Liang Wendao said: It is very important for a woman to have the ability to live a good life on her own, and to have things that others cannot take away.
When you have something that others can’t take away, you won’t feel flustered. No matter what happens in your life, you will be able to deal with it freely.
The life that love and marriage have to experience is completely different. A woman who has the ability to lead a good life can generally be herself more calmly in marriage.
reader Yao Man (pseudonym) has been working hard to keep himself growing and managing relationships in the right way.
Self-reporter: Yao Man
My husband and I have been in love for three years and decided to get married. Our personality is relatively strong, but he is relatively introverted. , Like to express. However, our process of getting along is very harmonious, without too many contradictions.
But the situation is completely different after marriage. The mother-in-law is a controlling woman. After getting in touch with her more slowly, I fully understand why my husband's personality is so quiet.
during the relationship,Although he listens to many things, my husband still listens to her mother-in-law's opinions.
I have an elder sister, her child is 5 years old, and my nephew is very handsome and has a sweet mouth. I like him a lot, so I will buy clothes and toys for him during the holidays. .
However, my mother-in-law is very partial. She never regarded me as her own family. I am a girl who knows exactly what I want. After I get married, I still continue to work, earning a bit higher than my husband.
Both my parents have pensions. I don't need to worry too much about it. I just need to live my life well. But getting along with my mother-in-law's family always makes me feel very tired. The eldest sister is too selfish, thinking that I have a high income, she wants to get what she needs from me.
The mother-in-law treated her very well. When I married my husband, their family gave 60,000 gift gold. At that time, the older sister’s husband said that he needed to do business and needed fund turnover, so the mother-in-law asked me to get back. The money.
I have the ability to do another set, so it doesn't matter, I gave it to her very quickly. However, my good talker was understood by my mother-in-law as a bully.
A while ago, my mother-in-law started to worry about my car again.
one day, after I came back from outside, my husband said to me, "My sister’s child is going to study.In the future, let her drive her, and you can still lose weight by taking the subway. My mother has already told me many times about this, so you can quickly give the car to my sister, otherwise I can't explain it.
My husband and I have been married for more than two years, and his thinking has never changed. As long as it is a request made by my mother-in-law, he will agree to it, and I am completely disappointed. I was directly angry: "Okay, let's leave the marriage first, and the car will be assigned to you. If you want to give it to your sister, you can give it to me. I don't care, but the house belongs to me. Let's go through the formalities at some time.
I was too forbearing before, not only the problem was not solved, my life became more passive.
Now my panic is very firm, his husband is very firm. I can only try to fight against my mother-in-law.
When my mother-in-law came to question me, I was still very calm, and the worst case was just losing my marriage. At that moment, my mother-in-law realized that I was not a bully. , I can only give in.
After that, my married life has returned to peace and I don’t have to be wronged anymore.
reader Yao Man is a courageous woman,So you can get the respect you deserve in your marriage. Want to live a good life starts with your inner transformation.
1: Don’t be tripped by sensitivity, and bravely go out of your own way
There are a lot of times in life when they have a lack of self-confidence. Knowing how to think about oneself and always thinking about meeting other people's requirements, such a woman will only get more and more difficult in marriage.
If you want to take the initiative in life, don't be tripped by sensitivity, and brave your own way.
Especially when you get along with your in-laws, you better know how to keep the bottom line, and blindly fulfill their selfish requirements, which will not bring happiness, but will only make your life fall into a worse state.
"Highly Sensitive Power" says: "No matter what you do, no matter what you do, there will always be people criticizing you, so please do what you want, please be yourself ."
No matter how much you pay, there will always be some people who are still dissatisfied, so there is no need to overwhelm yourself. When you dare to be your true self, you can let others see that you are strong, and you may not be so bully.
Just like the reader Yao Man,At first, she chose to forbearance for the harmony of the family, but then she finally realized that she needed to be brave once to solve all the problems.
The more you dare to be your own woman, the happier you can live your life. The strong aura that emanates from them is the best protection for marriage.
Two: Learn to think independently and refuse to be thought puppets
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For the life you want to pursue, you will spend time and energy to improve yourself and finally reach your destination. Such a woman has the ability to think independently and refuses to be a puppet of thought.
The mood is more stable, and you can make good judgments and choices.
In marriage, such women can generally live happily. After the reader Yao Man married her husband, she still has her own career. When her husband is too foolish and her mother-in-law always wants to bully her, she refuses to be a puppet of her mind, and she has the confidence to fight back.
Women with a really strong heart, strong thinking ability, they understand that a happy life is to be grasped by their own efforts.Even if the storm strikes, you can build yourself a shelter from the rain, and you don't need to humblely seek other people's shelter.
If you want to keep your mind independent after marriage, be less pretentious when you are fine, you can read more books and make more money. When you change inside, you will not be taken away by others, but you can better control your life.
Bi Shumin once said: "There is a certain proportion of good days and bad days."
When in trouble, women who know how to change their inner thinking can usually get out of the swamp faster.
Whether life can be better or not starts with your inner transformation. The only person who can escort you for the rest of your life is yourself.
Only when you completely change your inner self, can you continuously improve yourself and enjoy life more freely.
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