Any relationship needs to be deliberately maintained, and relatives are formed only because the children of the two families are married, which can be regarded as a special kind of relatives.
The relationship between relatives is also very particular, because the relationship between relatives directly affects the feelings of the young couple. Whether it is emotional or rational, there should be a lot of attention.
This is not for others, but for the children to have a relaxed and pleasant environment. The support and understanding of both parents is really important.
It is a matter of getting along, and it is not a matter of overnight. If you do not follow certain principles and maintain certain boundaries, it is really easy to have a big contradiction, and the young couple becomes a sandwich biscuits.
It is best not to do these things when getting along with in-laws, otherwise it will easily affect the marriage of the young couple.
Do not have economic contacts
Talking about money is the most sensitive thing, and borrowing money can easily ruin a relationship.
Duan Xu and Dai Xixi in "The Ideal Life of Love" were supposed to talk about marriage and marriage. Dai Xixi's family is richer, but it is not material. They also appreciate Duan Xu's responsibility and sense of responsibility. The sequence of paragraphs is quite satisfactory.
What changed Dai Xixi’s parents was that Duan Xu’s parents actually borrowed money from Dai Xixi’s parents, and it was not a small amount. Dai Xixi’s parents borrowed because of their affection, but there was a grudge in their heart. Wanwan is unwilling to marry his precious daughter into such a bottomless family.
Because of Dai Xixi’s parents’ obstruction,And gave up the feelings with Dai Xixi, and finally experienced a big circle before reuniting with Dai Xixi.
This is a TV series, but in reality there are not so many gossips, and many contradictions have arisen, especially financial contradictions, which are often scattered and scattered.
It can be seen that it is best not to have economic contacts between relatives. There is really no such closeness between relatives. If it is not a last resort, please don't borrow money. This is really embarrassing the other party and is likely to leave hidden dangers in the future.
Don't have comparisons and selfishness
Although the two families become relatives because of their children's marriage, they are not necessarily in the same circle, so there is really no need to force them together.
For the children, it is actually enough for the two families to maintain a minimum of respect and courtesy. If there is no common language, don't force it.
The most feared thing is to compare between relatives and have selfishness. I always think about letting my own children overpower the other side, and automation has become two camps, where everything is compared and everything is in charge.
There was a conflict between the young couple. Instead of persuading the family to reconcile, the trivial matters were changed. Instead, they each spoke for their own children to expand the conflict.
How many people have marriages because of their parents' love of comparison and nosy, and the mix is messed up, and it ends up falling apart.
As parents, as long as the children live well, there is no need for unprincipled comparisons, and there is no need to let their children have an absolute advantage, withdraw from the children’s family life, and give them autonomy.In this way, the world is peaceful.
Don’t pass secrets
Anyone getting too close together is a disaster.
We all know the truth about the smell of distance and smell. In fact, between family members, as long as they spend the Chinese New Year and some necessary occasions, it is fine. Is it really necessary to be very intimate?
We still have conflicts with our own brothers and sisters, not to mention our children and relatives. On the surface, they are very close, but in fact there is not much affection.
The young couple will inevitably have conflicts and quarrels. It is inevitable that they will go home crying and complaining. At this time, as a parent, you really have to be clear about what you should manage and what you shouldn’t. Know it well.
The problem between the young couple will become even more insoluble if they are mixed with the parents.
My cousin’s mother has always stayed at my cousin’s house. At first, she helped bring the children, but then her mother was reluctant to leave when the child got older, so I just stayed permanently. My cousin’s father, my uncle’s grandfather, used to go to his son’s family to reunite during Chinese New Year.
But my cousin’s mother is here all year round, looking like a dove occupying a magpie’s nest. My uncle’s grandfather really can’t bear it. After the two had a quarrel, his uncle’s grandfather never went to his son’s house to reunite. Up.
It is only because the children get married that they become in-laws. It does not mean that the relationship must be so harmonious. If you are close to each other, you can't see you by looking down. If there is no contradiction, it will become a contradiction.
Closing remarks:
family,Literally, the relationship is quite close, but in fact, there is not much true feeling.
In fact, the marriage of children is also a kind of fate, as long as their young couple live happily.
Between in-laws, neither comparison nor selfishness, nor pretending to be close, is enough. Keep a certain distance and be polite and polite.
In fact, everyone lives behind closed doors, and live their lives well. When the young couple has a need, they can help, and then they can help. When there is no need, take care of each other. Life is enough.
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