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There is a saying in Mencius·Wanzhangshang: "The journey of a saint is different, either far or near, or going or not. It's just a clean one."
When encountering sludge, it is commendable to cleanse oneself.
There is a word called "picking dead". It means that girls are taken advantage of by men because they drink too much.
Once a "corpse-picking" incident occurs, most people condemn men, believing that this is a man's moral corruption and needs to be punished.
But, think about it seriously, why do women get drunk? Before drinking, who was not a pure white man?
Part of the reason is that women don't know how to reject "wine glasses".
In real life, a woman is a relatively disadvantaged group when getting along with anyone, and it has become an inescapable responsibility to protect herself.
and so on. When dealing with people, a woman who doesn't know how to refuse, no matter how good she is, will be hurt by others. The better you are, the more people around you.
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Reject extraneous feelings.
Contemporary writer Bo Yang once said: "Women are humans just like men, and they are also independent people. Women have the right to reject the chauvinism of men, the right to be a man's accessory, and the right to be a man. The right to yell five and six, and the right to initiate a divorce.
In these years, anyone who leaves can live well. Women are so soft-hearted that they are not willing to let go when they meet a scumbag. The last person who hurts is herself.
and some others Women, when love comes, they don’t know how to choose, but they lose the best fate and fulfill the worst. "There was a period of time, deposited in the depths of memory, and it will last forever. There is a city, I have been here, but I will never stay away again, hulanhe, that is the hope and longing of my life.
How can a woman not have longing for it? Why not yearn for a warm city? However, she was hurt again and again by love.
The fate of her parents cannot be violated. In 1925, the 14-year-old Xiao Hong was made by her father. Be the master and betrothed to Wang Enjia. She confessed her fate and knit a sweater for him. When his father died, she went to pay tribute to him.
17-year-old Xiao Hong met Lu Zhenshun, a married distant relative.
Love made Xiao Hong suffer, and even her own child could only be carried away by others.
is also a female writer in the Republic of China, Bai Wei, because she fell in love with Yang Sao, a sad man, and was unmarried for life.
Yang Sao just Treating her residence as a hotel, come and leave as you want, leaving no trace of warmth and care at all.
Love tutor Tu Lei said: "As a woman, you can talk down-to-earth. When you fall in love and get married, you are either arrogantly single, and don't use your beautiful youth to train other people's future husbands, and be so serious. "
doesn’t know how to reject extra love,Then love becomes a prison, firmly controlling your life.
In the tug-of-war of love, it must be a woman who gets more injured. I lost my youth, money and health.
Women need love, but cannot rely on love. No matter how much he loves you, you must be independent. When love fails, you must act decisively. Long-term pain is worse than short-term pain.
Your excellence needs to be reserved for yourself, not for those who hurt you in the name of love.
Marriage is the second life of a woman, right or wrong, always learn to be "free and easy."
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Reject the villain around him.
has such a sentence: "It is hard to guard against day and night, but it is hard for a girlfriend to guard against it."
In the circle of friends, I read such a story. A woman lent money to her best friend, who later went missing after playing. After finally finding someone, my best friend just doesn't pay the money, and looks like a dead pig is not afraid of boiling water.
There are many things about borrowing money and not repaying it.
Once, Yang Mi talked with his best friend Zhang Dada about his "view on borrowing money" in a variety show. Yang Mi said: "I usually don't borrow."
Anyone whose money is hard-earned money, even big stars, the money is earned, not the wind. Before I became famous, only I knew how much suffering I had experienced.
No matter who it is, borrow money to see character and principle.
In addition to rejecting those who borrowed money and not repaying it, but also rejecting those who are not grateful,Make the person who hurts you harder, the person who is taking it for granted.
For example, in the unit, a colleague throws work at you and asks you to work overtime. You are honest and capable, but you can't replace everyone and do all the work.
You must clearly distinguish between internal and external matters, even if you offend others, you must protect your own interests.
In life, there are also those "helping brothers" and so on. Through blood relationship, women are regarded as cash cows again and again. As for women, they work hard, but they are too poor. Even if they marry away, they can't get rid of the end of being hurt.
For the villain, no matter who he is, please kick out of your life.
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Rejects face between people.
Relatively speaking, women are more likely to blush, because women have thin faces.
If you see a poor person, a woman is more likely to have "compassion" and take the initiative to help others. Because of this, women are more likely to be deceived.
For example, relatives who do business in a certain place often worry because of bad business. The woman was obliged to help him, bought some unnecessary things, and emptied her wallet.
When spending money, women love face and always like to buy expensive clothes and pants.
It’s not wrong to dress yourself more beautifully, but why do women want to be beautiful? As the saying goes: "Daughter is pleased with herself." Only in front of the person who loves you, it is useful to dress beautifully.
Women, don't have to please everyone.
The thin-skinned woman is not the reason for being bullied, but the characteristic of kindness. But women should remember that your kindness is very expensive, and don't waste it on useless "face."
Put the bottom, make good money, save money hard, and work hard to be yourself, which is the right way.
Sanmao said: “Don’t be afraid to reject others if your reasons are justified. When a person asks, he has two answers in his heart. So, give him either one of them. The answers are all expected."
Women like feelings. This is a weakness.
No matter how much you love someone or how poor people you meet, please curb your generosity and learn to be rational.
May you, learn to refuse, and be a "thinking" person.
Author: Commoner Coarse Food.
The picture in the article comes from the Internet.
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