Destiny is in one's own hands,
A woman's destiny is also in the marriage she chooses.
Marriage is labeled with many labels nowadays. In the 1990s, some women were interested in a man's height, appearance, and family environment, and some women were only interested in a man's height, appearance, and family environment. Look at the man’s academic qualifications.
Youwei Wen is a college graduate from a poor background in 1986 (college students were assigned jobs at that time),
Youwei Wen’s ancestors were illiterate for three generations, and his parents were honest farmers with no social connections,
Other classmates were assigned to work in government departments, but You Weiwen was assigned to work in a state-owned machinery factory in the county.
At that time, the top jobs in the machinery factory were junior high school graduates and high school graduates, and they were all guaranteed jobs.
Although You Weiwen was An elite college student, 1.6 meters tall, thin, inconspicuous in the factory, without any advantages,
He worked in the machinery factory for six years, and became familiar with people in the workshop and office. A kind aunt introduced You Weiwen to a partner. When girls select boys, they need to be taller than 1.7 meters, especially if he has a diploma, no height, and no family background. Girls working in the factory will look down on him.
Seeing that Youwei Wen was still single at the age of twenty-six, an aunt found out about a girl in a nearby town. Youweiwen was two years old.
The aunt enthusiastically arranged for the two of them to meet. The girl took her with her when she went to the appointment. Best friend Wu Jiajia ,
The girl’s name is Xu Jing, Xu Jing and You Weiwen met for the first time, and both parties left a bad impression.
Xu Jing disliked You Weiwen for his short stature and poor family background,
You Weiwen I dislike Xu Jing's pretentiousness.
The two of them have no chance.
Wu Jiajia has a secret respect for You Weiwen.
Wu Jiajia believes that college students are no joke. They have a stable iron job and may be promoted in the future.
Thinking determines a person's knowledge and height.
Xu Jing doesn't want it. Wu Jiajia asked, and
responded to the sentence: Planting flowers with intention will not bloom, but planting willows with no intention will create shade.
Wu Jiajia and You Weiwen are in love,
Wu Jiajia doesn't care about You Weiwen's family background or You Weiwen's short stature,
Wu Jiajia doesn't follow local customs and pays too much attention to the ceremony. He treats the woman to dinner, bicycles, sewing machines, watches and modular furniture. A gift of more than one thousand yuan,
Wu Jiajia and You Weiwen got married, and they only had a dormitory and a bed in the factory. Wu Jiajia didn't think it was shabby. She felt that marrying You Weiwen was like picking up a treasure.
Youwei Wen likes that Wu Jiajia is informal and not squeamish. He likes that Wu Jiajia does not dislike his family being poor or his short stature.
Love has an element of gratitude and is more stable.
A year later, they gave birth to a son, and the family of three was happy and warm.
However, the happy and stable days suddenly disappeared.
The machinery factory where You Weiwen worked was forced to close by the government because of losses every year.
The common people have not figured out what is going on. The iron rice bowl is gone overnight.
Workers from the machinery factory went to the government departments to make trouble and cry out for injustice.
You Weiwen and Wu Jiajia did not go.
Wu Jiajia looked at it blankly. The author You Weiwen asked: "What should we do?"
Youwei Wen said calmly and humorously: " I am born with a talent that must be useful. If you don't leave me here, I will have a place to stay." ,
Youwei Wen asked Jiajia to take the children and temporarily return to his parents' home or temporarily live in his parents' home. He was going south.
On the morning of the autumn of 1994, You Weiwen kissed his son who was less than two years old and said to his wife Wu Jiajia: "When we stabilize in the south, I will take you and your son there."
In order to live, he can only put his parting lovesickness aside. In her heart,
Wu Jiajia took her son to live with her husband's house for a while, and then lived with her parents' house for a while. She often saw her best friend Xu Jing returning to her parents' house.
Xu Jing married a tall and burly man. The man was a truck driver who drove a trailer. He was considered a wealthy man back then.
Xu Jing looked at Wu Jiajia's shabby appearance and teased Wu Jiajia for not being able to choose a man.
Wu Jiajia had nothing to say in the face of reality, but Wu Jiajia firmly believed in her heart that the man she chose was right.
Three months after Wu Jiajia and You Weiwen separated, You Weiwen wrote a letter asking her to take her children south.
Wu Jiajia said goodbye to her parents without hesitation, carried her son on her back, and ran to her husband who was thousands of miles away.
She didn't care about the future. No matter what, as long as the family is together, it is happiness.
