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There are many people in this world who attach great importance to love. Similarly, there are also some people who disdain love. Those who attach great importance to their own love will naturally respect others. Love, and people who don't even love themselves will naturally be jealous and do mischief everywhere, betraying others and destroying others.
Around us, there are always such a group of self-deprecating women who voluntarily become third parties. A netizen has come into contact with eight "third parties" and found that they all have the following three common problems.
Emotional indifference
Whether it is Tang Rui in " A Year Without a Job " or Lin Youyou in " Only Thirty ", they all have only one purpose in becoming a mistress, that is to climb a branch and become a phoenix. She wants to make a fortune from men, and on the surface she loves the male protagonist to death, but in reality she is very scheming and hypocritical.
Zeng Shiqiang has a clear attitude and point of view: People who want to achieve great things must have no emotions. In order to achieve great things, they can not respond to many emotions in life and do not over-understand, thereby saving time and reducing inner self-loss. .
This is not to say that these mistresses can become big things, but that in their world, there is no word for love. Love is always a consumable for them, and men are the tools for them to continuously climb up.
Throughout history, many so-called "successful women" who have been criticized have the same characteristics - emotionally indifferent, relying on many men to climb up the ladder, not hesitate to destroy other people's family happiness, and hurt their husbands' loyalty to them, just to reach the top of the food chain
Getting something for nothing
Women who want to get a man's upper hand have this characteristic: getting something for nothing. In this impetuous society, endless desires can always prompt people to do all kinds of behaviors without limits. Some women understand that they want to get a lot. Things are not available under our own conditions, so we want a way to get them quickly.
They understand deeply: Men of the same age group cannot afford her life. The only way is to find a man who is older than her and has a successful career, and such men often already have a happy family. .
Some women work hard to get close to Wang Laowu, such as Fan Shengmei in " Ode to Joy ". They also want to get something for nothing. Although they are hypocritical, they still have a "bottom line". And this kind of mistress does not hesitate to destroy in order to get something for nothing. Other people's families are really shameful and have no bottom line.
There is no moral bottom line. A mistress who is shameless and extramarital will have a lack of moral values in common.
In the eyes of ordinary people, destroying other people's families is a very shameful thing and is easily criticized by the world. However, mistresses do not think so. They have a very lack of moral concepts and do not think that what they have done is wrong at all.
In the general environment of the market economy , utilitarianism emphasizes the survival of the fittest and the survival of the fittest. However, this power of pursuing interests as the greatest purpose has caused the personality of many women to form a tendency to value utilitarianism and practicality.
In the process of dealing with feelings, they use whether it is beneficial to themselves as the criterion, ignore the role of the collective, and are indifferent to others, so that they commit some unethical and bottomless behaviors.
Mistresses are generally selfish and have no moral bottom line. They base their happiness on the pain of others. They may also be pursuing love, but this kind of love has no bottom line or morality.
In the world of such mistresses, themselves and men are the only important things in the world, and they will be dismissive of their own children. Their abnormal moral values make their goodwill only focus on themselves and their attachment objects, and they only care about themselves. In a moment, Kuai doesn't care about the life or death of others. Just like the father who threw his child downstairs in Chongqing before, he was also guided by this kind of mistress.
As the saying goes, why should women embarrass women? The mistress has no moral bottom line, so how can she have any empathy? So they don't pay attention to this at all, and are even arrogant to demonstrate to their original wives.
People who know how to respect themselves and love themselves will not become mistresses. Those who are willing to be mistresses and suffer worldly criticism are really hateful and pitiful.
Women must know how to respect themselves and love themselves, know how to protect their own feelings, and respect the love of others. They must not only learn to defend their own love, but also stick to their own bottom line and justice. Never eat from the bowl and look at the pot. Yes, you have to protect your bowl.
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author | Tommy Da
editor | Wan'an
first psychological writing team | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).
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