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Life is fleeting. When you are experiencing the beautiful process of life, when you spend a wonderful weekend with your loved one’s children, and when you travel with your family, you often don’t think that your life may come to an end at some point.
Similarly, when you are at different stages of life, your perceptions and feelings of life are naturally completely different. In the field of philosophy, erudite sages always ask questions about the origin of life, including one that can be regarded as the "ultimate question": where will people go in the end?
Therefore, no matter what region or cultural region you are in, deep thoughts and complex emotions about death will appear in people's thoughts. So, at what age is the most obvious fear of death? After research by psychologists, it often appears around the age of seventy-five.
Why is this age group when people are most afraid of death? In the face of this fear, how can the elderly themselves and their relatives and friends help? Let's take a look together.
Weak body and mature mood
First of all, from a physiological point of view, as people grow older, the changes in physical fitness will basically show a downward parabolic trend: in childhood, due to the development of the body Incomplete, so the physical fitness is not particularly good, even weak and sickly.
In the young and middle-aged, the physical fitness reaches the peak, and the body is strong; in the old age, the body and various organs have experienced long-term use, so there will be varying degrees of "loss", physical fitness Weak again, and may suffer from some chronic diseases, resulting in poor physical condition.
This kind of change actually belongs to a natural law, a fact that is not transferred by people's will.But when people get older and notice that their physical fitness is not as good as before, and even find that some things that were easy to do before have become unattainable, it is inevitable that there will be a gap in their hearts, and this gap is inevitable. It may make people think of serious illness or even death.
Along with the declining physical fitness and possible diseases, the individual's social consciousness and mood will have a completely opposite development trend.
It is with age that people will be involved in more and more interactions in society, especially when people reach the age of 60 or 70, they may experience many cases of "life, old age, sickness and death" around them. My heart gradually "sees it openly". When we are middle-aged, our elders often leave first by themselves, so the grief of the death of our relatives at this time is deeply rooted in our hearts.
As the saying goes. "Parents are here, life still knows where they came from; when parents leave, there is only the way back in life." After that, these people who have passed away will gradually become older people of their own generation, and eventually reach some of their own peers.
Therefore, on the one hand, individuals at this time will actually feel the decline in their physical fitness, and on the other hand, they will become more sober about "death". They often think in their hearts that many younger people around them are leaving. Now, maybe it will be my turn someday.
Finally, when the age reaches more than seventies, the physical state and mental cognition have reached a relative limit state, and naturally, the attitude towards death is more fearful.
Stereotypes and psychological cues
The second is the so-called “stereotypes”, which refer to the concepts and ideas that are “closed and ignored” by individuals and generalized. These influences are multifaceted, including the influence of some traditional concepts as well as the influence of some group concepts. Taking traditional concepts as an example, China has had many concepts about life and life and death since ancient times. For example, "people may be scarce since ancient times" is one of the more common ones.
This concept was formed in ancient China,At that time, people's average life expectancy was relatively short due to unstable social conditions and relatively low medical and material living standards. Therefore, considering the social stage, it was quite reasonable for people to regard this sentence as a standard at that time.
However, with the huge improvement of social technology and material level, the average life expectancy of people has been different from that of the past. Therefore, it is meaningless to restrain people under the current standard of living with some concepts of the year. NS. ,
Many elderly people will be bound by these stereotypes when they are around 70 years old, repeatedly stressing that they are "older", "healthy", "unavailable" or even "a few days away" Such a negative view. This is actually one of the root causes that affect their thinking.
The level of social development will be reflected in every individual. Today, on the one hand, people’s ordinary material living standards are relatively high, and the medical and health care and pension security systems are very complete. Even if there are some physical diseases, they can be treated well within a certain period of time. Therefore, for the elderly, relaxing and ignoring the negative effects of these stereotypes is a very important way of psychological adjustment.
Social relations and companionship with relatives
Finally, we should also consider the influence of the group and society. No matter how a person "thinks about it," these "negative energies" will not have much impact on him in the end. But people are always in social life, and the people and relationships around them are always inseparable from themselves.
When people reach their seventies, they often have retired for many years. If the children and friends around you don’t pay much attention to themselves at this time, or even don’t get in touch with them, then this feeling will be It is very hurtful. People will always have a lot of feelings about life when they are old. If no one around listens to their own heart, then the old man is very likely to be "tortured" by those negative thoughts or suffer from Alzheimer's disease. (Also known as "Alzheimer's Disease").
Our elders are always indispensable in our lives. When we find ourselves with them, they are always "windy".When you lose your patience, think about how they feel.
People will eventually get old. If they are disgusted with their behavior of pouring out their innermost or even unrealistic thoughts and staying away from them, then this behavior is actually no less than limiting it to one. In this kind of "cage", it accelerates its aging speed and increases its fear of death.
is just like what is said in the animated movie " ", a person will experience three deaths, when everyone forgets it, then it is the real death. So if there are elderly people around, stay with them more.
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Author | Tommy
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Reference: KMR Rosenzweig. Translated by Zhang Houcan . Handbook of international psychology. Shanghai: East China Normal University Press, 2002
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