Wu Jiajia came to Guangzhou and lived in a rented house.
Youweiwen gave every cent of his monthly salary of more than 1,500 yuan to Jiajia. Jiajia paid 300 yuan in rent, kept more than 200 yuan for household expenses, and saved 1,000 yuan.
Six months later, their son went to kindergarten and Jiajia found a job.
The couple went to and from get off work, day after day, for two years.
Youweiwen told Jiajia that he would open his own repair machine shop.
Jiajia handed his bankbook to Youweiwen, straightened his body and said: "I support it unconditionally. "!
Jiajia was worried that her husband's business would not start well, so she insisted on working for more than 600 yuan a month, and worked overtime until ten or eleven at night. She still cleaned Long Weiwen's repair shop,
97 Hong Kong After returning to , Youweiwen's business slowly improved.
During the Spring Festival that year, Youweiwen took a check of 100,000 yuan and handed it to Jiajia.
Jiajia jumped up with joy and shouted that her husband was a high-quality stock.
html When Jiajia returned to her hometown during the Spring Festival in 2098, Jiajia saw her best friend Xu Jing.Xu Jing was not as high-spirited as before and seemed a little depressed.
Jiajia didn't want to ask Xu Jing for fear of irritating her.
Jiajia's mother said: "Xu Jing Her husband looked good on the outside, but he was not a good guy. He made money by driving a truck, gambling outside, and even brought women back. Xu Jing scolded him, and he beat Xu Jing, saying that Xu Jing didn't earn a penny. If you don't like him, you can go away."
Jiajia's mother sighed and said, "Xu Jing's life will be difficult in the future. It doesn't matter whether the man makes money or not, it's not okay for a woman to yell at a man."
On the eve of Jiajia and her husband's return to Guangzhou, she asked Xu Jing to have dinner. When she saw the bruises on the back of Xu Jing's hands, she said nothing, hugged Xu Jing and let her lie on her shoulders. ,
Jiajia knew Xu Jing's Face is the most important thing in her bones. Back then, she despised Wei Wen for being thin and brought him out to be embarrassed, so she found a tall and burly husband.
Face is for others to see, while the inside is hers. This is the cognitive price to pay.
Xu Jing endures her marriage for the sake of her face and children. What is right and what is wrong? There is no right or wrong in life. There are many paths that only she can feel.
With each passing day, Youweiwen's business is getting bigger and bigger.
After the financial crisis in 2008, Youweiwen took advantage of the downturn in the market and bought a piece of land in Dongguan and built a factory. From then on, he only paid taxes, water, electricity and fire protection. Despite the expense, his business has been running till now without any impact.
Now, Wu Jiajia is over 50 years old, and she has never forgotten that diligence and frugality are the foundation of running a family.
For more than 20 years, she has been a boss lady while buying food and cooking for the factory workers. After graduating from college, her son worked Marry a wife and have children,
Wu Jiajia does not spoil her son, and lets her son go to work while her daughter-in-law takes care of the child. She gives her daughter-in-law 5,000 yuan every month for household expenses,
Wu Jiajia said to her daughter-in-law: "Take care of your child by yourself, so that you don't miss every minute of the baby." A growth process every second.”
During the Spring Festival of 2021, Wu Jiajia's family returned to her hometown from Dongguan to celebrate the New Year in a lively manner,
Wu Jiajia cared about her best friend Xu Jing,
Xu Jing did not post in Moments or add others to WeChat,
Wu Jiajia arrived at her parents' home and asked her mother about Xu Jing's current situation,
Her mother said: "Xu Jing got divorced two years ago. That time her man brought back a seductress. Xu Jing scolded the man and the man broke her arm. It's true that a season of not harvesting crops is a lifetime, but marrying the wrong man is a lifetime." .
Jiajia asked where Xu Jing was?
's mother said: "I heard that I am working as a nanny in the city."
's mother repeatedly told Jiajia not to go to other people's homes or visit other people's homes. At this time, the last thing she wanted was to be disturbed by others.
Jiajia said she understands,
Destiny is in your own hands, and you will be closely related to your partner after marriage.
If you choose the right man, the man will raise the woman like a child and treat her as a child. If you choose the wrong man, the woman will be forced by the man to become a shrew, a resentful woman, and even be called a bitch. "Crazy woman".
The most important thing when choosing a man is character and gratitude!
Three months after Wu Jiajia and You Weiwen separated, You Weiwen wrote a letter asking her to take her children south.
