company introduced me to a girl. According to the introducer, he was divorced, and he also took a boy with him. I was very sad when I heard the news.
Now that I have fallen to this point, as long as there is a woman in the family, I have to introduce it to me. The family don't want me to make a request. Totally disregarding my feelings. My marriage has become a knot in their heart, which makes them worry a lot, just hope that I get married soon. They have no requirements for girls. Regardless of the age, or the second marriage with children, as far as the family is concerned, as long as they are girls. Think of my marriage failure. In front of their families became their most annoying appearance.
However, the divorce did not bring a child, so I can accept it sloppily. When I heard that the divorce had a child, and I was still a boy, I immediately rejected it and it was unacceptable.
In my mind, I do not have any prejudice against divorced children, nor do I think they are bad. For divorced women with children who can choose to remarry, they can take this step, which shows that they also want to divorce to find their own happiness and happiness. I sympathize with them very much, and sympathize with their experience. Since it is not easy to choose a divorce. I understand very well the hardships of a divorced girl with a boy. It's not easy,
, but this is totally different from getting married. Have you ever thought about marrying a second marriage and still a boy, facing more financial pressure after marriage. I will also face the real society and the complicated real-life second-marriage family problems...
In general, the following points are summarized:
a Face problem, self-esteem is not acceptable
I still have a dignified college student to marry a second marriage and bring it Cub's. Feeling shameless, very shameful, especially in front of friends, colleagues and friends, what do you say?
To be honest. After all, he is the first marriage, want to marry a second marriage with a cub, and is a boy, really can not pass this hurdle. A college student has high hopes from his family, and he has a bright future in itself.
Everyone in my family hopes that I can do a career. After studying, I was tossing around everywhere. I don’t want to find a stable job. I have to start my own business and do my own business. I can’t think of turning myself into a panic.My career failed, my marriage was not going well...
Although my business failed now, my life is not as good as I want. There is no stable job. I don’t have a lot of savings, but I still have hope in my heart, I still have dreams, and I hope that one day my business will succeed. Still cherished vision for the future. In the marriage, if you want to marry a second marriage and bring a cub, to be honest, I really can't stand it anyway. I am afraid of being pointed out by others, and even more afraid of gossiping by colleagues and peers.
Although I am older, men still have a bit of self-esteem. No matter what, I don’t want to accept a second marriage with a cub, even if I can’t marry a wife, I would rather be alone until old.
b Second marriage is not easy to control with cubs.
Divorced couples don't want to bring a child to burden. Since the girl still has to take the child away and fight for custody, it shows that this woman is very possessive. Such a woman does not have a certain strength, and the average boy can't control it.
Generally, girls are willing to give up their child's custody rights after divorce, and they are unwilling to take a child to become her burden, so that it is easier to find a home. Those women who are actively fighting for the custody of their children are competitive and generally unwilling to admit defeat. After remarrying, they will devote their energy to their children. Children are all they have.
If after remarrying, there will be children with different blood, and they will be biased towards their own children, for fear that their children will suffer. This will easily lead to conflicts between the couples and break the relationship between the couples and go to court for divorce. . In this way, the more divorced a woman, the more courageous, the more divorced a man, the more timid...
c Banknote pressure.
What every family has to face is life and economic pressure. Now it is a period of rapid economic development. Prices are rising, and wage growth is not proportional to prices. Raising a child is not easy. The cost of raising a child is higher, especially for boys. Education and medical issues must also be considered. When a boy reaches a certain age, he must also consider the cost of buying a house and marrying a wife. . This will cause greater economic pressure.
I only consider second marriage when my own conditions are not good. If you marry a second marriage and bring a boy,Then there will be endless pressure to remarry with a man again.
In addition, second-married couples also want a child of their own after they get married, and the resource problem of the two children will be difficult to balance.
Both of the biological children will be a little selfish and tend to favor the child of their own. This will create constant conflicts among the new born. At the same time, the new born child is also resistant to the new family. If it is not handled well, it may not be you raise He is young, not necessarily he will raise you old. Generally speaking, children tend to favor their mothers, get closer to their own mothers, and alienate their stepfathers. Even refused to pay homage to the duty of the father...
The second-married women are bruised all over the place, have been hurt on the road to marriage, and will not easily believe in a man. When choosing to remarry, they mainly want to rely on themselves for the rest of their lives and guarantee their life. If Men who remarry do not have financial resources, so it must not be the scope of her consideration. The real life they believe in, no longer believe in the sweet words of men.
I believe that the current "oil, wood, salt and rice" is really life, because they have been injured, they are more prepared, and their sense of security becomes worse, if you hold them well. If you don’t work hard to create economic value, since you have the first divorce, there will be two divorces and three divorces.
Since they remarried, they have two roles to consider with a child. The first is to help her raise the child, and the second is to be the father of the child.
mostly considers a complete home, and more often wants to find an ATM for the child, which is just a complete family for the child. The relationship between husband and wife is relatively weak, and to put it bluntly is to live together.
e The children brought by women are barriers between husband and wife.
The children of a second-married woman are everything to her, and a remarried man must handle the relationship between the child and her. If it is handled well, the family will be harmonious. If it is not handled well, it will be said that you have a bowl of water that is not balanced.
This way men feel tired from remarrying, and cracks will appear in the marriage. The possibility of divorce will increase.
Another point is that remarried women will inevitably have contact with their ex-husband for the sake of their children.When a man appears next to a remarried woman, a defensive state will appear, and psychological pressure will increase.
It is impossible for remarried couples to be clean for the sake of their children. They will all have the possibility of disconnection. Divorced couples may also remarry for the sake of children. This creates endless pressure with the remarried man. The possibility of really letting a woman be completely clean with her ex-husband is relatively small, at least I can’t do it
Summary:
The above is my opinion on the second marriage with a cub. Anyway, I think about the second marriage with a cub. unacceptable. As for the choice of marriage, whether to marry or not to marry, it is all a personal choice. Marriage is not necessarily an option in life. Just feel happy. Life needs to be mastered by yourself.
How to choose a man who has a cub in a second marriage? As for what others say, it is their business. In my heart, I am unwilling to accept a boy who has a cub in a second marriage, an older boy that no one wants. , There are still qualifications to be here, ah, ah, yelling. Don't you feel ashamed? ……
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