Lu Xun wrote in "Lace Literature Strange": "The previous'weird person' said that'the stranger is not strange, its self-defeating', but the current'weird' has long stated that you are called to see Don’t blame it.”
Anything strange, once you see it clearly, it won’t be strange. Things that are unreasonable, if you think about it, the logic becomes clearer.
Those who are clear will clear themselves, and those who are turbid will become turbid. Things that can't be figured out for a while, let them go and don't think about them, or they will forget them after a while, or they will become transparent.
No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, these "abnormal" things will end. When two people are good, one nostril vents, and when they are bad, they don’t want to say hello when they meet.
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do not want to go home after get off work.
There is such a question: Why do some men drive to the door of the house and have to sit in the car for a while before going home?
Many people think so. A man is tired after working all day, but there is no woman in the family who understands him. When I got home, I heard the sound of reproach, and my mood was even worse.
Of course, men do not want to go home, which does not mean that they do not go home. After all, he still has this home in his heart.
If one day, men often make excuses not to go home, the problem will come.
A man who has not returned home for a few days, where does he live? Why didn't you go home suddenly?
If you think about it clearly, you will understand that he is making excuses to "run away from home". This is a betrayal and an escape.
No matter a man or a woman, he will not go home if he has no home in his heart. If usually,People did not go home, and the heart also returned home.
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deliberately make things difficult.
Good husband and wife, tolerant of each other, even if the other side is at fault, they will choose to forgive.
For example, women like to play cards. She was still in the mahjong hall in the middle of the night, and she didn't care about family affairs. The man was very angry, but when he saw the woman coming home, he just said a few words, and then he didn't take it seriously.
Tagore wrote in " Asuka Collection": "It's raining for you in my eyes, but my heart is holding an umbrella for you."
Two people in love are making a noise, but their hearts are still Together.
The person who wants to leave will deliberately find faults and expose the other party's shortcomings; magnify the other party's fault; deliberately find some tricky things, let the other party do it, and let him make a fool of himself.
If you are making things difficult, you should understand that it is not you who made a mistake, but that he made a mistake. You want to create a lot of rifts between your husband and wife and pave the way for him to leave in the future.
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often plays "lost connection".
It is impossible for husband and wife to contact each other anytime and anywhere. It is common not to call each other for a day. However, everything about the other party is in your grasp.
If one day your lover cannot be contacted for some reason, you will probably be very anxious.
If his work is not very confidential, then he has no reason not to answer the phone or reply to WeChat.
A female colleague of mine. Some time ago, I often couldn't get in touch with my husband.
Today,The husband said that the mobile phone is out of power; I don’t remember to pay the mobile phone bill tomorrow; I put the mobile phone in the drawer the day after tomorrow and didn’t take it out for a whole day.
Are the words of the husband of a female colleague credible?
A discerning person knows at a glance, "He is talking nonsense".
People who often lose contact are either guilty of a guilty conscience or deliberately alienated.
From contacting anytime, anywhere, to not answering the phone, not responding to WeChat, it seems strange, but it is actually a sign of "a lot of ghosts and chaos".
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deliberately angered you.
There is a term called "Love House and Wu". In other words, those who love you will love everything about you.
If someone who ever loved you suddenly said a lot of defaming your parents, it means that he hates your original family. Anyone will actively protect their parents, but those who love you say nasty things, which is incredible.
He will also reveal some old things and make you very angry. The more angry you are, the more he has to say, not giving up.
He will poke your weakness, make you feel painful, and then talk hysterically. Your teary eyes are just what he wants to see.
Think about it, when two people were angry, he would take the initiative to lower his head. Why is it different now? He made it clear that he deliberately annoyed you. He thought in his heart that if you get angry every day, you will be chilled and you will leave one day.
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Money does not count.
A colleague of mine has applied for two bank cards. One was given to the lover, which was a salary card; the other was kept by myself, which was a bonus card.
In real life, many families have money,They all "exchange what is needed"; there are also some families where everyone has their own selfishness and often saves private money.
When two people who love each other, when they are in a good relationship, they have saved their private money. It doesn't matter. Tracing back to the root, the private money is also family money, and it is not spent on outsiders.
However, a person who changes his mind will give money to a third party, and the amount of money is simply not right.
For example, he went to the street to buy a little daily necessities, but he told you that he spent a lot of money. You count it carefully and find that there is no logarithm. If you speak out your doubts, he won't admit it, but instead blames you for being too serious.
Money is the "necessity" of the family and the "important basis" for love.
When a person ignores his family and has another relationship, money is naturally not enough. It is not surprising that there is a problem of "preferring one over the other".
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blocked WeChat Moments.
In the circle of friends, I often see couples or couples showing their happiness.
When two people have a good relationship, I can't wait for the whole world to envy their feelings. When the relationship between two people is not good, the circle of friends will become quiet, and it seems that the feeling of "the mountains and the rain are coming and the wind is all over the building".
When couples get along with each other, the Moments of Friends exchange what is needed. Anyone can read the mobile phone on the table.
If someone betrays a marriage, his mobile phone will be mysterious. He blocked you in the circle of friends, so that you can never see his posts anymore.
When you find that his circle of friends can no longer be seen, you will find it very strange-is he hidden?
In fact, don't be surprised, but the circle of friends he posted will make you "spicy eyes" and hide some traces of departure from your family.
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Concluding remarks.
The better the relationship between husband and wife, the more "sand" can't be accommodated.
When you find something unreasonable, you just follow the vine and find the root cause.
should be yours, that's yours; if it's not yours, it's useless to stay forcibly.
Love or not, let the flow take its course, don't embarrass yourself.
Author: Commoner Crude Food.
The picture in the article comes from the Internet.
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