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For couples, the most painful thing must be that they have to live apart because of various factors and the two cannot live together every day If you gather less and divorce more, the longing for the other party has become the most tormenting thing.
Compared with the delicate emotions of women, many men are easy to think that even if they leave their wives, they will not miss too much, but is this really the case?
My friend Zhang Lei and his wife Xu Ying were at the same table when they were in high school, and they became lovers after they arrived at university. The love between the two makes the friends around me very envious.
After graduating, both of them chose to return to their hometown. After all, they can have a caregiver by their parents. But the day failed. Soon after the marriage, Zhang Lei’s mother fell ill and urgently needed a lot of money. Zhang Lei had to agree to the company’s decision to send him abroad for a long time, just to make more money for him. Mother treats illness.
So, the couple began a married life separated from each other. This is undoubtedly a test and torture for the two people who have not been separated for many years.
Xu Ying is a very attentive woman. When Zhang Lei is at home, she will take care of all the major and minor affairs at home, even if she changes clothes every morning, she will prepare Zhang Lei in advance.
Now that Zhang Lei lives alone in the dormitory arranged by the unit, he is very unaccustomed to life. It is also this time that he realizes how well he was taken care of by his wife.
is not used to eating,Zhang Lei had stomach problems, so Xu Ying paid special attention to his diet, but working outside, she often couldn't take care of a regular diet, let alone eat more foods that can nourish her stomach.
The huge gap made Zhang Lei miss his wife more and more, but the reality of life prevented him from being reunited with his wife in a short time.
Fortunately, after adjustments and psychological hints, Zhang Lei quickly adapted to his life alone, because he is a smart man who knows what to do if he misses his wife when the husband and wife separate.
Divert attention
For couples, especially newly married couples, it is the time when it is like a glue, if for some reason, it is the most difficult to overcome. It's not the change in the living environment, but the emotional feeling of longing for the lover.
If men let this kind of longing control their emotions, it will inevitably affect work and other aspects, and on the contrary, they will not do anything well.
all say that men have aspirations in all directions. Men's destination is not only in a small home, but also needs to realize their ideals and ambitions in society, so that they can live more worthy and existentially.
So smart men do miss the wife who is separated from them, but they also adjust their emotions, such as diverting their attention, so that they will not continue to fall into the thoughts of their wives and fail to come out.
If a man allows his emotions to control himself, it also means that he will not have too high achievements in other areas, because a man who is truly self-disciplined and strong in heart will not be easily influenced by his emotions.
Men can choose to make new friends and colleagues,Use the rest time to learn more about the local customs, or rationally arrange your working time and rest time, fitness, reading, etc., to enrich your own life.
Use a suitable way to resolve the feelings of missing Love, after all, if the husband and wife no longer miss each other, then the fate between the husband and wife is about to end.
Therefore, you are not afraid of missing you. As long as you choose the right way to resolve the missing, the relationship will heat up because of the missing, and the relationship between husband and wife will become more and more stable.
For example, two people can make phone calls and videos when they are not busy at night, and talk about recent events, whether they are funny or sad. Having the opportunity to talk can make the other party more at ease , Don’t worry too much about your own life.
The most important thing is that because you understand what happens to each other when you are away from each other, it will not increase the sense of distance and strangeness between husband and wife due to separation, which is conducive to the cultivation of the relationship between husband and wife.
Two people can also agree on some small secrets, such as wanting the other party too much but can’t call or the specific name and "secret number" in the video. Once the other party receives it, they know the other party at this moment. I was thinking of myself, and I naturally felt very sweet and happy in my heart.
The only unwise way is for some men to turn this kind of missing feelings into negative emotions and all vent them to their lovers. They clearly miss her, but in the end what makes her feel the chill of being hurt.
my cousin and my brother-in-law began to live apart after five years of marriage.At the beginning, the two people were like glue and paint, and it was hard to separate. The time to get together was very short each time, and it was painful when they were separated.
Actually my brother-in-law loves my cousin deeply. Everyone sees this. My cousin has always been a very independent person. Even if the husband and wife are separated, she takes good care of the children and the elderly, but this is not true. It doesn't mean that she doesn't miss her husband.
However, in the eyes of the cousin, he left, and his wife is still living well by herself, and the chat time is always not long, so he has doubts in his heart, and he starts to treat his cousin. He lost his temper, and even a few times when his cousin was working overtime, he even chased her on the phone and asked if she was with another man.
The biggest fear of a husband and wife living apart from each other is that they lose trust in each other. They are not around, and it is easy to have negative guesses in their hearts. If they doubt each other rashly, they cannot explain in time, and the relationship between the husband and wife will be Affected, the marriage will become precarious over time.
Just like cousin and cousin-in-law, two people obviously love each other deeply and are thinking about each other in their hearts, but because of the wrong way of expression, they cause harm to each other and themselves.
So, don’t let the wrong way to hurt your favorite person. Originally you were not by her side, she would have to face a lot of things alone, and she felt hesitated and helpless. Knowing that if it becomes the bearer of your negative emotions again, then she will naturally no longer long for you to be by her side.
Marriage is not easy, whether it is a couple staying together or not together, in a long-term marriage, there must be two people working together for each other's efforts, so keeping two hearts together is the most important thing .
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