Lead: There is a very sharp question in the family issue, which is the important issue of birth mother and adoptive mother. In my opinion, if you give birth without raising, it is actually an extremely irresponsible behavior. If it is not your biological child, it would be a great kindness to treat her as if she was born, and to raise her up.
So I think this question is not comparable at all, and the answer is of course the foster mother, because if a mother gives birth to you instead of you, then she is an irresponsible woman, and you treat her There shouldn't be too much affection, because she abandoned you first.
But if you are a woman who has no blood relationship with you, but can always endure your small temper and raise you from childhood to adulthood, then this is your noble person in this life and your benefactor, so no matter what Whatever happens, you should treat her well and take care of her.
was abandoned by her mother at the age of five
was born in a family of 5 years old, but she was born in a family of 5 years old and she was born in a family of 1span. With another man, she didn't want to continue to have such a hard life with her father, so she abandoned Xiao Min, left this home, and started her own new family in another city.
Soon after the mother left,My father drank booze every day, but he has been doing his duty as a father. Although she feels that Xiao Min’s mother is sorry for herself, but the child is her own and innocent after all, so she has been working hard to make money and raise it diligently. Min.
But Min thinks that there is only one father. After all, the family is incomplete. Many times when she sees other children with the mother's company, she is naturally very envious in her heart, so she sometimes feels extraordinarily Lonely, at that time she also hoped that when her mother would come back, she could hug and accompany herself.
But this kind of expectation is undoubtedly endless, and although she thinks day and night that her mother can come back, her mother has never come back once since she left. After a few years, Xiao Min gradually got used to it. Without a mother, she felt very happy to have such a father.
And when she was 10 years old, her father found a stepmother for her. Although she initially rejected this stepmother, she has always treated her since she entered her home. She took good care of her emotions, filled the vacancy in her heart, and gave her enough maternal love, so as the two slowly got along, she began to treat her stepmother as her own mother.
Not all stepmothers will criticize their children. This stepmother not only loves Xiao Min very much, but also because she feels that Xiao Min has been shocked since childhood and her heart is relatively fragile, so she has always maintained her self-esteem. And inwardly, Xiao Min can naturally feel the sincerity of his father and stepmother, so his heart is also very moved.
and the stepmother grew up with her like this,And she has been enlightening her. She thinks it's nice to have a mother, and she gradually changed the name of her stepmother from aunt to mother. The stepmother is also particularly pleased with the natural psychology of such a change, after all, her child can finally call her own mother.
The stepmother did her best
201span . The family felt very repulsive to the mother's arrival, but they were at a loss. The father naturally expressed his unwelcome first, but because of the dim impression of her mother in her mind, Xiao Min still wanted to see her mother.
and after seeing her, her mother was so cold and warm, but she didn't feel much in her heart. After all, she didn't come back when she needed her most. Now she has grown up and has a stepmother. She doesn't want her belated maternal love anymore.
So this time the mother may have recognized her daughter as a failure. No one in the family welcomed her, so she left dingy. But before leaving, she asked for the contact information of Xiao Min, and even after 3 to 5, Xiao Min felt cold and warm. After all, Xiao Min felt that she was her biological mother. It would be good to leave a contact information like this, so she kept it. .
Later she learned from her biological mother’s circle of friends that she is now living happily,There is a family of her own, and her own daughter, and seeing the girl’s smiling face, she feels very uncomfortable. After all, she has lived without her mother for 5 years, but the girl can lie with her mother. In your arms, enjoy maternal love.
and this kind of dissatisfaction gradually turned into a hatred for her biological mother, and even when her biological mother went to talk to her again, she would be able to avoid and directly refuse. Her chat request, because she felt that the two people were just strangers who were related by blood.
And she feels that her stepmother is for herself, and has not raised a child of her own for so many years. If she wants to be with her own mother and recognize her own mother, she is actually sorry for herself Stepmother, so she didn't want to have much contact with this woman.
So the two people kept a lukewarm relationship, but suddenly one afternoon, when Min was shopping with her stepmother, a strange phone came in and it showed It was a local number, so Xiao Min picked it up.
There was an unfamiliar voice on the other end of the phone, but he came up and called her sister, and said to her: "Sister, Mom is in the ICU. Give me 50,000 yuan for emergency." And listened. At this point, Xiao Min naturally knew where the call was from, and she knew it in her heart. She was very angry, so she said to the girl: "Which mother? I'm going shopping with my mother."
The biological mother asked for emergency,She was rejected
, and she hung up the phone. The reason why she didn’t take the money was because she felt that she didn’t need to support that woman. And it's more worthy of a flower, and the woman knows what life she would have without maternal love, and she has never looked back once in many years.
She feels that this woman is not worthy of her mother, let alone herself. Call her mother, let alone save 50,000 yuan to save her, and her family is not very wealthy, so she has more money. If you are not rich, it is not easy to come up with 50,000 yuan.
So she sternly refused, and told them to stop contacting herself in the future, she has nothing to do with them, she is living a happy, happy, and peaceful life now, they give herself to her Enough damage was caused, and she didn't want to think of those painful memories anymore. After sending this passage, she blocked the woman's contact information.
And she also feels that it is time to say goodbye to the past, because she now has a happy family, loving her father and a stepmother who is very dedicated to her. She felt that it was a great blessing in her life to have these two people by her side, and she didn't want the love and attention of her biological mother anymore.
There is a song like this, saying how much love can be repeated,I can tell you clearly now that there is no love to come back. Only the love given at the right time is worthy of being cherished and valued, and when others need you, you have not given enough love, in the hearts of others. When you were frustrated, you suddenly jumped out and talked about love. In fact, at this time, it has no effect, and the love you said is too cheap.
And I think if you encounter something like this and your biological mother abandons you and she never comes back, you should treat her as a stranger. After all, she just gave birth to you. If you haven't done your duty to nurture you, and have caused you so much pain, you can choose to forgive her, but you can't choose to recognize her.
If you are lucky enough to meet a stepmother who is very good to you, then you are lucky, but if your stepmother is very bad for you, then all of this is thanks to your biological mother. , So I think that if a woman abandons her child and wants to recognize it when the child grows up, it is actually an extremely irresponsible behavior.
Today’s topic, if you were Min, what would you do? Welcome to leave a message to tell us your views.
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