Nowadays, the bride price is more and more like a mirror, which reflects the ugliest side of the human heart. There is a saying, although it is a bit vulgar, but it is very appropriate: "A piece of clothing has been worn for 5 years, and you will not want to buy it at the original price; but if someone else has worn it for 5 years, you will use it as if. Buy it at the original price." This sentence reveals the current marriage situation very vividly.
However, some women’s requests for betrothal gifts are indeed too much, and there are some girls’ parents who use their daughters to get married to squeeze their daughter’s surplus value. Compared with their daughters' married life, they pay more attention to the bride price. Some girls see through the selfishness of their parents, and they dare to resist.
In the recent hit drama "Mother-in-law's Bracelet", Liu Yin is like this. Liu's mother opened her mouth to ask the man for a seven-digit gift, and she kept saying that it was for her daughter, but Liu Yin could see through her mother's selfishness at a glance. Mother Liu did this because she just wanted to buy a house for her son with the money to marry her daughter. Finally, faced with the kidnapping of her parents, Liu Yin was very sober and very resolute. She categorically refused to be a "helping demon." However, some girls not only did not realize this, but also acted as the "accomplices" of their parents as a matter of course. The end result is naturally destined.
Fan Yu and her boyfriend have been in love for 5 years unknowingly, although Fan Yu’s personality is rather impatient and sometimes impulsive. Fortunately, her boyfriend has been accommodating and has always embraced her. The feelings are getting deeper and deeper. At the beginning of the year, the two of them put the marriage on the agenda under the urging of their parents, but when they were discussing the marriage, the two parents had a disagreement, mainly because the amount of the bride price did not reach a consensus.
Compared with Fan Yu's family situation, her boyfriend's family conditions are a little better, but her boyfriend's parents are not the kind of exploding wealth, they are both a hard-earned family business of the old couple. Although the son’s marriage is a top priority, the old couple also have their own plans. After thinking about it, the old couple thought of a compromise on the issue of the bride price, that is, to give the woman’s parents a 100,000 bride price and then give it. My daughter-in-law prepares 50,000 red envelopes.
But Fan Yu’s parents didn’t think so.The plan in their hearts is to use their daughter's marriage to slaughter the man a lot, asking for a 150,000 gift, and then leaving the gift for their son to marry his wife. Both parties were pregnant with ghosts, and neither of them would give in. In the end, the marriage had to be put on hold. Later, Fan Yu became angry with her boyfriend at every turn, and often said about breaking up. Her boyfriend was very anxious, so he had to persuade his parents and said that he would pay the extra 50,000 yuan by himself, hoping that the parents could agree to the woman as soon as possible. Set up the marriage.
Seeing the embarrassment of the son, the boyfriend's parents had to compromise. In this way, the bride price was 150,000, and the wedding date was quickly set. But while preparing for the wedding, Fan Yu once again sent a message to her boyfriend: "My brother bought a car with a cost of 50,000 yuan, so my parents changed the bride price to 200,000, and remember to bring it with you when you come to welcome you. Don’t want to marry me.” Seeing this text message, her boyfriend immediately dialed Fan Yu’s phone. Fan Yu spoke very firmly on the phone, and there was a threatening tone between the lines. The boyfriend was very angry, and then replied fiercely:" Okay, then I won’t marry you. Our marriage contract is also invalidated. I will find someone to go to your house to retire in a few days.”
Hearing this, Fan Yu was a little stunned. She couldn't believe her boyfriend. She could say that, but when she called back, the other party had already turned off the phone. It was not until the man sent someone over to discuss the remarriage that Fan Yu woke up like a dream. Fan Yu's parents also tried their best to make it back, but Fan Yu's boyfriend did not give this opportunity again. The original good marriage was lost by Fan Yu's family.
Some people may think that Fan Yu’s boyfriend does not need to do this. After all, 150,000 gifts were given, which is not bad for the final 50,000 gifts. Perhaps most of the man’s family will subconsciously choose to settle the matter and agree to the woman’s conditions when encountering this situation. But Uncle Qiang wanted to say that the more you calm down, the more you will get worse.
Regarding the bride price, Uncle Qiang didn't want to say anything. Many people think that the bride price is the culprit. In fact, the real culprit is the greedy hearts behind the bride price. As Nietzsche said, there are only the sun and the human heart in this world, not to look directly at them. I hope more and more girls can understand,The amount of the bride price does not influence one's happiness, but it is not necessary to avoid the bride price.
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