Q:
Hello, my brother-in-law introduced me to a girl of 99 years last year, and the girls and I sent pictures to each other not bad at first glance. , I also chatted with WeChat.
At first there was a topic chat, I usually chat occasionally, I know that I can’t do dog licking, but my family keeps saying, take the initiative to pester other girls, you don’t pester others, just bite the bullet Come on, can you catch it?
I chatted every day and found that there was no topic to talk about, so I often had good morning and good night. Every day, my family had to ask me to play with her. I licked it if I didn’t know what was going on. . . . .
Later, she didn't reply to my messages very much on WeChat, replying from time to time. I learned the location of her work during the chat. I went there during the weekend without telling her.
I went from home, she is in Wuhan. When I got to the place, I stayed in a hotel. I went there on Friday. I sent a message to tell her that I had come to play with her. She said she had gone to his mother's place, other parts of Wuhan.
I said I wanted to give her something, and I made it myself, which was a "bag" that was very popular on the Internet at that time, consisting of a bunch of lollipops and Wahaha . I took a selfie with her on the back of the bag, and she said it suits me, and she laughed.
Then she didn’t return on Friday night,She said it was estimated to be back on Sunday, so I didn't ask much.
I called my brother and asked him to come over to play. It was too boring to be alone.
I wandered around on Saturday and finally it's the weekend.
She returned at night. I asked her if she had eaten. She said she was too tired and didn't want to eat. There was food in the bedroom. My intention was to let her come down and eat out together. She said that she didn't want to come down, saying that she wore pajamas and fell asleep with a casual meal. The two days were too tiring.
On the phone, she might feel that I was a little angry, and then she said that we should open a video to see you. She also emphasized the use of QQ because of the beauty. Said he was so ugly.
I promised her to start the video and chatted for a while. I don't think she means to hate me. My own feeling is that she is relatively shy, may be timid, unfamiliar and don't want to see her.
After this happened, I didn't chat with her very often.
Then it was the Chinese New Year, and my mother insisted that my brother-in-law take me to her house as a guest. My brother-in-law knows her brother and works together.
What I thought of myself is that other people didn't agree to let you go, so what are you doing by licking your face. But I went there later, and bought something as a New Year greeting in advance.
when she arrived, she sat in front of her house,I called her name, and she just said that I didn't know you, so she went in. To hide the embarrassment, I just said that I knew you.
Anyway, when I went to her house that day, she didn't wait to see me much.
After these two times, I never chat with her again, go to your mother, thinking who I am. I don't even understand the most basic courtesy.
This year, I suddenly thought of her. As soon as I had a brother who wanted to find a girlfriend, I wanted to introduce her to my brother. I acted on the principle that the fertilizer does not flow into the field of outsiders.
I sent a message to her that night, and I said good evening. I have a friend who wants to find a girlfriend and thinks you are more suitable. I want to introduce him to him. The intention is to send him your WeChat account. , To ask for your consent.
She said there are photos, I gave them, she said they are too mature.
During the chat, I usually talk about this, but she said that I feel different from before, and I said that I am the same person.
She asked me if I am alone, and I said yes.
She said that she thought I had found a girlfriend, and I said that meeting someone in love is not easy.
Then she said again, I always feel that you are different from before.I asked where it had changed, and she said she didn't know, it felt different.
She said that you always talk about your classmates, do you want me to be with your classmates?
Then I did not answer for a long time, she said forget it again, I was asleep, good night.
The delay in answering was that I was typing. Later, I replied to the question she asked, hoping she could be with my friend.
I said what can I do, I just want to be a friend with you, and you don’t want to see me when you go to your house. If you don’t know me, don’t I have to give you to someone reliable? Fertilizer water does not flow into outsiders' fields.
I do not know why she is very friendly to me, we often chat.
Later she asked me every day if I could play games, the king. I said that I introduced you to my brother. Why should they fight alone? Is it appropriate?
She said: I didn’t agree, how inappropriate. Call your friend to fight together.
I played a few times every night, and then I asked her if my brother is handsome in playing games, she said you are also very good.
Then we chat every day, and think how we like her. But I think in my heart, is this a human thing? I have already introduced it.We are still in one-line contact.
How to meet the folks and elders!
I also told her, I said they were all introduced, we still chat so honey secretly, she said there is something, not secretly, this is normal chat.
She said I was stupid, and then I said I was stupid enough to find an enemy for myself. She said she regretted it now.
