middle-aged, for most women , is an embarrassing existence.
At that time, she no longer had the beauty of her youth. Even if she was beautiful at first, she gradually became an ordinary woman with the passage of time.
Wrinkles would creep up her face, making her look so weathered, like leaves turning yellow in autumn, and only shivering.
In this case, most women start to focus on marriage , thinking that he is the in this life relying on , so they restrain their petty temperament and lower their posture to accommodate men.
Even in the future when she has no and that she can rely on, he will give up his opinion on her, hold her hand again, and the two will walk with each other.
As the saying goes, and in life are all but unsatisfactory. It is undeniable that a woman's attitude may be very sincere, but because there are many factors that lead to the breakdown of marriage, some women's wishes have never been fulfilled.
At that time, she was at the most difficult juncture in her life. There are faltering parents above who need to take care of and take care of by themselves-parents have gone to great lengths to raise themselves as adults. In this case, if she leaves rashly, it will inevitably have an immeasurable negative impact on her parents. As a child, how could she bear it? There are children under
who need careful attention. The appearance of the child gave her life more joy and meaning. At the moment when the child needs them most, if she lets go completely, the blow to the child will be immeasurable.
As a mother, how could she be willing?
can't bear it, can't bear it, can only support it.However, her physical strength and energy began to decline. Too many times, her own ability alone could not take care of it all.
When she needs help the most, women look around and find that there is no one to trust. In this case, its inner pain , one can imagine.
Therefore, many women have a deep fear of in middle age and always feel that it is a dark moment that belongs to them, so they can't help but feel a little scared.
If we expand our vision, we will find that the pains that middle-aged women give to women abound. However, some women are full of energy and exude aristocratic temperament. The reason why
is like this is that after they entered middle age, they began to pursue , these " luxury ".
1: In
"Golden Years", after learning about Zhu Suosuo's distress , Jiang Nansun let her move into his home without a word.
Since then, Jiang's parents have treated Zhu Suosuo like their own daughters. This kind of warms , which makes Zhu Suosuo, who looks at people's faces all day, move inexplicably.
She muttered: It's nice to be Jiang Nansun's friend.
The appearance of Jiang Nansun has brought light to Zhu Suosuo's life - it turns out that life does not have to be observant; it turns out that life can be so warm; it turns out that there are people who really care about themselves.
will give comfort when she is sad; she will give strength when her is depressed; will let herself lean on her shoulders when she is helpless, and tell herself in a gentle tone, don’t be afraid, She has always been there.
So, the confused and restless heart finally found a place to put it; so the pain and fear seemed to fade away.
Zhu Suosuo has always kept this warmth in his heart, always thinking that one day, he will be able to take care of her like Jiang Nansun takes care of himself, and let her feel the warmth of friendship .
I thought this was a long-term event, how could I know that the Jiang family would fail in the middle. After knowing the news, Zhu Suosuo bravely stood behind Jiang Nansun.
She did everything she could to keep Jiang Nansun's life on track.
After watching "Golden Years", many people were moved by the profound friendship between the two heroines. It turns out that the friendship between women can be so steadfast.
No accident, we will all become ordinary people, and then go through life in a busy life. If during this period, there is a good girlfriend who always stands behind you and spends it with you, then you will find that there are too many good things in life worth following.
Perhaps, pain, depression, and helplessness cannot be avoided. However, because there are people accompanying me, I feel that it is not as painful as I imagined.
2: Love yourself
A friend who had a serious illness once sighed to me: The most precious thing that a person has in his life is his own body.
You can't feel its beauty when it's intact. However, when you are really lying in the hospital bed, not knowing what will happen tomorrow, you will understand that your body is the most expensive machine.
This machine, even if it is only a small part, it is difficult to find a substitute.
When women enter middle age, the most "luxury" they need to pursue is actually to love themselves.
However, many women do not. They may be focusing on marriage and struggling in a hopeless marriage; or they may use other people's lives as a template and toss themselves again and again. The mysterious girl of
" Three Lives Three Worlds Ten Miles of Peach Blossoms ", if she did not use white light as a template, then in her life, perhaps due to her identity, she would not be able to recognize from the mirror , but according to her smartness, she thinks The probability of getting a common feeling is still relatively high.
Not to mention, she still has some connections with Bai Qian.
However, she doesn't. She had a thought that she shouldn't have, and stabbed a knife in Bai Qian's heart.
Even if she is generous, she doesn't care. However, the little fairies under Bai Qian are not so good. Because of this, her family is always excluded.
If she pulls back from the precipice at this point, there is still a chance of turning back. It's a pity that her mind has been deceived, and it has long lost its original purity, so she will allow her jealousy to break out, and repeatedly fall into danger.
Bai Qian, who seems to be gentle and easy to talk, is actually very preoccupied. The reason why she didn't take action against Xuannv was because she didn't want others to say that she was bullying the small. But that didn't mean she was afraid.
When Xuannv touches her inverse scale, Bai Qian will naturally pay back a hundredfold. If Xuannv had practiced her skills hard over the years, she would still be able to resist one or two. It's a pity that all her thoughts are devoted to her husband.
Therefore, when Bai Qian came aggressively, she could only be reduced to the existence of cannon fodder.If she didn't have the mind to compete with Bai Qian at the beginning, maybe it should be her husband's favor and her daughter surrounded by her. Maybe it's a little dull, but she's still happy.
When people reach middle age, smart women no longer regard "others" as a reference in their lives, and try their best to pursue those things that are not related to them.
but no longer demanding, the pursuit of loving yourself.
After half a lifetime, women should understand that friendship is more reliable than love in many cases; in many cases, as long as you love yourself well, happiness will naturally follow.
May every middle-aged woman have such a "luxury".
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