I am Brother Hui, and I meet you in the emotional world every day. I have a story, do you have wine?
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Guide: Nowadays, some men and women are extremely despicable. They want family harmony and extramarital passion. Men pursue the so-called "the red flag at home will not fall, but the colorful flags are fluttering outside", while women hope to "spend the husband's money and enjoy the tenderness of the lover".
Under the dominance of this kind of thinking, all kinds of extramarital affairs have occurred in the society, which has also led to marital tragedies. Some ended in divorce; some marriages broke down, and although they were together, the two were strangers; some resulted in illegal and criminal cases, which was embarrassing.
38-year-old Ms. Tang recently described her married life to the author. Let’s see what warning her marriage can bring us?
Self-reporter: Ms. Tang, 38 years old, dance teacher
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, Is a dance teacher.I would like to thank my parents for giving me a very good external condition: beautiful appearance,Tall and elegant.
Although I didn't get very good grades when I was a student, my outstanding appearance became the focus of attention of teachers and classmates. When I entered high school, my parents saw that my academic performance was too poor, so I chose the direction of art to develop and applied for an off-campus art training course.
Entering art studies, I feel like a fish in water, and I excel in both dance and performance. After graduating from high school, I was admitted to an undergraduate art university and became a dance teacher after graduating from college.
After work, people come to talk about their relatives. There are corporate bosses, civil servant leaders, and self-employed bosses, but in the end my parents chose Zhang Jing, the son of their friend. The parents think that Zhang Jing is down-to-earth, stable, and has a good personality, and that both families know their roots.
Zhang Jing belongs to the class of academic masters. He graduated from 985 universities with a master's degree. He is two years older than me. He is doing research in scientific research. His life is relatively simple. Apart from experimental research, he stays at home to read and study.
With the endorsements of both parents, Zhang Jing and I fell in love without surprises and entered the wedding hall a year later.
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I thought Zhang Jing was a king, but I didn't think he was just a bronze.
After marriage, I discovered that Zhang Jing had no idea about married life and his emotional intelligence was very low. Apart from going to work, Zhang Jing doesn't know how to do housework or anything, and he doesn't know anything about romance or rhetoric. I live with him and live like drinking boiled water every day.
But he also has an advantage, that is, the salary is very high.Moreover, all his monthly wages are handed in, bonuses are never withheld, and he will not buy anything randomly. I only felt happy when I received the information that his salary and bonus had arrived.
Zhang Jing is usually very busy in scientific research. It is normal to work overtime. Sometimes for a subject, he eats and lives in the laboratory for a month. Of course, if the scientific research is successful, you can get a higher bonus.
Slowly, I also got used to this kind of life. Although it is rare for a husband to be by his side, he is less quarrelsome and more peaceful than others. And if you have money, you can buy and buy online willfully to get psychological satisfaction.
Then we had a daughter. Zhang Jing was afraid that I would be affected, so she hired a nanny to take care of it. Only then did I know that although this man is loyal and honest, and doesn't know how to be romantic, he can still warm people's hearts at critical moments.
More than ten years have passed, and I am still in middle age, thinking that this kind of life will continue forever. Unexpectedly, life made a big joke with me.
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Years of fatigue and intense work have made Zhang Jing's health worse and worse.
He has become more and more powerless in his husband and wife life. I could have one or two in the previous month, but I couldn't be together for a few months later.
Zhang Jing did not pay attention to this, because his main energy is on work and he has no time for other things. But for me at a hungry and thirsty age, I feel very upset and painful in my heart.
So I went to my girlfriend and complained to my girlfriend. My girlfriend was shocked after hearing this,Then I told me that I could find my boyfriend on the dating software. Anyway, Zhang Jing rarely went home and couldn't find it. And even if he finds out, I can also say that it is his responsibility.
After returning from my best friend, my heart was up and down, and my mind was fighting fiercely. In the end, reason defeated the impulse, and felt that it was better to be loyal to marriage. After all, Zhang Jing had been paying for the family.
However, once the mind slips, it will collapse very quickly.
A few days later, I couldn't restrain my inner impulse, followed the guidance of my girlfriends, downloaded the dating software, and then chatted with strangers on the Internet. After two weeks of in-depth chat, an ideal netizen asked me to meet.
He is about my age, a middle-level leader of a large company, divorced and single. Judging from the photos he posted, the image is good, and he promised not to damage my family.
All this made me very excited and decided to meet him.
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A netizen asked me to meet in a restaurant in a high-end hotel. He booked a box and sent me the hotel name and location.
I dressed up and went to the appointment on time. When I got there, I found that he had been waiting for me in the box, and moved a chair for me like a gentleman to let me sit down.
We drank red wine and told jokes to each other, and the atmosphere gradually became harmonious. As we drink more and more red wine, our topic has also become ambiguous.
He said that when he saw my photo, he was moved by me.He thinks I am beautiful and temperamental, and he is the ideal goddess in his mind. I listened to his admiration, and I couldn't extricate myself from being immersed in the illusion.
No surprise, we finished our meal and went to the hotel tacitly. Everyone has the same purpose, and everything seems logical.
After that date, I started to let myself go. When there is a need, use the dating software. When there is no need, you can be a good wife and a good mother at home with peace of mind.
Several times when Zhang Jing came back, he found that I was not at home and did not have any doubts about me, so he went to the study to read. After I came back, he didn't do anything about it.
Although sometimes I see some guilt in his heart, but I just can't control my passion.
I don't know how long this kind of life will last. Maybe I will end this life when I get old.
Concluding remarks: Many people in life will find all kinds of excuses for their betrayal. Whatever life is dull, the husband is not considerate, the needs are not enough, etc., but all these people are just self-defeating. , That's it.
The most important thing in marriage is loyalty. This is also the most basic bottom line of the relationship between the sexes. Both spouses cannot touch it, no matter what the reason is. As long as anyone touches it, it will cause great damage to the marriage and the greatest harm to the other party. It must be morally condemned and blamed by others.
The best husband and wife relationship is to walk through wind and rain, share weal and woe, and embrace each other. We will encounter all kinds of difficulties and challenges in life, and we also need to face all kinds of temptations.Only when a husband and wife are of the same mind can they overcome the difficulties of marriage and ensure that they reach the end of their lives.
Therefore, please cherish your love, cherish marriage, and cherish family, use laws and morals to restrain marriage, and protect your family with your heart.
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About the author: Brother Hui, a middle-aged uncle who has been running, hopes to use his clumsy words to wake up those who are drowsy.
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