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Recently, the popular singer broke up with his nine-year girlfriend who fell in love with him. The event ended with the singer's withdrawal from the entertainment industry. However, this nine-year emotional aftermath has not ended. People have extended from this incident to the reality of marriage and love to analyze the pros and cons of feelings.
Nine years ago, the male was just an unknown singer, no one knew it; the female had a career with promising development prospects. According to the situation at that time, the identities of the two people were not balanced.
Nine years later, the man became popular, with fame and money, and he thought that his identity was different from the past. Where's the girl? For her boyfriend, give up his career, stay with him, take care of him, and sacrifice his future for his career. Today, nine years later, they are still not equal: the man succeeded, but the woman lost everything.
Nine years, say long is not long, say short is not short. But, How many nine years are there in a woman’s youth? So, girls are not reconciled, right? When she was exhausted for him, but was not treated kindly, how hurt was her heart? Therefore, I can understand her feelings.
However, looking at this relationship, I still feel that it is the girl's fault, her stupidity. Of course, she is not the only woman in the world who is stupid for love!
In this world, a man's heart and a man's love will never stay or stay for you because you have suffered with him. There are many men who have a woman with him during the trough. When he reached the peak, although he did not abandon her, he did not prevent him from going outside to find someone. Some men even think that as long as I don't divorce, even if I am sympathetic, it is a reward for the woman for giving everything to accompany him through the trough.
But, is this what women need? In fact, I think it is good for this girl to break up now. Because even if she can wait to get married, this man cannot be loyal to her forever. He has been merciful everywhere now before marriage, let alone after marriage.
Unbalanced love or marriage,Harmony is only the surface, and the maintenance is only short-lived. When the essence of the inside is riddled with holes, the breakdown of the relationship or the failure of the marriage is only a matter of time.
If the girl didn't give up her career at the beginning, maybe she is also a famous dancer now. It's just a pity that love blinded her eyes. She thought that she had met the love of her life; she thought that with her sincerity, she could exchange the long love of a man.
Girl, you are stupid! Since ancient times, husbands and wives can only share adversities, and it is difficult to share wealth and wealth, not to mention that you are just a "girlfriend" of him!
A man who hasn't given his girlfriend a marriage for nine years, do you think he really loves you? Look, in his speech, he thinks that this relationship is the one you chased after, not the one he fell in love with.
He said that those chats he was in the group were just because of "cheap mouth". Who would buy such a pale excuse? Who would believe it? He said he hadn't touched any other girl except her. However, the photos he took of wearing couple shoes with other girls, are they just stealing pictures? If it is not personal experience, who can describe the process in such detail?
So, man, if you dare to do it, dare to admit it. What's the point of quibbling? It will only make people more offensive.
I suddenly remembered that many years ago, there was also a singer. He was also unknown at that time. For the sake of his future, he wanted to go to Beijing to develop. But at that time, he was married and had children. For his future, his wife didn't want to go to Beijing with him, but he said: It's not shameful for me to get married and have children. What am I afraid of? Besides, we now have a child, and we should let him grow up under the knees of his parents, so that he can be healthy and happy.
He did not hide the truth because of his marriage and childbirth. He even proactively and generously admitted and introduced his wife and children to the outside world. Many years later, he also succeeded. Today, he is still active in the music scene and is also deeply loved by fans. His wife has also been working hard to improve herself,He did not give up his progress because of him. Therefore, they are still loving as ever, which is also the result of the joint efforts of both parties.
A relationship can last only if it is "balanced". This balance includes ability, thought, identity and position. If one party loses balance, relationship or marriage in this relationship, it may start to decline.
So, as a girl, don't be dazzled by the so-called love. You know, what a man really loves is not your dedication and fulfillment, but the balance of being able to move forward hand in hand with him.
Look at the ancient Qin Xianglian, isn't it also for Chen Shimei ? In the end, it ended up being hunted down. Although it's just a plot, doesn't art also come from life? In reality, such cruel examples are not uncommon.
No matter how good a man is, no matter how deep the feeling is, it is not worth giving up yourself for him. Only by understanding this, can a woman be alone in her relationship or marriage, stand against the wind, and fearless.
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