In the eyes of women, a man is a harbor, a big tree, and a backing mountain.
A woman wants to find a man to be with, hoping that a man can bring her some sense of security, solidarity, and belonging.
A woman is fragile, no matter how strong her heart is, she will have her most vulnerable time, and she will also want a man to let her lean on and rest.
But women don’t know that women want this kind of feeling, and men sometimes want to get them in women.
All that women want in love may be exactly what men lack.
For example, women want a lot of love from men.
Similarly, men also want a lot of love from women.
In life, there are not only women who lack love, but also men who lack love.
Whether it is a man or a woman, the lack of love is mostly caused by the original family.
means that in childhood,They have not been able to get enough love and care from their parents and in the family.
When they grow up, these people will be particularly lack of love.
The character and state of lack of love will be fully reflected in the process of getting along with couples.
Richard de Fernivel said:
"Love is a passionate obsession, a fire that cannot be extinguished, a 's unsatisfied desire.
A joy like sugar and honey, a burst of intoxicating madness, a kind of labor without peace and peace without labor."
Love is a thing that both men and women long for .
Single men and women want to get out of the singles, and those who have boyfriend and girlfriend want to love for a long time.
It would be better if we could go to the palace of marriage.
The end of love and the sublimation of love are none other than marriage.
Unfortunately,Not everyone can get lucky in marriage in love.
It is also said that marriage is the tomb of love, but if there is no marriage, is love a place of death without burial?
A woman really loves a man and will want to marry him;
A man really loves a woman and wants to give her a home.
In the process of a man and woman in a relationship, it is also a process for two people to choose whether they are suitable for each other.
If it is suitable, it will naturally be a positive result;
If it is not suitable, see you too late to wave, there is nothing to miss or regret.
can meet, is the best ending.
In addition to happiness and happiness, what love brings to women can also be a kind of pain and suffering.
Some women can’t figure it out, but they are fine when they are together.
why after really being together,What this man brought to her is completely different from what she imagined?
Perhaps before this, a woman had never thought that the man she met was a man who lacked love.
A man who lacks love, in fact, does not have an adult mental age, but has always been in a "underage" state.
When a woman is with such a man, she is actually very tired.
Women originally wanted to get the comfort, consideration and care of men in love.
In the end, I found out that what I was looking for was not a boyfriend who could stand up to the ground, but a "brother" who wanted to rely on her.
This "brother" is very insecure. On the contrary, he hopes to be pampered in a woman, as well as the sense of security in his heart.
A woman who is strong enough may be willing to grow up and mature with such a man.
Although the process is a bit more difficult and takes a little longer, they will feel that as long as there is love, there is nothing they can do.
If a woman is not strong enough,Then, this relationship will cause two people to be tortured and tortured.
Liu Ya was with her boyfriend, and she took the initiative to chase him.
At that time, Liu Ya felt that her boyfriend was very handsome, he was very cool to lead out, and she also had a lot of face.
In two months, he became her boyfriend.
Liu Ya originally thought that the life of love must be particularly beautiful, but unexpectedly, things went counterproductive.
Two people who really love each other, age is not a problem, height is not a distance.
Liu Ya is four years older than her boyfriend. She thinks it's okay. There is nothing unacceptable.
After Liu Ya and her boyfriend were together, they learned that the two previous relationships that her boyfriend had talked about were both siblings.
Liu Ya asked her boyfriend, "Why is your relationship a sibling?"
His boyfriend said: "I don't know, later." Liu Ya just knew,Boyfriend has a soft spot for his siblings, which is also a way for him to get love in his relationship.
This kind of love can make up for his lack of love experience and feelings.
her boyfriend told Liu Ya later, "I think I find a girlfriend who is a few years older than me, she can take care of me better, and get along less tired.
I want To find a girlfriend who is younger than me, I have to coax her every day. That’s so tiring.”
At that time, Liu Ya didn’t think so much, she was thinking about her boyfriend. Face value.
has a handsome boyfriend, Liu Ya is indeed a face, and the number of times he posts to Moments is obviously more.
Every time she is liked by a friend, she is very happy.
After the two lived together, Liu Ya originally thought that living together would allow them to understand each other better.
When she is taking care of her boyfriend, he should also take care of her.
The fact is that her boyfriend can't do any housework.
even when resting at home,He doesn't take the initiative to cook, and he always waits until Liu Ya comes home from work to cook for him.
He comfortably enjoyed what Liu Ya had done for him.
