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is really hard for people to trust, many people don’t like them too naive. , It is also difficult to take on important tasks. But at the same time, people don't like people who are too sophisticated.
Sophistication originally meant to be considerate to others, which means that a person has experienced years of hardships and witnessed the manifestation of inner maturity after seeing the warmth and coldness of the human relationship. But slowly, sophistication was confused with sleek and became a derogatory term.
Mr. Lu Xun once said: "The world is really difficult. It is not a good thing to say that a person is'incomprehensible', but it is not a good thing to say that he is'deeper than the world'."
Sophisticated, most people think of sleek, city government and even hypocrisy and cunning. Because of this, we increasingly miss the era of innocence.
's pursuit of "girly sense" and "juvenile sense" has also come into being.
Many film and television actors have surprising faces. They are obviously past middle-aged, but they look so young. Slowly, girly and juvenile feelings are used to describe these look very Young actors.
Think about it seriously. Most of the women who people think are girly have a simple, juvenile look on their faces. They are sunny and energetic, and they don't bear the pressure and burden of life.
The most important thing is,At a glance, they can feel relaxed and at ease, as if returning to a more innocent school day.
Whether in life or at work, those who are smart at first glance naturally need to spend more time getting along with each other, and it is easier to make people feel tired.
"Girlishness" and "juvenileness" are just to satisfy people's desire to relax, so that people can temporarily escape from the heavy real life and take a breath.
However, "girly feeling" is not the same as "younger feeling". They are just the feeling that a person brings to others, and has nothing to do with actual age or experience. "May you run away for half your life and still be a teenager." , That's exactly what it means.
Qian Zhongshu once said: "Knowing the world but not the world is the most mature naive."
is not the person who is indifferent to the world, nor is it mature. Reconciliation means being able to face difficulties and challenges happily even if life is hard.The so-called "girly sense" and "juvenile sense" are actually clear eyes and full of hope. Therefore, it is not only whether a face is young, whether it is smooth without wrinkles.
The true "girlyness" and "juvenileness" are related to whether our hearts are full of vitality.
Imagine if a person is depressed and frustrated all day due to the pressure of life and unsuccessful work, even if he is young,He also looked lifeless and tired.
In this over-stressed society, you can't just rely on rest and optimism to stay active, you also need some methods and skills.
1. Keep exercising.
No matter how busy you are, you have to set aside a period of time to keep exercising, especially now that many jobs have to sit all day long, facing the computer for a long time, commuting by car and driving instead of walking and biking, so Hyundai People need to pay more attention to hyperactivity.
Life lies in exercise. Only in this way can we be more vigorous and energetic. Exercising not only keeps our body in a better state, but also releases stress and regulates our mood.
If you have the conditions, you can choose a sport that suits you, such as yoga, swimming, running, playing ball and so on.
Even if you don't have so much time and energy dedicated to exercise, you should get in the habit of going out more often.
It’s healthier to go outdoors on weekends, find a place with fresh air, and take a walk around the community after meals. It’s healthier to stay on the sofa, lie on the bed, watch TV, and watch videos.
Social progress and fast-paced life have reduced a lot of opportunities for us to exercise, so we should pay more attention in our leisure time.
Many people rely on themselves as young, staying up late, sitting for a long time, eating irregularly, etc. At first, it seems that there is no harm in doing this, and they will not feel any discomfort in the body, but after a long time, there are various problems. Accumulating together is enough to break a young and healthy body. This is why young people are more likely to get sick now. It is indeed because of stress and hard life.But on the other hand, it is also because there is too little exercise.
Once the body is no longer healthy, even if we want to be vigorous, we still cannot do our best.
Therefore, no matter what method you use, keeping on exercising is responsible for your body and the future, and it is the key to maintaining vitality.
2. Have at least one hobby.
When many people talk about hobbies, they will feel that there is a danger of plaything. After all, few people can really treat hobbies as work and career and can live on them.
Most of the hobbies are the embellishment of life, small pleasures and relaxation under pressure. For life, hobbies are like flowers on the table. Nothing does not prevent eating every day, but if there are, there will be more happiness.
If we have no hobbies, we are likely to play games and watch videos idly when we come back from get off work every day, then turn off the lights to sleep, and then open our eyes the next day. Over time, if we encounter unhappy things in work and life, we will inevitably ask ourselves, why do we work so hard every day. Apart from work, eating, housework, and sleeping, life seems to have no meaning. The value also seems to be reduced.
If we have a hobby, we at least have something to do when we are upset and when we are down. It will not only distract attention, but also regulate our mood.
No one can guarantee that the road of life will always be smooth, but we can allow ourselves to have more buffers, more adjustments, and more sources of happiness as much as possible. Through hobbies, we can keep ourselves alive.
3. Make friends with positive energy people.
relatives and friends around a person,It not only reflects the characteristics of a person from one side, but also changes the person invisibly. Those who are near Zhu and those who are near Mo are not alarmist. Two people have been getting along for a long time, and they will always influence each other in character and behavior.
Both positive and negative emotions are easily transmitted to each other. Therefore, when you are with negative people, you will slowly become listless, thinking that many things are meaningless and hopeless.
Therefore, there is no harm in meeting as many positive people as possible, with fewer complaints and more encouragement.
Positive energy people will not attack others when they need encouragement, or pour cold water, nor will they complain when others need help.
The friends around you can influence each other, make progress together, work together, and bring vitality to each other. If you want to live a better life, please try to make friends with people with positive energy.
We can have wrinkles, but don't lose our smile, we can have gray hair, but don't give up hope.
Mature personality does not mean that you must be mature, nor does it mean that you have to exchange happiness and enthusiasm.
What everyone constantly misses and pursues is not the ignorance and simplicity of the teenage years, but the energetic hope, enthusiasm for things, and longing for life, and vitality is hidden in it .
Don’t let the vitality be worn away with the passage of time, no matter middle-aged or old, everyone can live the rest of their life full of vitality.
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