When we are in contact with the opposite sex, we must decide whether to continue to develop because of the appearance of the other party at first, but whether the relationship can be stabilized is never achieved by the appearance.
The face is an external thing. It can make a deep impression on the other party through the intersection of eyes at the first time, but this impression has a shelf life, it cannot stay in people's subconscious all the time, it must be It takes the blessing of other objective factors to consolidate and deepen this impression.
Therefore, we always see such a scene in our life, that is, a woman is obviously not alluring, but the opposite sex is particularly good, the reason is that when they get along with the opposite sex, they pay more attention to some internal skills.
In the relationship between the sexes, the women who can really "sultry" are not so beautiful, but they have seized these three weaknesses of men.
Men's emotional needs also need to be met. In the
variety show "Under the Same Roof", Wang Tianqi's relationship with his mother is at odds. As a result, in the process of his growth, maternal love has always been a scarce substance.
After Chu Mengna knew the reason, in the process of getting along with Wang Tianqi, she always put herself in a maternal role, intentionally or unintentionally -
For example, Wang Tianqi didn't study hard, and only knew that when playing games, Chu Mengna would look serious Tell him to study hard, and even get angry with a straight face;
For example, Wang Tianqi didn't have a birthday, the reason was that his mother thought that Wang Tianqi's birthday was his Good Friday, so after learning about this, Chu Mengna bought Wang Tianqi one The birthday cake and birthday gifts made up for Wang Tianqi's long-term regrets.
Under various actions, Wang Tianqi's lack of emotion was made up for by Chu Mengna. Therefore, he also began to rely more and more on Chu Mengna, and finally confessed to her and confirmed his love relationship.
In Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, emotional needs are the most critical factor. Although men seem rational and invulnerable, they actually have soft spots in their hearts, and there are times when emotional needs need to be met.
If at this moment, a woman can see what a man really wants in his heart, then she can take the easiest way to tug at a man's heartstrings.
Giving is far more likely to be cared about than asking for it. Tang Jing in the
TV series "The First Half of My Life" has a successful career and is resolute in doing things. She also has her own principles in dealing with people, and she is not inferior to Luo Zijun in terms of beauty, but she is such a person , but failed emotionally.
Many people wonder why such an excellent Tang Jing finally lost to a Luo Zijun who is not as good as him. In fact, the reason is that Luo Zijun knows how to trouble He Han, and Tang Jing thinks about solving it by himself no matter what happens.
In real life, many independent women are keen on self-reliance, as if seeking help from men will break the label of independent women, and at the same time make themselves feel indebted.
However, the relationship between people can gradually heat up through mutual "trouble", just like two cups of water with very different temperatures, the only way to break the gap between each other and let the two cups of water be in the same container , so that the temperature of each other will gradually reach a state of equilibrium in a blending process.
Women don't like "troublesome" men. They seem to be independent, but in fact they block the communication of each other's feelings in a frame, they do not allow themselves to accept good things from others, and at the same time, they also shut out other people's feelings for themselves. In addition, there is always a gap between the two people, and the relationship naturally cannot achieve a qualitative leap.
Carnegie wrote this sentence in the book "The Weakness of Human Nature": "If you want to make a relationship last, then you have to let others do a little thing for you properly, which will make others feel presence and importance. ."
Therefore, it is necessary to learn to "trouble" men, so that the relationship can have a chance to warm up.
Men hope that they can be the hero of the other half.
Although men say that they appreciate those excellent women, in fact their feelings only stop at appreciation.
Because men prefer to love their weaker women compared to women's strong desire for mate selection, so that they can release their desire for protection and realize their inner heroism.
Therefore, when we get along with men, even if we are really good, we can appropriately "be humble", appropriately shrink ourselves to enlarge the other party, and appropriately restrain our own edge.
Carnegie once said this: "True wisdom is to know how to restrain one's own light and avoid stabbing others and making enemies. It is not to tell others how smart you are, but to bloom wisdom and confidence inadvertently, to be able to control yourself, and also They can control life, so they are not in a hurry, low-key and elegant."
Those women with high emotional intelligence may not have exquisite looks, but they know how to use men's weaknesses to achieve their goal of "sucking up men".
There has never been a shortcut to love. Only by using skills can you get twice the result with half the effort.
