When we were in university, one of our external lecturers shared his interpersonal experience with us. He once warned us: should know the distance, advance and retreat, and know the depth.
At that time, we seemed to understand but not understand after listening to it. We always felt that the literal meaning was understood, but it was clueless to practice it. Perhaps it is because I don't understand this sentence, but I remember it very firmly. Later, my own experience was good, and when I thought of this sentence, I think the "three knowledge" should be summed up as the so-called sense of measure. This is where I think the most important thing to pay attention to when interacting with people.
Knowing distance means that we need to understand the difference between closeness and closeness in interpersonal communication. Before we communicate, we must first think about the closeness of our relationship with each other, and then use this as a boundary To grasp the degree of interaction between each other and the way of doing things, so as not to cross the boundary or lack of care, and arouse the other side's resentment.
In our lives, sometimes the so-called "you are not on my side" in close relationships are all because of the closeness of intimacy and the loss of the right person. Sense of proportion. Caused unhappiness on both sides.
I understand this stage as: a sense of proportion to people in interpersonal communication.
It means that in the process of interpersonal communication, we need to judge the situation and quickly determine how we should behave in the current situation, and then use this as a benchmark to grasp the direction of action and the dimensions of retracting. What needs to be grasped and determined between advance and retreat is the degree of action.
If we fail to grasp the sense of separation between advances and retreats, it will not only be difficult to achieve our expected goals, but may even miss the opportunity to come again.
I understand this stage as: a sense of proportion in interpersonal communication.
Knowing depth means that in the process of interpersonal communication, we have to understand where the bottom line and the boundary are. Then in the process of interpersonal communication, we must remember to defend our own bottom line, but also be careful not to touch the other side's bottom line. Only in this way can we ensure that we communicate with each other in a relatively safe and comfortable situation. If we can't pay attention to this invisible line, not only will it be easy to irritate the other party invisibly, but we may even "out" unintentionally.
I understand this stage as: a sense of proportion to boundaries in interpersonal communication.
The above is my understanding and experience of sense of proportion in interpersonal communication.I hope we can grasp this sense of measure in our lives: knowing the distance, knowing how to advance and retreating, and knowing the depth. This will not only create a safe and comfortable communication situation for us and each other, but also plant a good seed for our long-term interaction with each other.
mutual encouragement.
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