all say that children and their parents are related. It is said that when children choose their parents in the sky, they usually choose their favorite person to be their parent. But children like mom and dad, but parents also like their children. NS? I don’t think so, because some people are born with a patriarchal mindset. If they are born as a daughter, they will not care about the child’s feelings if they don’t like it. I will either discard the child or give it away. I personally think If you don’t love, you don’t have to give birth, so you and your children will suffer less, right?
Fifteen years ago, Chen Ling (a pseudonym) gave birth to a daughter again. Because she had already given birth to a daughter before, both parents were very unhappy because both parents wanted her to have another child. It would be best Is a child. But if they keep their second daughter, it means a superbirth. After thinking about it, the family decided to give away their second daughter, who was only more than 90 days old.
It happened that Zhang Jianhong (a pseudonym) and his wife had no children, so Chen Ling and his wife gave their second daughter to Zhang Jianhong and his wife. Within two years, Chen Ling became pregnant and gave birth to a son (Chen Yang). Chen Ling and his wife were very happy after their wish. They felt that their sons and daughters were very happy, and they had already forgotten their second daughter. Second clean.
When Chen Yang was four years old, because of physical discomfort, Chen Ling and his wife were taken to the hospital for examination. Finally, he was found to have thrombocytopenia. Chen Yang’s physical fitness was very poor. He was often ill, and a little bump or bump would kill him. Therefore, Chen Yang never dared to attend gym class after school, and the family lived in fear for ten years.
At the age of fourteen this year, Chen Yang's condition suddenly worsened, and his nose often bleeds, because Chen Yang's body does not have blood coagulation function . Normal people have about hundreds of thousands of platelets, while Chen Yang only has a few thousand. The unit, so every time he had a nosebleed, his parents had to send him to the hospital for the doctor to help stop the bleeding and blood transfusion. Later, it was found that Chen Yang’s disease had a soluble disease.In the early stage of leukemia, the doctor told Chen Ling and his wife that Chen Yang could only be cured by a bone marrow transplant, but the whole family did the matching, but none of them were worthy, and the matching failed in the end.
Just when her family was at a loss, Chen Ling suddenly remembered that they gave Zhang Jianhong's second daughter 15 years ago. Chen Ling wanted to ask Zhang Jianhong for help, and let his adopted daughter Zhang Lina (a pseudonym) do it for her son. If the bone marrow matching is successful, let Zhang Lina donate bone marrow to Chen Yang, but her statement was rejected by her husband. The husband said that the child had been given away, and the two families had not been in contact for so many years, and they had not cared about the child. The husband did not want to disturb and trouble Zhang Jianhong's family.
But Chen Ling did not think that she felt that for her beloved baby son, she had to go to Zhang Jianhong's family cheeky anyway, and then Chen Ling went to Huai'an Shajiabang to find Zhang Jianhong's family. . Seeing Chen Ling’s arrival, Zhang Jianhong was shocked. She thought Chen Ling was here to grab his daughter. He was a little angry because he and his wife had divorced seven years ago because they were not in love with him, and for so many years. He and his daughter depended on each other, so he naturally didn't want Chen Ling to disturb the peaceful life of their father and daughter.
When Chen Hong told him in tears that he was not here to grab his daughter, but wanted him to save his child, Zhang Jianhong's uneasy heart was calm. When he came down, he immediately agreed to Chen Ling's request for help, and promised Chen Ling to do her daughter's ideological work, but only if she could not let her daughter know her life experience, Chen Ling fully agreed.
Zhang Jianhong said that he was willing to help Chen Ling because he and his ex-wife had three daughters more than ten years ago, but all three daughters died of illness. He can understand Chen Ling’s heart The pain, I can feel the pain of losing his son, so he promised to help Chen Ling. He casually gave out 10,000 yuan to Chen Ling to see a doctor for her son, but Chen Ling refused.
Then he told his daughter,I saw a message for help on the Internet, that is, a little boy in Huai'an urgently needed a bone marrow transplant to survive. When he asked his daughter if he would save the poor brother, Zhang Lina immediately agreed, and then went to the hospital to do it. The matching was completed, and the results showed that the matching was successful.
