People with "poor nature" are worthy of deep friendship

Psychological research has found that the people who can get good results in a relationship are often not those who blindly give, but those who seem to be "indifferent".

"Cigen Tan" has a "span 2span " person in charge of

"Cai Gen Tan" has a lot of troublesome words in "Cai Gen Tan". Mind; the enthusiasm in the cold will get a lot of real fun."

with famous actor Chen Daoming , although is in the five-color "entertainment circle", it always looks like " Out of place ".

　　 In the words of Yan Geling, it is:

　　 "Chen Daoming has a kind of noble temperament from the 30s and 40s of the intellectuals of the 30s and 40s _pblockequote. , Because he filmed " siege", he went to Mr. Qian Zhongshu's home for advice.

　　 entered the door and saw Qian Lao’s house piled up 's full are books,Without TV and radio, the only thing that can make a sound is a pot of decocting medicine.

　　 The scene deeply shocked Chen Daoming, making him feel that what fame and wealth, what money status, in the face of culture and learning, is nothing! The entertainment on the wine table quietly returns to the book and art.

　　 keep quiet in the hustle and bustle, choose indifferent in the glitz. I remember that Mr. Jiang Xun once said:

　　 "The first love object in life should be yourself. Write poems to yourself, talk to yourself, calm down in a space, and listen to your heartbeat and breathing."

　　 "cool" people, because they know that they love themselves and are responsible for themselves, so they will devote more time to themselves and treat people and things around them with the mentality of a bystander. wide awake.

　　, people like 　　 may feel difficult to approach when they first meet, but they will feel reliable for a long time.

　　 Because they are not hypocritical, unpretentious, understand the depth, and the most important thing is that those who are responsible for themselves will also be responsible for others.

People who are "innate and cold" have a sense of proportion to others

"A soft heart without boundaries,It will only let the other party get an inch; unprincipled kindness will only let the other party do whatever they want. "

　 Between people, the best way to get along is to have a sense of boundaries and sense of proportion. _p1span, too enthusiasm,

Not only will it ruin a harmonious relationship, it will also cause stress. Remember the incident that Chen Daoming was on the hot search for cursing a long time ago?

　 " 芳华" crew meeting At the time of the rise, the director proposed to let the actors Miao Miao dance a dance for everyone to help the fun. Just when everyone applauded, only Chen Daoming saw Miao Miao's embarrassment and helplessness. He stood up and said, "People As an actor, it’s inappropriate to dance here. Besides, she is still wearing high heels. "　 As a result, no one cared, but continued to raise the bar: "Isn't the gestures over!"

In a hurry, Chen Daoming stood up and uttered a swear word: "You fucking never watched dancing!"

exactly responded to the sentence:

"The gentleman is in his place, he doesn't want to be outside. "

Really educated people can always treat others with dignity, not troublesome, not disturbing, and not entangled. They can see everyone's bottom line and boundaries, so they know how to advance and retreat, and understand the relationship between each other. Leave blank and maintain a comfortable social distance. 　 Get along with it, not only "the golden wind and jade dew meet,"The first-sighted love of "It wins but countless in the world" is even more a long time after the vicissitudes of life, hundreds of thousands of times.

Really intimate relationship comes with a "distance".

Schopenhauer said: People are like hedgehogs in the cold winter, if they are too close to each other, they will feel tingling; if they are too far apart from each other It is far away, but it will feel cold; people must keep a proper distance to live.

Actually, in this disturbed world, we should best dedicate our infinite love and limited time to those we care about. People with a weak nature understand the truth better, so they are more worthy of our deep friendship.

Thin affection is not ruthless, it is to maintain rationality and independence; thin affection is not loveless, it is to use affection where it should be used.

.