Today, I turned over an old account and talked about buying a car in our family. My driver's license was obtained in 2011, and my husband's driver's license was obtained on February 24, 2016. Then I On the fourth day when my husband got his driver’s license, on February 28th, he happily asked a friend to buy a car, but what he told me was not to buy a car, what he said was just to take a look Just get to know him. I easily believed him. I didn’t think I was suitable for buying a car at the time. But it’s okay to know in advance and do homework. I also remind him to go to the online science popularization first to buy a car and he should pay attention to it. In those aspects, how do you look at the engine, parameter configuration, fuel consumption, and so on. We are all newbies, and we don’t know anything about cars. As for myself, I have learned a driver’s license for more than 5 years. After that, I have never touched a car at all. I think buying a car is out of reach, at least I didn’t buy a car at the time. Of ideas.
The place where we lived at that time didn’t even use a car. The place where I went to work was just across the road from the community, and the place where my husband went to work was only a 5-minute walk. In those years, we advocated physical exercise, which can be reached on foot. We insisted not to take a car, let alone a car. We even participated in a 21-kilometer half marathon. The economic situation at that time did not allow us to buy a car. We just got married last year. It’s almost a naked marriage. The house is rented and there is no savings. I didn’t want to buy a car at all, but my husband just got his driver’s license. The sense of excitement and eagerness to own is far beyond my estimation. I agree. Going to see a car thinks that buying a car can be regarded as a small goal to strive for. When the economy permits and conditions are ripe one day, we can consider this small goal; my husband, it’s the kind that I think once I have an idea, think The mentality of getting something right away without considering the actual economic situation is also one of the reasons why we often quarrel and quarrel in the later period.
Let me talk about the scene where my husband went to buy a car 4 days after getting his driver’s license.At that time, I lied to me just to find out. I understood that he had the urge to get his driver's license. I wanted to accompany him to see and understand. After I came back, I would be more motivated to earn money. A friend drove us to the 4S shop, that There are cars of various brands in the market. We have been looking for parking spaces since we entered. After two turns, we only found a parking space at the door of Chevrolet. As soon as we got off the car, a lot of sales were enthusiastic. The ground came around, feeling a little flattered and affectionate, so I went into the Chevrolet store,
We actually went for the first time, and we haven’t started doing homework yet. We have no goals at all. , I haven’t understood any brand carefully. My original intention was to just stroll around. But my husband went in and got glue on his butt and couldn’t move his position. I was fooled by the sales at the time and asked for a deposit on the spot. I live and die. I couldn't pull it out. Before I went in, I remembered that he said he was going to see , Volkswagen Sagitar, Ford, Harvard and other models. Why did I find a parking space and get stuck in Chevrolet?
My husband is busy discussing prices with the sales, and my friend is hungry to accompany us to see the car. I told him to go out to eat and relax, and then go to other places to compare prices. Even if you really want to buy, you should do some homework. Let’s say it better than three, I don’t agree with the practice of paying for nothing. I can’t call him how to call it. The sales are all fanning the flames. I definitely don’t want to miss any source of customers and go with us. A friend is also a crumbly shopping person. I said that we still don’t understand the car, and we have to go back to do our homework. He said that the car actually has nothing to do with homework. That’s it. With my best prevention, my husband I still prefer to listen to sales training. I was too anxious, so I had to rush to buy car information temporarily by myself. I told my husband that you must talk about the naked car price when buying a car, but my husband has been listening to sales talking about cars. Replacement of accessories, such as the replacement of the seat cover, the replacement of the center console,The car lights were replaced by something, and a few foot pads and trunk mats were presented later. I have found the price of the same vehicle that other people bought half a year ago, which is about 10,000 yuan less than the price we talked about at the time. And it was still in the case of a sharp purchase, that is to say, under the policy of reducing the purchase tax, my husband actually paid about 10,000 more than others for more than half a year later. A low-end version of the car.
In the case that I gave him a data comparison, and I tried my best to prevent it, my husband said that women don’t understand cars, what I said is wrong, and what the salesperson said is professional Yes, I was stunned by him. He couldn't listen to any of my suggestions. It was useless for me to be anxious. He just sat there and didn't leave. I also contacted a high school friend of mine at the time. , My friend has sold cars for several years. He is relatively familiar with cars. My classmate told me that you should go to the market for a few days. When you see the car you like, I will make an appointment with you to bargain! I think this method is ok, we can take a look first, and then arrange a time to invite my classmates over to help us bargain.
Helpless, the man is stubborn and rigid, and ten cows can’t be pulled back. I didn’t expect to find such a stubborn, stubborn and rigid man, let alone in the next few years, we will continue to do this in similar aspects. I don’t do enough homework or discuss with me when I buy things. I usually cut it first and then play it later, but that’s what I realized later. It’s a bit too late. We quarreled a lot for this. I He felt that he didn't discuss things because he didn't respect me enough. He felt that he was not wrong, so he just bought something, it was all trivial things.
