There are three hardships in life: the hardship of working hard, the hardship of getting along with a partner, and the hardship of unfilial children.
If you survive these three hardships, your life will win.
Hard work hard.
No one can succeed casually, and it takes many twists and turns.
In a certain period of time, many people not only have no major success in their careers, but sometimes they may not even be able to solve their own food and clothing.
There is a singer with a shaggy beard, long hair and a sloppy suit. As a result, he appeared on a show. As soon as he spoke, the singing voice surprised the judges.
It turned out that he came out to find his dream of a singer privately, but the road expenses were over, he failed to become famous, and life became a problem, so he slept on the street and lived by scavenging waste.
Many celebrities have experienced many setbacks before becoming famous.
For example, Zhou Xingchi and Zhao Liying have been running for many years before becoming famous.
Zhao Liying
Someone ridiculed Zhou Xingchi: This trick is coming again.
Stephen Chow
Stephen Chow comforted himself: Actually, I am an actor.
Before starting Alibaba , Jack Ma also founded Haibo Translation Agency and China Yellow Pages.
Ma Yun
When he founded Haibo Translation Agency, he borrowed tens of thousands of yuan from the bank, but the turnover in the first month was only a few hundred yuan, and his friends came to them .
In order to keep the translation agency alive, he vacated one of the two rooms rented by the translation agency, and then went to Yiwu to buy some flowers and other gifts to sell.
However, he finally survived.
Later, Haibo Translation Agency survived, and it is now the largest translation agency in Hangzhou, even though Jack Ma has left.
Those of them who have done great things have almost had a rough time.
For example, Ma Huateng was unable to raise funds, and his "penguin" appetite was getting bigger and bigger, so he had the idea of selling QQ.
Ma Huateng
However, he finally survived and became the Tencent Empire today.
Celebrities are like this, and ordinary people have experienced a lot of unknown bitterness.
The past two years have been good. With the country’s vigorous development, as long as you are willing to contribute, most people can find a job.
In the first few years of reform and opening up, many rural people went to coastal cities to work. Not only were wages low, but many people couldn't find jobs and had to wander around.
My mother went out to work in the 90s. At that time, she was barely able to find a job, but the salary was very low. In order to save money for the family, my mother often skipped breakfast and became a stomach ailment from hunger.
China is okay. It is now in the golden period of development. Think about the people of Iraq, Iran, Afghanistan and other countries. Due to wars, they are precarious and very pitiful.
If they can make it through and work hard for a career, then they are considered winners in life.
The pain of getting along with a partner.
Our partner is the one who has been with us the longest.
People who get along for a long time will inevitably have conflicts, especially those who don’t distinguish between you and me, like couples, who don’t know how to conceal their shortcomings.
Ma Yun said: If a couple has a big quarrel for three days, and a small quarrel for two days, of course there is a problem, but they have been silent and do not quarrel, there is also a problem, which means that you get along without any ripples.
So, it's normal for couples to quarrel, but if they quarrel too much, even if they do it, it's not very good.
What is love?
Some people say: It’s just noisy for a lifetime,But still willing to be a husband and wife with him/her.
This is just like in the TV series " Passionate Burning Years ", Shi Guangrong and his wife Chu Qin quarreled for a long time. In the end, Shi Guangrong still shouted: I will marry you in the next life!
Some people say: Those marriages that thought about romantic love broke up in the end, and those couples who had made do with each other ended up in the end.
So, for getting along with our partner, sometimes we have to get through it for a while, and we will win if we get through it.
Of course, it does not mean that we oppose all forms of divorce.
If two people really have no feelings, divorce is a relief for both of them.
So, under what circumstances should a divorce be recommended?
First, cheating.
Derailment is divided into actual derailment and mental derailment.
Some people still don't want to get divorced after cheating, and their partner is unwilling to divorce and can accept the other party's behavior, so they don't need to divorce.
Not all derailments (actual derailments) are unforgivable.
But if you are mentally derailed (or mentally derailed with reality), it means that the other party does not want to live with you at all, so you should divorce decisively.
Second, domestic violence.
If the other party resorts to physical strength to commit domestic violence against you, then it is best to divorce, otherwise, if you have the first time, there will be a second time. Sooner or later, you will not be able to survive.
Third, other situations.
For example, long-term cold violence against you, disrespect for your parents, often talk about divorce or even use it as a threat.
The suffering of unfilial piety.
Some people might say: My sons and daughters are filial and don't have to endure such hardship.
But I have to remind you: You have to guard against the day when you are old and unable to move.
Now you can move, you are not sick, and you can do some things for them, such as bringing grandchildren, they must be very filial.
But as the saying goes: There is no dutiful son before the bed for a long time.
There is another saying: Raise children to prevent old age.
But whether it can prevent old age is not certain!
It is not uncommon for parents to give everything they have to their children and give a heart to their children, but they do not end well.
So, before you get old, it's best to keep an eye on it and plan for yourself. For example, leave some savings for yourself, so that you can’t move it in your old age.
Children's unfilial piety is divided into subjective unfilial piety and objective unfilial piety.
Subjective unfilial piety means that he has no reason for his own unfilial piety. This may be due to your influence.
For example, if you are not so filial to your own parents, they may follow suit.
So, in order to have a good family tradition, you must pay attention to filial piety to your parents and set them a good example.
Objective and unfilial piety are some objective reasons, such as a serious illness that makes them unwilling to be filial.
To guard against this kind of filial piety, you'd better leave some money with yourself for emergencies.
Having survived these three hardships, our life is roughly considered to have won.
I hope everyone can survive these three hardships.
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