1. Will the widowed elderly remarry?
Does an elderly person who has lost a partner still need to find a new partner? I think many old people dare to mutter in their hearts, but they dare not speak out. Because speaking out will make people look down, and feel restless at many ages.
In fact, young couples accompany each other, and their wives have passed away, leaving them alone, some elderly people will indeed appear very deserted and lonely. Especially when the children work and live in other places and the old people are alone at home, they are even more lonely and helpless.
It's just that the old widow has to find his wife again, it's really not easy. Not only is it difficult for me, even my children may object. Therefore, the key to whether a widow wants to marry again lies in himself.
2. Remarriage was hired by a ten-year-old boss, life was not satisfactory
When Aunt Xiao was 55 years old, his wife died of illness. Aunt Xiao was so distressed that she couldn't wait to follow his wife. After a long time, Aunt Xiao was relieved.
Aunt Xiao has a son and a daughter. Her daughter has been married to another place and has not come back once in two or three years. The son works in another city. In the past few years, he has also mortgaged a house in the city where he works with a down payment from his parents.
After the death of his wife, his son persuaded Aunt Xiao to come to his home to provide for the elderly. But the daughter-in-law didn't say a word, and Aunt Xiao didn't dare to act rashly. Although the down payment for the house was bought by herself, the wife is very strong, and Aunt Xiao is unwilling to embarrass her son because of the pension issue.
Considering that after the death of his wife, she did not have a pension, so 55-year-old Aunt Xiao found a job nearby, as a nanny, washing clothes, cooking, and cleaning.
Under the introduction of well-wishers, Aunt Xiao was introduced to work as a nanny at the house of an old cadre ten years older than her. The old cadre is also widowed. He and Aunt Xiao have the same illness and are very talkative. Aunt Xiao is very happy to be there.
Because the children of the old cadres also work and live in big cities, only the old cadres are left alone. Slowly, the veteran cadre and Aunt Xiao became more and more understanding, and then they simply came together.
When the two were about to get their marriage certificate, Aunt Xiao’s son did not object, but the old cadre’s child objected uncharacteristically. Even the son of an old cadre needs the old cadre and Aunt Xiao to do 's pre-marital property notarization .
Aunt Xiao knows very well that this is the child of a veteran cadre, and nothing can be guarded against. After all, veteran cadres have a monthly pension of 5,000, and they also have real estate under their names. After thinking for a long time, the old cadre finally persuaded Aunt Xiao not to get the certificate, and the two lived together.
When working as a babysitter, the old cadre’s child gave Aunt Xiao a monthly salary of 4000. But now that the two live together, the children of the old cadres will naturally not give any more money.
In this way, Aunt Xiao has time to take care of the old cadres. Thinking of the relationship between the two, Aunt Xiao didn't say much. But every time my son heard about it, he always said that Aunt Xiao was stupid and would be a free nanny sooner or later.
3. Real estate money is transferred to the son, it has nothing to do with the remarried wife
When the elderly start to remarry, the most worrying thing is nothing more than the conflict between property distribution and self-interest. And Aunt Xiao is no exception. Although she was only for veteran cadres at the beginning, as time goes by, she will inevitably yearn for more.
It’s just that although the veteran cadre relies on her very much in life, he is very wary of Aunt Xiao Xiao economically. When Aunt Xiao was not paying attention, the old cadre transferred the real estate under his own name to his son, leaving only two thousand living expenses per month, and the rest of the salary card was left to his son for safekeeping.
Had it not been for Aunt Xiao to ask the old cadres for money, she hadn't realized that she had been calculated to have nothing.
Aunt Xiao worked hard and took care of old cadres for several years. Later, the veteran cadre died of illness, and Aunt Xiao was naturally squeezed out by the children of the veteran cadre.
They think that Aunt Xiao did not receive a certificate from her father. This is not a formal marriage, but just lives with her. Therefore, as soon as the veteran cadre died, the veteran cadre's child drove her out of the house and let her go out.
Seeing her being driven out of the house where she lived for a long time, Aunt Xiao couldn't help but burst into tears. She is 65 years old now, and all the money she has spent as a nanny over the years has been spent on household expenses.Not only that, but Aunt Xiao lived better than her life. Being guarded by thieves all day made her feel sick.
After being driven out of the house by the old cadre's child, Aunt Xiao went to find her son and daughter-in-law. But when the daughter-in-law reached out for money, and Aunt Xiao could only give out five thousand yuan, the daughter-in-law suddenly changed her face and directly urged Aunt Xiao to return to her hometown to support. Herself.
Looking at the son at the door, Aunt Xiao was full of sadness. She never thought that she was wrong. She raised her son to save money to buy a house for her son, but she ended up falling to the point where she couldn't support anything.
4. If you live with your partner, you must also know how to protect your own rights.
If you are not afraid of desertedness and loneliness, no one wants to be the nanny of others and serve others. Only remarried elderly people often face such problems. Once the remarried person dies, he really becomes superfluous.
Therefore, if the elderly remarry, they do not need to apply for a marriage certificate or do a wedding, so they have to step back. To live with your partner, you must also learn to protect your rights.
Otherwise, even if you sacrifice everything, the other party and the other party's children may not agree. What's even more annoying is that in many cases, the biological daughter-in-law also dislikes and complains.
Today’s topic:
What should I do if my partner’s child is kicked out of the house when I remarry?
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