Some old people go to the city to bring their grandchildren, and then never go back to the country again. It turns out that there are these reasons

My wife was pregnant 8 years ago, had a severe pregnancy reaction, had no appetite for everything, tasteless, and nausea and vomiting at every turn, which would seriously affect our lives. My wife and I were worried about our stomachs. If your baby is healthy, the doctor said that it was a normal pregnancy reaction to the hospital. It is recommended to take more rest and take care of the relatives.

So I discussed with my wife at night, and first I suggested that my mother-in-law come over to take care of it, because they get along with their mother and daughter, and there will be no problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world. But this plan was immediately rejected by his wife, who said that her parents had no time to help her brother in the shop.

In addition, her father has been in poor health in recent years and needs her mother to take care of him. It is impossible for her parents to be separated. If they want to come, they have to come together, but our house is only 75 square meters, so there are not so many people in our house.

Father and mother-in-law can’t come. Another solution is to let my mother come over . My dad was gone when I was very young. My mother was alone in my hometown. Actually, I wanted to take her over and live with her. But my mother never agreed, saying that she was acquainted in her hometown in the country, and she was used to living, and she was worried that she would not get along with her daughter-in-law, which would cause me trouble.

My wife’s reaction became stronger and stronger, but I bit the bullet and called my mother. I thought my mother was still waiting for those words, but after listening to me this time, my mother did not refuse and said to In two days, she cleaned up the house a bit, then came to the city to take care of my wife, saying that nothing was as important as her grandson.

Two days later it happened to be a rest day. Before my wife and I got up, heard someone ring the doorbell . I was wondering how someone would look for it at this time, but opening the door gave me a big surprise, it turned out to be me Mom came from the country with a big bag on her back and a small bag in her hand.

When I go to work, my heart will touch my throat, for fear of what will happen to my wife at home.Now that my mother is here, I can rest assured.

My mother took good care of my wife. She stayed with her all day, walked with her hands, cut fruits for her to eat, and thought of ways to make soup to help her strengthen her body.

It may be my mother's heart that touched my wife, let alone the problem of mother-in-law in someone else's house, it doesn't happen at my home. This makes me suspect that "the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies".

Time flies so fast, in the blink of an eye, my son is born, full moon, hundred days, one-year old, and kindergarten, and he is ready to go to elementary school right away. My mother watched her grandson grow up day by day, don’t even think about it. How beautiful, it's not too tiring to do housework every day.

This day my wife and I, and my mother took my son to the school to consult about school. After returning home, my wife suddenly said to my mother: Mom now the baby is going to school. This way you don't have to be so tired, and you can go back to your hometown and enjoy the good fortune with your relatives.

It seems that my mother didn't hear his wife talking.

After my mom went out, my wife started nagging me. Look at your mom, didn’t I think about her? Thinking that she is not used to living in the city, she has endured it in order to bring her grandson over the past few years. Now that the child is older, she doesn't need to be wronged anymore. Why did she really not hear what I said kindly?

At night, I pulled my mother to the room alone and said to my mother: Didn’t we talk about it before? You came to take your grandson. Now that your grandson is older, you can be free. If you want to go back to your hometown, I can send you back. In the future, when you get old and your hands and feet are weak, I will take you over again and wait for you to take care of your care.

At this time, my mother spoke. Let me tell you the truth. I listened to what your wife said during the day. I thought a lot during the grocery shopping, and I decided not to go back to my hometown.

My mother went on to say: How much hardship did I have with my grandson in the past 8 years,You all watched, now things are better, I didn’t think about going back to my hometown, but whenever I mentioned this, my grandson cried and disagreed, and took my hand at night and refused to let it go. , For fear that I will leave while he is asleep. Do you think I can go now?

And when I first came, I was not used to it. Now my neighbors are all familiar with it. Your mother has handled these relationships well. Life is going well, then I will come back. In the countryside, when you get old, you have to adapt to the new environment. Besides, if your dad is still alive, I will go back to the countryside alone, facing the roof leaking rain and the wall ventilation below, You make me a lonely old man How to live .

At this time, I called my wife in. My mother made a request: If I can go back to my hometown, you must first help me repair the house in the country.

After listening to my mother's words, we lowered our heads in shame, especially my wife. After I had a good talk with her, we never mentioned asking my mother to go back to my hometown. Instead, we treated my mother. It's much better than before.

Editor's note:

Now the pace of life in the city is significantly faster. After young people have children, if there is no help from the elderly, no one will take them after work. Therefore, after having a child, if the conditions are good, they will hire a nanny, but after all, the good conditions are a minority, and the general conditions still account for the majority. They can only "gnaw the old".

If the parents’ conditions are better, they will choose a house with a "bowl of soup" distance when preparing their children’s marriage room. This makes it much easier to take care of their grandchildren. However, some elderly people are originally from the countryside, so they just need to take care of their children. Go to town.

In fact, for the old people who are used to living in the countryside, they are not willing to come to live in the city at first, but in order to help their children, they have to bring their grandchildren, so they can't take care of so many discomforts.

The old people who came to the city to bring their grandsons expect their grandsons to grow up faster than anyone expects. When their grandsons go to school, it is usually the day when they regain their freedom. The elderly can return to their familiar home life.

But each family has its own situation, and each person has their own ideas. Not all elderly people return to their hometowns after they bring their grandchildren. Indeed, some elderly people have their own grandchildren for this and other reasons. , No longer willing to go back to his hometown.

Old people who are reluctant to return to their hometown, because of these three reasons:

First: grandparents are dependent on each other, especially because people are small animals. The child is very dependent on the person who brought him up, not to mention the grandfather-grandchild relationship, that is, the nanny brought up the child. The old man and the child will have strong feelings when they get along for a long time. This feeling is sometimes stronger than the relationship between the parent and the child.