However, he thought about it afterwards and felt that his daughter was too young, and he wondered if the bone marrow donation would affect his body. When Chen Ling went to see Zhang Jianhong again, he immediately refused. He claimed that if Chen Ling insisted that his daughter donate bone marrow to her son, he had to give him a large sum of money before he agreed. When Chen Ling asked him how much money he needed, Zhang Jianhong said without hesitation, at least five It's 100,000 yuan, and one cent can't be less, otherwise Chen Ling will be stunned.
Then Chen Ling threatened to fight Zhang Jianhong and want Zhang Lina to go back. Chen Ling’s move made Zhang Jianhong very angry, and then he said that he refused to help Chen Ling, even if Chen Ling now uses a train card. He didn’t want to give him all 100 yuan in denomination of the car, and he would not let his daughter Zhang Lina donate bone marrow to save Chen Yang. In order to frighten Chen Ling, Zhang Jianhong deliberately drove 500,000 yuan. The purpose of compensation is to let Chen Ling retreat in the face of difficulties and stop pestering them with their father and daughter.
Chen Ling is in a hurry. She wants to get her salary from the bottom. She took her eldest daughter directly to Zhang Lina’s school gate to pick up people. Seeing Zhang Lina, she immediately went forward to pull Zhang Lina into the car, Zhang Lina quickly got off the car, but Chen But Ling was reluctant, pulling Zhang Lina desperately, and finally everyone called the police. In the police station, Zhang Lina was trembling with fright. After the school teacher called Zhang Jianhong, he rushed to him in a hurry. In the police station, Zhang Lina was trembling while sitting on his lap. Zhang Jianhong was heartbroken to see this.
Suddenly she was shocked by this, and after she suddenly learned that she was not the biological daughter of her father Zhang Jianhong, Zhang Lina stayed in a trance at home for many days before regaining her consciousness before returning to school. But Chen Ling did not intend to let them go.Chen Ling went to Zhang Jianhong to negotiate the donation of bone marrow again and again. Finally, Zhang Jianhong agreed to Chen Ling's request. He promised to do his daughter's ideological work again. Finally, seeing Chen Yang pitiful, Zhang Jianhong and Zhang Lina had to compromise.
Then I went to the hospital for a pre-transplantation check, but there is still half a year before Zhang Lina's high school entrance examination. In addition, Zhang Jianhong rented a pond for several decades to raise shrimps. That period of time was just a good time to cultivate shrimp seedlings. So Zhang Jianhong and Chen Ling discussed whether the transplant operation could be delayed for a while, or the transplant operation in Hangzhou, because she did not want to delay her daughter’s study, and the thing in his pond, because he invested a lot of money, and he Both his daughter and her depended on the shrimps he raised for a living, but Chen Ling ignored them.
She said that the cost of transplantation in Hangzhou is too high, and that her daughter Zhang Lina’s high school entrance examination and the shrimp in Zhang Jianhong’s pond have nothing to do with them. The high school entrance examination can be offered every year, but she only has such a precious son, she You can't just watch Chen Yang's condition worsening day by day, so Zhang Lina will cooperate with them in this transplant operation anyway, and she will never give in.
After listening to Chen Ling’s words, Zhang Jianhong was very angry. Then he was particularly angry that Chen Ling actually posted big-character posters in the small streets and alleys in order to force them to make concessions. They kidnapped them with morality. Chen Ling listed in the big-character poster that Zhang Jianhong and his daughter were wrong, saying that they were ungrateful and could not save themselves at the sight of death. She also said that Zhang Jianhong saw the money open, and offered a high price to her before agreeing to let Zhang Lina cooperate in doing bone marrow transplantation. Wait a moment, the neighbors in the surrounding area immediately discussed, pushing Zhang Jianhong and his daughter to the cusp of the storm.
