My wife has serious mental illness, includes bipolar disorder _span_strong and schizophrenia. If the condition is good, the disease will not occur in a few years; if the condition is not good, it may occur once every few months. She is very tortured every time she gets sick , she will be crazy like a child, talking to herself, crying and crying, seriously affecting the life of the couple, and our child is only 8 months old. But when did not get sick, she was a very good wife , she cooked three meals for me, organized the things in the house in an orderly manner, and raised the child white and fat, to my parents They are also very good. She bought me 3,000 yuan shoes when she only had 5,000 yuan. I am in pain now. When she became ill, I always had the urge to divorce her. When she is normal, I love her very much and want to stick to her every day. What should I do? Does this marriage continue? Question source: Douban Group
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" How did you love her? Love her not to ask how to take care of her and get rid of the disease. Is it closer? I'm here to stroke, do you mean this: when your wife is normal, and when your wife is still a good wife, you love (require) her; if your wife is sick you can't stand her, don't love (require) She? From your narrative, all I can see is yourself —— Someone has to prepare three meals and bring them in front of you, someone has to clean up the house, raise the child white and fat. Be nice to your parents and be willing to spend money for you, and don’t have tormenting madness around you. I haven’t seen your worries about your wife, nor have you seen anything about your 8-month-old baby. Worry. The shopkeeper thinks this is not love, just need. What do you think? The shopkeeper understands that you are too difficult, not only the dilemma in the decision, but also the process of getting along with your wife. But because you are not prepared To take care of a good wife and lead an ideal life, but to have a gamble mentality, the shopkeeper has to say: is a choice to separate. Of course,Separation does not have to be abandonment. If the form can make you feel not bound or hopeless, but instead have more patience, courage and psychological energy, why not? If distance allows you to see yourself more clearly, why not? Be honest with yourself and be nice to everyone. Finally, add one more sentence: Consult a professional psychiatrist to understand how family members with serious mental illnesses can cooperate with treatment; consult a parenting expert to learn how to raise children in such a family -this is what you are now The most important thing to do. "
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" though you and Not explicitly stated, but the shopkeeper can infer from your expression: You have a high probability of knowing your wife's condition before marriage; otherwise, if she deliberately concealed it before, you should now condemn her deception. know this,You still decide to marry her, which means that you do have a real affection for her and are willing to face the disease with her. This kind of original intention is a good foundation for the two of you to live together. However, a great possibility is that you underestimated the impact of your wife's illness on your lives at the time, or her illness became more serious after you got married, and you were not mentally prepared for the current situation. When the great difficulties of reality hit, you begin to hesitate and timid. What the shopkeeper wants to say is: In such a situation, it is not shameful to feel afraid and want to shrink. This is human nature. But what to do after careful consideration determines your pattern. When you are in love, the first principle is to be tempted and happy for both parties. After forming a family, taking responsibility will gradually rise to the most critical step. It is not as simple as whether you "want to stick to her" or not, let alone your family situation is so special ! Now that you have a good relationship foundation, why don't you give your marriage more time to see if you can afford this kind of responsibility? After all, the current medical conditions and social support system can help you. At the same time, I have to remind you that there is a certain genetic possibility for mental illness. Now that you have brought your child into this world, you must be prepared to fight the disease together. You can choose to end your marriage, but you can't end your relationship with your children and your moral and legal responsibilities. Adults’ lives do not have the word "easy", nor can they escape the word "responsibility". Be brave! ”
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