Nowadays, various festivals are emerging one after another. "Valentine's Day", a festival from the West, has also become one of the favorite festivals of many men and women in our country. Everyone knows that Valentine's Day is a beautiful festival, but some people deliberately The meaning of Valentine's Day is misinterpreted. According to the literal meaning, it is misinterpreted as "a holiday with a lover". In my country, unmarried people are called boyfriends and girlfriends, married people are called husbands and wives, and only "third parties" are called It is a lover.
Life is short for a few autumns, and the person who gets married is not necessarily the one you love the most, and the appearance of a lover is inevitable. It is really not easy to meet someone who loves each other deeply, even if both parties miss the single one Opportunity, missed the most beautiful age, still reluctant to let go, clearly understand in my heart that such love will not have a future, or choose to be together regardless.
Of course, there are lovers who are not together for love. No matter what they are together for, the word "lover" does not seem to be blessed, and the ending is often not beautiful .
How many couples, how many couples, lost family for the so-called lover, gave up their family members, and even turned against each other, whether it is "Valentine's Day" or "lover robbery" or fate or robbery, no one can tell , But with a lover, there will always be a break after a long time. Lover, whether it is fate , or disaster, if you do the following 4 points, the ending will not be satisfactory, and the damage to yourself will be much less, and it can be counted. Happy ending.
01: don't promise or believe promise
lover's promise is like a rainstorm, when it comes, it is vigorous and vigorous, after rains and , it returns to its original state, and those who have experienced it quickly forget what it looks like
already knew It is very difficult for both parties to have results. If you promised your lover "I will divorce my wife and stay with you", if the other party takes it seriously, and divorced her other half, come to make trouble with you, you have to do it for yours The promise is responsible, but you can't be responsible for her.
Imagine, you divorced your first spouse for the promise of your lover, but the other party is unwilling. What will happen? , I broke up for his family, and after your divorce, I was afraid that you would also break up his family, so I would avoid you, let yourself suffer pain , and finally leave alone.
or you are divorced, he is still just a "sweet" promise to you, but he has no actual action, urging you, procrastinating again and again, and finally you are disappointed with her and leave him, this is also a good fit his mind.
Since everyone knows that there is no result, and the promise is difficult to fulfill, why should it be necessary to say it or believe the nonsense of the other party? I don't believe it or not, it's tacit, when it's time to separate from , it won't be so hard to let go, and there is no reason to be entangled.
02: Don't let the other party get pregnant or don't get pregnant.
Children are the key to happiness for normal families, but for lovers, they are a separate reminder.For a lover relationship that can only be hidden underground, pregnancy has to show the surface of the water, and it is difficult to hide it again. This will make both parties panic. After all, they both know that there will be no results for both parties. Child, I am obedient to you in every possible way. If the other party wants a child, it is better to be born with your own family. Wouldn’t it be better if the child is justifiable. A child can only be an accident to a lover, and it can only be an overtime device that forces you to separate. Children, there will be no fetters when we separate in the future.
03: Don’t give up your family’s responsibility for your lover.
Family, children, and parents are all your own responsibilities. It’s not like a lover, who can be broken up if you want to. If you have children, even if you really give up your family, you can't give up your responsibility to them. Children need to be raised, and parents need your care, which cannot be replaced by others. In one's life, apart from love, there are still many things to do. Don't take love as the only attribute of the journey of life. If you give up your responsibility, you will not raise your children, and your parents will ignore it. It will only make your life more and more in the future. pain.
04: Don't expect to last for a long time with .
has no hope, and there will be no disappointment. For lovers, you must maintain a certain sense of reason, and don't have too optimistic expectations about it. You can do it for love or something else. If you develop into a lover with him, if you meet someone who is better than him again, you can still give up him for a better next one, and vice versa. So control your mentality and grasp the scale well, this will make your life more relaxed and happy, relax your mentality, and only when you separate, is light and cloudy and , it will not be too painful, and you can leave calmly.
No matter whether it is a disaster or a fate, by doing the above points, you have left yourself a certain retreat . No matter what the ending is, you can live it in style and the ending is within the range that you can bear, and you can count it. A happy ending.
