A reader’s letter said:
and her ex-husband fell in love freely and got married. After marriage, there were not many conflicts between us. At best, there were quarrels over trivial matters in life. In the 6th year of marriage, her husband got involved in an extramarital affair. The other party is a young girl who is new to the world. The key is that her husband is a little obsessed with this relationship. During this period, I humbly told my husband that as long as you are willing to return to the family, I can forget the past. But my ex-husband was determined to divorce me for my lover. I have cried and exhausted myself about this, but to no avail. When we divorced, I won the house and the children. After
, my sadness was in stark contrast to my ex-husband’s arrogance.
Half a year later, my husband was dumped by his lover. At this time, he shamelessly came to me to remarry. I thought that this was the result I wanted, but I found that I couldn't fall in love anymore. Therefore, I finally followed my heart and did not agree to my husband's request for remarriage.
once asked myself: I cared so little about my husband at the beginning, why did I choose to refuse when he asked me to remarry him.
Emotions are really magical existences.
Muzi Li Emotional analysis:
The existence of a relationship may be due to attraction in terms of appearance, personality, family background, etc. And after establishing a relationship, there is still dedication, so we begin to adapt to this person. This is what is called Feelings.
When this person wants to withdraw from his life, what we are actually attached to is: 1) we don’t want the habit to be broken; 2) we are not willing to let our efforts go to waste; 3) we are not willing to let our children grow up in divorce. , single parent, remarried families; 4) I always feel that divorce is a very shameful thing.
When one party insists on divorcing and the divorce results, in the days to come, what you must learn is: slowly let go.
I mean what if: If you divorced your ex-husband for a month or two and he regretted it, the possibility of you accepting him is quite high, but he only came to you to remarry half a year after your divorce. Therefore, he must be cool. The reasons include: 1) You have gotten over the shadow of divorce; 2) Although you no longer hate him, the harm he has done to you still exists; 3) You find that you can still live well without him around.
A reality: It is actually quite difficult to re-accept someone who you have loved but hurt yourself; it is relatively easy to start a new relationship with a stranger, and in the process of healing, you will gradually find that your ex-husband is just bullshit. usually. When he wants to turn around, you are unwilling to do it. It also fully shows that many people who are disappointed in their feelings often regret it easily. The key is: Why should the other party wait for you where you are?
What I am sure of is that you have gotten over the shadow of divorce, so you still have to yearn for married life. At least when you meet someone you think is reliable, please give each other a chance to get to know each other.
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