I did not answer this question. Later I talked about other things. The
process is just such a process.
First, I have a little bit of favor for her.
Second, she has a much better attitude to me than before, I don’t know if it’s a good impression.
Thirdly, I contacted her one-line, what would my friend do?
Please guide me forward.
Answer:
Hello,After reading your letter carefully, the following are my views, hoping to inspire you.
first help you sort out the mistakes you made before
You mentioned in the letter that you didn’t talk to her twice, I went to chat Damn, who thought I was. I don't even understand the most basic courtesy.
Although the performance of girls does not seem to be very good, in fact, I can quite understand why girls do.
is obviously that you are not polite first, you visit the girls’ homes without knowing that you will be girls. If the girls give you a good face on this, wouldn’t it be possible that this in turn will motivate you Intensified?
No matter if you went to Wuhan to find a girl without the consent of the girl before, or you went to visit the girl’s house with your brother-in-law during the Chinese New Year without telling the girl, This is actually a very wrong approach and a very rude behavior.
It’s not that you can’t meet a girl without telling her, but it’s up to you to see her without telling the girl. This is not in line with your relationship with the girl. Stage, and whether you go to see her is a girl willing or even what she expects.
The relationship between some boys and girls has made good progress,The girl liked him. During the interaction between the two people, the girl also expressed the hope that the boy would find her from time to time, and even the two had already established a romantic relationship.
Under this premise, boys deliberately go to see girls without telling girls, but it may bring surprises to girls (even so, boys go without telling them Seeing the girl’s approach is still full of uncertainty)
and you were in contact with girls in the process of development, girls have started to not reply to your news from time to time, in this case you actually still You ran to Wuhan to find her without her consent;
You ran to Wuhan to find a girl, and waited for her for two more days. As a result, after she came back, she was reluctant to even face her. See you. After you have learned from the past, you can still visit her home with your brother-in-law without telling the girl.
Your behavior will not only not bring good feelings to girls, but it will also bring bad feelings to girls, which in turn will cause girls to feel disgusted with you.
Your behavior offends the girl, and the girl is unhappy with you in her heart. In turn, she is rude to you and does not wait to see you. Although the girls' behavior is indeed not very good, it is actually understandable.
The key to the problem actually lies with you.
What should I do next?
In this case, you have three options:
1.No longer have fantasies about girls, and decisively keep a distance from her
Now that you have introduced her to your brother, since you have tried to develop with her before, but in the end you didn't succeed. For you, girls should be in the past tense.
As a man, don't be so dishonest.
Girls have a better attitude towards you. She chats with you for a while, plays games with you, and you think about girls again.
2. If you really want to continue to try to develop with girls, you can confess to your brother
The brothers who are aware of do not recommend you to carry you on your back. Try to get in touch with and develop with girls. If this is the case, no matter if you and the girls are successful or not, your brother will know it, it will be very disgusting.
You are crazy about girls. If the situation then turns out that there is no success between you and the girls, and the girls become your brothers, this. . . . .
Although it is very bloody, it is not impossible.
Now that the girl has seen your brother's photo, the girl has expressed no interest in him. Fortunately, there should be no substantial contact and progress between the girl and your brother.So you can talk frankly with your brother, ask him how he interacts with the girls, ask him about his attitude and thoughts about girls, and be frank with him that girls’ current attitudes towards you are compared to the previous ones. Not bad, you want to try and develop with girls again.
Based on the above factors, there is a high probability that your brother will merge and complete you.
Even if your brother wants to continue to try, as long as you talk to him, this will not affect you and the girls to continue trying to contact, then you will have your own skills.
3, if you really can’t do the above two more decisive ways, then you can simply try to meet with a girl
6 The attitude is much better than before, but this actually doesn't explain anything.
In the words of a girl, it's just that she is chatting with you normally.
If you have an idea about a girl, try to meet her and go on a date with her.
If a girl is willing to come out to meet you, if the state and attitude of the girl when she is dating you also show that she is willing to contact you for development, then in this case, you can take the initiative to ask your brother frank.
But if girls are not willing to come out to meet you,But I said something to you on WeChat. In this case, it is highly recommended that you no longer have any illusions about girls.
Because it is likely that you think too much, or the girl is hanging you intentionally or unintentionally.
There are so many good girls in the world, there is no need to try to contact and develop a romantic relationship with such a girl in the current embarrassing situation.
want to be able to inspire you
All the best
your loyal love doctors
love Sir
2021-9-1
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