Not only that, but Liu Ya also discovered that her boyfriend is a person with a strong desire for control.
Liu Ya's mobile phone is checked several times a day, and if there is one more person on WeChat, he has to ask who that person is.
boyfriend also likes to stick to Liu Ya, he has to go wherever she goes.
nicknamed: "I just want to be with you."
Sometimes Liu Ya really feels that he is not her boyfriend, but her brother.
Occasionally Liu Ya and her girlfriends have dinner and go shopping together, and her boyfriend must send her a small video.
When Liu Ya works overtime, her boyfriend wants her to send a small video to prove that she is not with other men.
Liu Ya was still acceptable at first, but later, Liu Ya felt that her boyfriend made her breathless.
finally developed to Liu Ya's clothes and boyfriends.
He does not allow her to wear short skirts, shorts, and skirts below the knee.
Such a relationship makes Liu Ya particularly tired.
When she asked her boyfriend to break up, how could her boyfriend disagree.
He said: "I do this entirely because I care about you, I love you."
Liu Ya said: "True love should be you in a way that I can accept. Love, not your own way to love me.
I can’t accept your expression of love.”
Liu Ya and her boyfriend finally broke up for half a year. In her life.
Liu Ya later learned that the reason why her boyfriend showed such a state in his relationship was entirely because of his long-term lack of love.
So, what kind of behavior will boys have for a long time lack of love?
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strong44 strong sp sp strong love for long-term boys, sp strong love for 3 spanspanspThey especially like siblings.
In this kind of relationship, they will define their role as younger brother, not boyfriend.
As a younger brother, he does not need to grow up and be immature.
He would think: There is a sister in everything, and he doesn't need to take any responsibility at all.
As a result, girls have to bear most of the responsibilities and obligations in their relationships.
Over time, women will be particularly tired, just like Liu Ya.
Of course, it can’t be said that this is the case for all siblings, but that this is just one possibility.
Liu Ya is unfortunate, she met a boyfriend who lacks love, so that she feels particularly bad in love.
Finally, breaking up is the only solution.
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_strongpThe boyfriend is like a "child" and does nothing.
Liu Ya, just like a parent, everything at home is waiting for her.
Women want to find a boyfriend to take care of themselves, be considerate, and love themselves, not a younger brother.
What a woman wants is a backer, not a younger brother who drags her back.
boyfriend will enjoy everything comfortably in such a relationship.
He feels that this is the state he should show in his emotions, and everything a woman does should be.
A man does not even know what role he should play in the relationship, let alone what responsibilities and obligations he should assume.
A woman can suffer for a while, tired for a while, but has an extra "child" to raise, I believe no woman can accept such a lover.
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3 _span strong3 _span strong3 _span strongSo he will be particularly insecure.
What a man doesn't know is that he can only give himself a sense of security, instead of looking for and obtaining it from a woman.
Liu Ya’s boyfriend chose a stronger desire for control in order to get the sense of security he wanted.
No matter where Liu Ya is or what he is doing, he must report to him one to one.
At the same time, he also asked her to take a video to prove her innocence.
boyfriend thinks this is an expression of his love for her, but such a heavy love, which woman can accept it?
broke up, it must be an inevitable relationship between Liu Ya and her boyfriend.
Breaking up earlier was a relief for Liu Ya.
For a boyfriend, the end of this relationship may not make him mature.
Over 80%, his next lover will still be a "sister" older than him.
Women can try and make mistakes in the process of love,Especially for women who don't have much love experience, don't be afraid that a relationship will be fruitless.
Only after experiencing some emotions can a woman know what the other half she is looking for is.
After encountering a boy who has been short of love for a long time, a woman will know in her future relationships which men cannot bear the weight of a relationship.
The other half a woman wants to find must be responsible and responsible.
And it would be better if there was more motivation.
Boys who have been short of love for a long time will definitely not be able to give women the sense of security and solidarity they want.
Because a man himself has not grown up yet, his own sense of security is not enough, how can there be any excess for women.
So when a man has the above three manifestations, it means that he is a long-term lover, and women must stay away.
Author | Mo An holds the certificate of psychological counselor from the Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security, and has a lot of practical experience in native family, long-term relationship, love restoration, marriage repair, and single-off. Trained in emotionally oriented marriage therapy,Gestalt therapy, etc. Good at training the ability to resolve conflicts and manage love. Let us learn to love and enjoy love together.
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