Zhang Jianhong asked Zhang Lina privately if she would donate bone marrow to her brother Chen Yang. If she wanted Zhang Jianhong, she would cooperate with her daughter for the transplant. If she didn’t want to, he didn’t need to say anything from his daughter. He came forward to talk to Chen Ling. communication. Zhang Lina refused without even thinking about it. She said, "Dad, I don't want to donate. We can sue her because she disturbed our normal life." Zhang Jianhong felt relieved after hearing her daughter's words, because the biological mother came. Looking for a daughter, but the daughter's heart is still in his own home, he is relieved.
Soon after, Chen Ling went to Zhang Jianhong’s house again to negotiate with Zhang Lina about donating bone marrow. Zhang Jianhong bluntly stated that Chen Ling was an ungrateful person. The two of them were "the story of the farmer and the snake". In the end, Chen Ling did so many crazy things. Now the daughter herself is unwilling to donate bone marrow to save Chen Yang. Everything is given by Chen Ling, and she can't blame anyone.
Chen Ling saw Zhang Jianhong's unwillingness to compromise, and then quarreled with Zhang Jianhong. An old man in the village couldn't see it. He told Chen Ling, "Your daughter is very young. You abandoned her when your son was sick. Now you think of this daughter when your son is sick. In order to save your son, you don’t hesitate to sacrifice your daughter’s future and the benefactor who raised your daughter for you. You really have no conscience and don’t understand. People who are grateful."
"You have to make your daughter willing to donate bone marrow. How can you be so compelling? You should not kidnap them with morals, after all, they are right, and they have no obligation. I must help you. The same is your child. How can you be so partial? You abandoned her, why are you embarrassed to come to her for help?"
After listening to the old man's words, Chen Ling left unwillingly At this time, she also wanted to understand, she decided not to force Zhang Lina to donate bone marrow to save her son. Then they registered at the China Bone Marrow Bank and waited for suitable bone marrow. Soon after, there was good news from the China Bone Marrow Bank that there were two blood samples that might be suitable for Chen Yang, but they can only be confirmed after the test results come out. But anyway, Chen Yang There is a glimmer of hope. Chen Ling should reflect on her various behaviors and bring so much harm to her daughter. This is not something a mother should do, because both sons and daughters are their own children.
PS Xiaoguai said: saves the son and understands,But it also depends on the situation at the time. Is the son's life important, but the daughter's future is not important? What's more, the daughter is still someone she abandoned since she was a child. Don't Chen Ling and his wife feel guilty about Zhang Lina at all? Really speechless.
In real life, I don’t know how many girls have been hurt by patriarchal thinking. In fact, boys and girls are their own children. Besides, if you have to give birth to a boy, does your family have the throne to inherit, or Is there an endless amount of gold and silver mountains for children to inherit? The birth of boys and girls is not something that anyone can guarantee. If every parent gives away or abandons their daughter during their lifetime, then the world will really be ruined.
In fact, many women are no worse than men. Many men can do jobs that we women can do. Why do many people still discriminate against us women? Like those grandma or grandma, I don’t understand why I am also a woman. Why do some women look down on women so much? What is their conscience if they have to give away their newly born daughters or throw them away? Doesn't it hurt? And those mothers who abandoned their daughters, wouldn't they regret it? Don't they feel guilty? The child is his own, why should he listen to the opinions of others and abandon his own daughter?
No wonder many women are unwilling to get married, and many are willing to be unmarriageists. I think in addition to their own reasons, there are more external factors, such as patriarchal thinking. , There are other factors.
The Chen Ling in the article is selfish, even I think she is not a qualified and competent mother, and she is also a very selfish mother. It is understandable that her son is sick and worried, but she sacrifices her daughter’s future as the premise To save my son, I think she will hate her when her son Chen Yang and daughter Zhang Lina grow up.
God is fair. There is a saying that people are watching the sky. Maybe Chen Yang's serious illness is also a punishment for Chen Ling and his wife’s abandonment. I hope that through this matter Chen Ling and his wife reflect on their behavior carefully,Then they can make up for their daughter Zhang Lina, because they hurt the innocent Zhang Lina more than once, and also hope that Chen Yang can get a bone marrow transplant and recover soon!
text/Huang Xiaoguai
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