When he bought a car, he paid the deposit himself, and it was even more exotic when the subsequent payment was made. We didn’t even understand the loan process, the bank was not prepared for the flow of money, lacked the documents and materials, for this, he said on impulse. He bought the car with the full price, he put in the money himself, and I didn’t care about it. We didn’t have that much money in our hands, so he started calling his high school friends, yes,You heard it right. He called and borrowed money on the spot at the payment office of the car. It was considered that the friend was loyal and trusted us. He transferred tens of thousands of money on the spot. At this point, the man’s vanity has been greatly satisfied, and the car has I bought it in full; I got the face, and at any rate I have a car owner; my buddy is also very helpful and loyal to help us. Most of the car belongs to the friend who lent us the money. Once again, I feel very special. His trust; my husband likes to buy things first and then play it later, so the "Liangzi" who doesn't discuss with me has ended.
In the hearts of many men, a car is a face. The better the car, the more face you drive out. The higher the price of the car, it seems that the higher the price, the more realistic society is today ? Many people think that if your external appearance cannot attract others in the first time, or even you have no chance to let others understand your internal beauty, then material things are the best foil! I have seen a joke on the Internet, saying that a man is not scumbag, and it depends on whether he buys a house or a car first. If a scumbag has money, he buys a car first. , Family warmth is most suitable!
Personally, if I changed to my original intention, I would not buy a car at the time, because it was really unnecessary at the time, and I didn’t want to use external substances to show off my wealth. This world There are more wealthy people than us, and we are still struggling with food and clothing; if the economic strength can match the material desires, I think that the car is moderate, and transportation is it. Don’t try your best to buy a luxury product that exceeds your financial strength in order to satisfy your vanity and show your worth. Of course, if you have enough money, it’s a different story.
In the matter of buying a car, in fact, it can be seen that I am the one who has no right to speak in our house. I am the one who is relatively restrained and tolerant, in line with the idea of justice.I think two people can make a decision when buying things. They need to know and do their homework in advance. But my husband is probably the kind of child who was spoiled by his parents since he was a child. When he might want something, no matter the financial situation. , No matter what method is used, crying and rolling on the floor, it is the one I must get anyway. As for me, I push forward passively without knowing it, even if I disagree at first, I am finally forced to agree. It has contributed to the occurrence of this incident. Later, there are too many cases of quarrels about buying and buying without doing homework in advance or discussing with me. From buying bicycles, changing mountain bikes, to buying electric bikes, buying Cars, changing phones, buying iPads, changing computers, I still don’t discuss with me when it comes to choosing a house. The incidents of arbitrary decision-making continue to escalate and increase. Up to now, I think of it as a feeling of regret!
If you take the time to understand in advance and do enough homework, one person can do things properly, so OK, I can shut up and not be fussy or interfere, but this kind of spent a lot of money and bought things Dissatisfied, but also burdened with huge financial bills, and caused unpleasant relationships between husband and wife. It is really annoying. Why do you decide? You are alone, and the bills and financial losses must be two people together. Also, I'm not satisfied with what I bought, and if there is a problem, I need to help with the aftermath and wipe my ass? If you talk about small things, you don’t care about it, but for slightly larger things such as houses and cars, mortgage and car loans have to be repaid for many years. It is not like other small pots and pans, and you can throw it away if you don’t like it, or You can easily change to a new one at will. Many people are not rich second-generation nor second-generation officials. They work hard for many years to save a down payment. After many years, they will have to fight for bank loans. , Others think you are showing off, but you don’t live so comfortably.
There is an old folk saying: One person advocates, it is better to discuss with two people! A really good relationship is never an arbitrariness of one party, but a negotiation when something happens! If the husband and wife live together, if they can’t discuss together, they will actually quarrel and complain about each other.So even if the decision is not so perfect, two people can share joys and sorrows with less disputes.
All say that the best family style in a family is: discuss big things, forgive small things, don’t argue about right or wrong, don’t turn over old accounts, two people live, if there is no way to achieve a balance, then it is bound to quarrel, in life After all, the big winds and waves are in the minority, and the warmth that melts in the oil, rice, oil and salt is the most moving.
I understand that turning over old accounts is not just leaving them unprocessed. Those "old accounts" that are constantly being raised are just because they have never been properly handled and solved, and they have become more and more recurring in daily life. If the old accounts can be properly handled Solved, then no one would like to be a "Xianglin Wife" all the time.
Ladies and gentlemen, if you want to have a more comfortable life at home, let's discuss more about it! The decision made by two people after a collision of ideas is definitely better than a person's dictatorship.
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