example, if you are an entrepreneur, but in your heart you always think that you are not a very good entrepreneur, and you always think: I may still do it this time. fail.
But sometimes, we are all successful and have accomplished many things, such as making the company profitable and providing great services to many customers, but we still question ourselves and our abilities in our hearts.
The manifestation of imposter syndrome is that you are absent-minded and absent-minded most of the time. Afterwards, you regret it very much and feel that you shouldn't be like this, but you can't control it, so you always put yourself in a helpless state!
There are more girls in this state. Especially in our country, there are many requirements for women in traditional culture, such as being gentle and considerate, being virtuous and kind, and being dignified.
Many girls have become less confident and will panic when things happen, especially when making important decisions or when they need to improvise.
Of course, boys are not without this state, but compared to women, men are slightly lighter!
The third state is to always perceive threats, not opportunities.
I believe that there will be people around us who hold a pessimistic attitude towards anything.
You tell him, I found that a certain industry is very good, and there is an opportunity, and he says, what, that industry is not good, and you will lose money if you do it; you tell him, I think we can do that project together, and he will It's not good, I don't want to do it.
This is the kind of person who is always on guard and always feels that danger is around him.
When I was working in a petrochemical company, I met a master like this. The most important thing he did every day was to take a small notebook and record what others said.
I thought it was incredible at the time and didn’t know why he would do this.
Later I found out that he just had no sense of security and was afraid that others would harm him, so he would record what everyone said so that he could use these things to fight back against those who hurt him.
But the fact is that he has been working for more than 20 years and no one has harmed him. The main reason is that no one wants to talk to him!
This kind of person is a typical person who has a strong perception of threats. In their lives, there will always be difficulties and obstacles everywhere. It is as difficult as climbing to the sky to achieve something!
Last year, a hot word on the Internet was "lying flat", which is actually the same state.
When facing life, we are no longer in a positive state. Instead, we are in a casual state. We feel that nothing can make a difference, so we simply give up!
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Then why is it in bad condition?
Two reasons:
The first reason is physiological.
There are two hormones in our body, one is called , cortisol, , and the other is testosterone.
Cortisol is a stress hormone, that is, it is in charge of our stress levels. The higher the cortisol level, the greater our stress will be, and we will become sensitive and irritable. Of course, there are many factors that affect our cortisol hormone levels, which I will talk about later.
Testosterone is the dominant hormone. When this hormone rises, we will feel that we are in good condition, as if we have the feeling of looking down on the world and being able to control everything.
The second reason is that our daily actions have a great impact on our state.
Think about it, what actions do we often do when we are nervous or anxious?
will curl up its body and make some converging movements.
For example, when we watch a football match, when a player fails to kick the ball in or pass the ball to a player, the audience will cover their faces, and even the players will cover their faces.
If our usual movements are in this curled-up state, then our state will be greatly affected.
For example, if you curl up on the sofa and watch TV, you will not have the strength in your heart to do other things; for example, if you act submissive to customers, you will not have the strength in your heart to conquer the customers...
The same is true for us starting a business. Yes, if you are in a huddled state during negotiation, promotion, and team leadership, will the effect be good?
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So how can we adjust the status so that a better status will always be with us? The author of
gave an answer, which is to let the body determine the mind.
The principle is actually very simple. It is to use an scalable attitude to elevate your mood, make yourself more confident, and your state will naturally improve.
specifically has three aspects.
The first one is when you are in a bad state, please use open actions to disguise your emotions.
Why do you say that?
The author said that someone has done such an experiment, which is to give a pencil to a person who is not very happy and ask him to bite it on his mouth and keep it still. This is called the "forced happiness" experiment.
It was found that after a while, this person's mood gradually improved, the testosterone in his body continued to rise, and he felt inexplicably happy.
I'm still thinking, no wonder stewardesses use chopsticks to practice smiling. They need to develop the ability to force smiles and be happy, so that they can serve customers in a better state.
So when we start a business, when faced with customers’ incomprehension or constant rejection, can we use forced smiles to improve our current status and welcome the next customer?
Before pushing, can you raise your hands in the bathroom and use a victory posture or a cheering posture to refuel yourself for two minutes?
In addition, singing is also a method of using open movements to disguise emotions and achieve forced happiness.
Think about it, when we are usually unhappy, singing a powerful song will make us feel much better, and we will become happy while singing.
Therefore, when we are in a bad state, we can try to use open postures to disguise our emotions, and finally achieve the purpose of adjusting our state.
The second is not to develop the bad habit of frowning.
I have seen many people with Sichuan eyebrows, which is caused by their tendency to frown no matter what happens or what they see.
You must know that many depressed people like to frown. The more you frown, the worse your state will be, because your body sends you bad signals, which in turn will lead to an increase in cortisol, and eventually stress and anxiety will follow. Come!
Moreover, when you have these negative expressions of frowning and curling your lips, it will also make the other party feel your emotional state, which will lead to some disadvantages in our entrepreneurship and increase the difficulty of starting a business.
The third is that if conditions permit, you can practice yoga and Tai Chi.
Why do you do these exercises?
In fact, there are more than just these exercises. We can do any exercise that can stretch our body.
Most of the movements in yoga and Tai Chi are open movements, so if you look at those who practice yoga and Tai Chi all year round, they will have a very sunny and natural state. It is because this kind of exercise changes their hearts. Get stronger and stronger!
In addition, in order to verify the effect of yoga on state changes, someone specifically conducted such an experiment.
They selected many veterans who had returned from the battlefield. These people had post-traumatic stress disorder. Whenever they heard a noise, they thought there was going to be a war, and they were nervous all day long.
They give some people traditional therapy, which is taking medicine and psychological treatment; others let them practice yoga.
Finally found that those who received traditional therapy rebounded in the end, while those who received yoga therapy almost never rebounded.
This shows that after yoga changes the posture of the body, this posture will always affect our state and give us a positive attitude.
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In most cases, the state of the entrepreneurial process has a great impact on the final result.
Just imagine, when you are in a bad state, can you keep writing articles? When you are in bad shape, can you still keep updating a video every day? When you are in poor condition, can you still push with ease?
I hope that the methods in this article can allow everyone to adjust their status at any time and reduce difficulties and obstacles in the process of starting a business!
