Do you want to have the " financial power" in the family? This problem must be familiar to every married woman . Even if women are becoming more and more independent, and even if countless people advocate AA after marriage, in fact, most women still believe that only by controlling a man's money can control and win his heart.
For this view, I am in denial. In my opinion, this sentence is the same as "If you want to grab a man's heart, you must first grab his stomach", which is actually self-deception.
The most changeable thing is people's hearts, even if your cooking skills are comparable to a five-star chef, even if you are in charge of all the money in the family, you can't stop a person who wants to change his mind from changing his mind.
Sometimes we can't even control our own hearts, how can we control the hearts of others? This in itself is a false proposition.
If you want to leave, you can't keep it, and if you don't want to leave, you can't drive away.
Of course, this is just my personal opinion, and there is a reason for a woman who holds the financial power in her family to control a man's heart.
First of all, this is similar to the sentence "A man who spends money for you may not love you, but a man who does not spend money for you will definitely not love you". If a man doesn't even let you manage his money, it means that he is more or less wary of you.
They may think that you will not be able to manage your finances and will spend money indiscriminately, or they may be worried that when the marriage changes, he will endure hardship. In short, they are not at ease with your money.
Furthermore, women have the financial power in the family, and the liquid funds in the hands of men will naturally decrease, which will restrict men to a certain extent, and they will not mess around outside. At least they will think about their wallets when spending money Not bearable.This can really dispel the idea of many men wanting to spend money.
So, for such a woman who thinks that the financial power in her family can seize the heart of a man, how can she make her man willingly hand over the money to her?
In my opinion, women at this time, if they want to achieve their goals, need to achieve three " is willing to ".
01: Another purpose of "willing" to give up one's free time and improve one's own financial power is actually how to make money "produce" money. This is also one of the best ways to make a man willing to hand over all the money in the family to you to take care of it.
For men, since they become a family, in many cases, they are not unwilling to let wife have financial power, but he believes that he is more suitable for financial management than his wife.
Property in one's own hands is more profitable than in the hands of his wife. But often wives don't understand, and they always don't understand the real reason why men don't let themselves have financial power, thinking that men have other thoughts.
At this time, women need to change their minds. Even if you want to gain financial power, don't make a sound. Instead, use your free time to learn some money management knowledge and try your hand at managing money with your own money first. After
, etc. have certain results, show them to my husband. I believe that you don't need to say more, he will take the initiative to give you the money willingly and let you manage your finances. And, when he sees your changes and your abilities, he will appreciate you more, admire you, love you more, and rely on you more.
This is much easier than Sapo, quarreling with , etc. to ask for money from him. Women who have such ideas can give it a try.
02"Will be willing" to spend money on their in-laws, be filial to their in-laws, and care about their in-laws
One of the reasons why many men don't want to give money to their wives is that once they give money to their wives, they have less money in their hands, and they are filial to their parents Inconvenient.
Because of "contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", in fact, many women are unwilling to spend money for their mother-in-law, but this is precisely what makes men suffer. On the one hand, it is his wife, on the other hand, it is his own mother, neither of which can be let go.
In the hearts of men, money is in their own hands. Even if the wife does not buy things for her mother and is not filial, she can secretly help her parents. But once the money is in the hands of the wife, the wife knows how much she spends, and there is no way to be filial to her parents.
I understand this concern of men. In fact, as long as women spend a little more money than usual on their in-laws, show more filial piety and care for them, and let their in-laws and their husbands see their "sincerity", they will soon be willing to hand over the money to you. In the hands of you, because of your changes, I will be more considerate of and , and love you more.
03 "willing" to spend money for each other's interest , hobby , give them enough space
It cannot be denied that many women are unwilling to spend money for their husband's interests, hobbies or habits. Such as smoking, drinking, fishing, playing billiards and so on.
In the eyes of women, these things are not only useless for spending money, but you can buy a lot of daily necessities with the money of fishing once. These things are the performance of men who are not doing their jobs properly, so they are too stingy in this regard.
In fact, these hobbies and interests of men, just like women buying cosmetics, buying jewelry and shopping for clothes, all stem from liking, and they also have a certain decompression effect. Without these, it is equivalent to not having their own interests.
When a woman is unwilling to pay for a man's interests and hobbies, a man will naturally complain, and he will not be willing to hand over financial power to a woman, so as to avoid listening to his wife's nagging and accusations.
So, understanding this, women should understand. If you want to master the financial power of the family, you need to give some funds to give men space, so that they have the money to pay for their interests. In this way, he will not only give the financial power to his wife willingly, but also feel that his wife is considerate. , gentle and generous, from the hall to the kitchen.
When a woman is "willing" this three points , no man can resist, she will be willing to hand over the money she earns to the woman, and she will love each other more.
But even so, I still want to warn women, don't try to control a man's heart by holding the financial power at home, because for a man with two hearts, even if they are penniless, they will do rude things .
Also, for rich men, it doesn't matter to them to pay attention to their money, because they have the ability to make money. For men who have no money, they will take money very seriously. When you have the financial power in the family, because of his preoccupation, the two will inevitably quarrel over money, and you will also suffer a lot of grievances.
A person who lets you manage money may not be really controlled by you, and a person who does not let you manage money does not necessarily love you. In any case, whether or not you have the financial power in your family, the most important thing is not to forget that it is the last word that you can make money.
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