Wu Jiajia said goodbye to her parents without hesitation, carried her son on her back, and ran to her husband who was thousands of miles away.
She didn't care about the future. No matter what, as long as the family is together, it is happiness.
Wu Jiajia came to Guangzhou and lived in a rented house.
Youweiwen gave every cent of his monthly salary of more than 1,500 yuan to Jiajia. Jiajia paid 300 yuan in rent, kept more than 200 yuan for household expenses, and saved 1,000 yuan.
Six months later, their son went to kindergarten and Jiajia found a job.
The couple went to and from get off work, day after day, for two years.
Youweiwen told Jiajia that he would open his own repair machine shop.
Jiajia handed his bankbook to Youweiwen, straightened his body and said: "I support it unconditionally. "!
Jiajia was worried that her husband's business would not start well, so she insisted on working for more than 600 yuan a month, and worked overtime until ten or eleven at night. She still cleaned Long Weiwen's repair shop,
97 Hong Kong After returning to , Youweiwen's business slowly improved.
During the Spring Festival that year, Youweiwen took a check of 100,000 yuan and handed it to Jiajia.
Jiajia jumped up with joy and shouted that her husband was a high-quality stock.
html When Jiajia returned to her hometown during the Spring Festival in 2098, Jiajia saw her best friend Xu Jing.Xu Jing was not as high-spirited as before and seemed a little depressed.
Jiajia didn't want to ask Xu Jing for fear of irritating her.
Jiajia's mother said: "Xu Jing Her husband looked good on the outside, but he was not a good guy. He made money by driving a truck, gambling outside, and even brought women back. Xu Jing scolded him, and he beat Xu Jing, saying that Xu Jing didn't earn a penny. If you don't like him, you can go away."
Jiajia's mother sighed and said, "Xu Jing's life will be difficult in the future. It doesn't matter whether the man makes money or not, it's not okay for a woman to yell at a man."
On the eve of Jiajia and her husband's return to Guangzhou, she asked Xu Jing to have dinner. When she saw the bruises on the back of Xu Jing's hands, she said nothing, hugged Xu Jing and let her lie on her shoulders. ,
Jiajia knew Xu Jing's Face is the most important thing in her bones. Back then, she despised Wei Wen for being thin and brought him out to be embarrassed, so she found a tall and burly husband.
Face is for others to see, while the inside is hers. This is the cognitive price to pay.
Xu Jing endures her marriage for the sake of her face and children. What is right and what is wrong? There is no right or wrong in life. There are many paths that only she can feel.
With each passing day, Youweiwen's business is getting bigger and bigger.
After the financial crisis in 2008, Youweiwen took advantage of the downturn in the market and bought a piece of land in Dongguan and built a factory. From then on, he only paid taxes, water, electricity and fire protection. Despite the expense, his business has been running till now without any impact.
Now, Wu Jiajia is over 50 years old, and she has never forgotten that diligence and frugality are the foundation of running a family.
For more than 20 years, she has been a boss lady while buying food and cooking for the factory workers. After graduating from college, her son worked Marry a wife and have children,
Wu Jiajia does not spoil her son, and lets her son go to work while her daughter-in-law takes care of the child. She gives her daughter-in-law 5,000 yuan every month for household expenses,
Wu Jiajia said to her daughter-in-law: "Take care of your child by yourself, so that you don't miss every minute of the baby." A growth process every second.”
During the Spring Festival of 2021, Wu Jiajia's family returned to her hometown from Dongguan to celebrate the New Year in a lively manner,
Wu Jiajia cared about her best friend Xu Jing,
Xu Jing did not post in Moments or add others to WeChat,
Wu Jiajia arrived at her parents' home and asked her mother about Xu Jing's current situation,
Her mother said: "Xu Jing got divorced two years ago. That time her man brought back a seductress. Xu Jing scolded the man and the man broke her arm. It's true that a season of not harvesting crops is a lifetime, but marrying the wrong man is a lifetime." .
Jiajia asked where Xu Jing was?
's mother said: "I heard that I am working as a nanny in the city."
's mother repeatedly told Jiajia not to go to other people's homes or visit other people's homes. At this time, the last thing she wanted was to be disturbed by others.
Jiajia said she understands,
Destiny is in your own hands, and you will be closely related to your partner after marriage.
If you choose the right man, the man will raise the woman like a child and treat her as a child. If you choose the wrong man, the woman will be forced by the man to become a shrew, a resentful woman, and even be called a bitch. "Crazy woman".
The most important thing when choosing a man is character and gratitude!
