I don't know if you have noticed a phenomenon, there will always be a few people who like "diving" around us. If you send her a message, even if she can't reply in time, she will get back to you at a convenient time. information, but she never posts any news in the friend circle.
And, such people usually don't like to join in the fun. You can't see her in a large group of people, but you can see her seemingly lonely figure in a corner. Have people like
been neglected by their friends, and have alienated ? Actually not necessarily.
Some people do not like to gather by nature. She enjoys being alone. Some people find out that being alone and having a conversation with themselves is the most meaningful thing.
Those who are used to being low-key and don’t like to show off themselves are actually people who have dreams and goals of and . They don’t follow the crowd, so they don’t need to prove anything to others. Their confidence and courage are given by themselves. own, without getting anything from others.
Although they seem a little lonely and alienated, in fact they just live their lives the way they like.
The famous writer Yan Geling said: "After giving up the burden of making a good impression on others, one's heart will be so practical." Because he is not in the opinion of the unexpected world, he will live a steady and sure life.
01: The more you show off, the more you lack.
I don’t know if you pay attention to your Moments. Some people like to post delicious food, their own beauty photos, and travel pictures in Moments, even if they only go to the gym once a month. In the center, she will also carefully select a few sweaty photos and send them out for everyone to enjoy.
These people seem to be announcing to the world what they are doing, and after posting on the Moments, they will keep following other people's likes and comments. Why do
do this, maybe they need to be recognized by others too much.
Someone once said that the more a person shows off something to others, the more he lacks something. People show off in the circle of friends because they want to be recognized, but what she shows off is exactly what she lacks.
I was chatting with a classmate I hadn't seen for a long time, and I asked her why she didn't post it on the Moments so that everyone could know her news?
She said that she had forgotten about having a circle of friends. First, she didn't want to know about other people's lives. Second, she didn't care what others thought of her. In short, she had her own business to do and was very busy. The matter has already been blocked by her and .
suddenly remembered what she said when she was in school . At that time, many of our classmates liked to chat in the Internet cafe on weekends. Once in class, she suddenly said, I really don't know why people spend money to find strangers chat, waste time and money, does it make sense?
In fact, she is considered to be a person with deeper thinking among our classmates, but at the time we all felt that she was old-fashioned and out of tune with us, but now looking back on it, what she said at the beginning was very reasonable.
Why do we like to spend a lot of money and time talking to strangers?
is nothing more than , just want to get recognition from strangers, because the person on the other end of the computer does not know who you are or how many shortcomings and unbearable you have in real life.
Maybe the other party's whitewashed praise can make you feel high, but this is difficult to achieve in real life, so many people who are addicted to the Internet want to be recognized by others. Whether
was addicted to online chatting at the beginning, or showing off in the circle of friends today, it is nothing more than a lack of a person's heart. They can only find confidence in after they are recognized and praised, so they are not tired of this kind of thing.
02: Don't be swayed by the outside sound
I once read such a story, a group of snails participated in the mountain climbing competition, but they were mocked by other small animals on the way to climb the mountain, they said, how is this speed possible Climbing to the top of , what about ?
The long mountain road has shaken the confidence of many small snails, and when they hear the voices of denying from other small animals, they completely lose their confidence and courage, so they give up one by one.
In the end, a small snail actually climbed to the top of the mountain. As a result, the small snail that reached the top of the mountain was deaf.
Although this is a joke, it reveals a profound truth in life, that is, only by moving forward unswervingly on the road to success, it is possible to achieve your ideal goal. The little snail in the
story couldn't hear the outside world, so it just lowered its head and walked forward. Although the speed was slow, it was worth persevering and finally reached the top of the mountain.
Sometimes, we are like these little snails climbing a mountain. Although we have goals in our hearts, we never believe in ourselves. A negative voice from the outside world can shake our plans that have been brewing for a long time. Therefore, it is not that we are incompetent, but that we value the opinions of others too much and are too easily influenced by the outside world.
Why are we so swayed by the outside world? It's because I'm not confident enough that I care too much about what other people think.
So, if you decide to do something, then do it according to your inner thoughts, and don't let yourself be influenced by various voices from the outside world, because those voices are the experiences and opinions of others, and you know the best. Your only person is you.
implements it step by step according to the true thoughts in your heart, shielding those voices that hinder your progress, let alone trying to gain the approval of others. If you want to succeed, then you just go ahead and give the result to time.
03: Excellent people prefer to be alone
Nowadays, people are more and more pursuing the refinement of life. One of the manifestations is that people are becoming more and more aware that friends also need to be streamlined.
In fact, there are not so many people who can be equivalent to our three views, and with the enrichment of life experience, people who can be called friends will also have a cognitive gap with us. You will find that true friends less and less.
Therefore, many people now advocate "breaking away", which is to cut off meaningless people and things, so as to free up more time and energy to do more meaningful things.
There are many excellent people around them. They don’t have many friends, and it is rare that they attend any party. They seldom even go shopping. But the more “away” from the crowd, the more career The more they strive for perfection, the more wonderful their lives are, they all have one common characteristic, that is, they are good at being alone.
Some people misunderstand them, thinking that they live too selfishly and don’t know how to socialize, so they are isolated and alienated, but in fact, if they are isolated, they are also isolated by vulgarity, and they are walking in The road to goodness and excellence. In the book
"The Courage to Be Hated", there is such a sentence: "All troubles come from interpersonal communication". It is true that a lot of unhappiness in our lives stems from the failure to handle interpersonal relationships, so why not pull from the crowd, and does everything on its own?
Perhaps, when a person is no longer in the voice of the unexpected world, and is not controlled by the "circle of friends", he can play lightly without any scruples, and what she gets is her own real happiness, not because of being recognized. hapiness.
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