Text/Qianqiu
I don’t know if you have ever heard of the phrase "marry a person depends on your father", my girlfriend CC has always believed in this truth, so the first criterion for her to marry is to look at each other What’s up with your father instead of looking at each other’s mother. Compared with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she valued her father's status in a family more.
CC has always had a good relationship with his current boyfriend. Both of them are talking about marriage, but I have never been optimistic about them because the man’s family conditions are average, and he can’t compare to CC’s previous boyfriend. CC broke up with a boyfriend after going to his house for the first time for dinner. Judging from the pictures shared by CC, the decoration of the man’s house is very proud, and his mother also values his son for the first time to take his girlfriend home and cooks a lot of hearty dishes.
Seeing such family conditions and the importance of the other's parents, which girl would be unhappy? On the contrary, it was CC. I really didn't feel happy at all. After eating that meal, I kept trying to break up with my boyfriend. I was wondering, why do I have to break up with this family condition? CC said: "When I went to his house, his mother was the only one working in the kitchen. His father and him stayed in the living room without chatting. They did their own things, and didn't expect to help his mother. Later, I asked him to find out that his mother would not let him work at home, and the mother would do it all alone."
"Isn't this good? It shows that he is very popular at home, his mother."
If I spoil him then, I will naturally spoil you too." Before I finished speaking, CC came in. She said, "The point is not this. The point is his father. He doesn't do anything at home, just lie there and wait for food. Yes, like an uncle. I'm lazy to take things. I always tell his mother to take them. He speaks like commands. It makes people uncomfortable to listen to. I don't feel very respectful of his mother's appearance."
I said: "This Isn’t it normal? The previous generation of boys did not do housework. And you married your boyfriend, not his dad." CC sighed and said, "You don’t understand, boyfriend is in this environment. When I grow up, I’m probably used to being the same as his dad. If he gets married, how will he live? Forget it,I dare not bet. "
CC is not completely unreasonable. In terms of character, the influence of his father on the son is still quite big. If he gets married, he will give his family to CC all-inclusive, with CC’s character affirmed. Not happy, so she decided to break up. Later, CC found her current boyfriend, and after a meal at his house, she decided to marry her current boyfriend.
My friend’s father is completely different from his former father. When CC went to his house for dinner for the first time, she saw two people busy in the kitchen. Her boyfriend’s father was in charge, and her mother washed the vegetables. They said yes. Laugh. After the meal, the boyfriend took the initiative to wash the dishes, his mother did not stop, the family division of labor is very clear.
CC said: "Although his home decoration is very ordinary, not the previous one. I am proud, but I am more concerned about the sense of family atmosphere than money. The current family looks very harmonious, with the smoke and smoke of life, in contrast to the predecessor, their family atmosphere is too deserted. "
Through CC's view of "marrying you must look at your father", I understand that looking at a family is not just looking at family conditions, but more importantly, looking at the family atmosphere, and the status and status of the other's father in the family. Parents’ ways of getting along. Material conditions are important, but sometimes too much emphasis is placed on material satisfaction, which will make you lose your psychological satisfaction.
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