Many forks in life are the result of choices.
For example, choose Plan A or Plan B. The pull between dreams and reality will never let anyone go. The same is true for love. Some people choose to have no hesitation when they are young. It is not until they have experienced the polishing of the years that they find that the years have not bypassed anyone.
Once impulsive, the reality is so cruel.
"He is 20 years older than me. He used to fight with the whole family to be with him"
Ms. Meng is 45 years old, she is the mature age of a woman with outstanding grace and grace. Children who have a stable career at an age, a certain economic foundation, can make sense, and a successful husband...
Ke Meng's life is totally different from this model. It's not because of the choice made many years ago.
What Meng Meng has to do every day is to get up at 5 o'clock in the morning, take care of the house, and prepare breakfast. One big and one small, they all have to eat on time at 6 o’clock, my daughter has to go to work early to eat in middle school, and my husband has to wake up at 6 o’clock to eat because he can’t sleep. Then, Sister Meng packed up and sent her daughter to school, and immediately returned to send her husband to the hospital for rehabilitation.
In general, elderly people can’t sleep well in the morning. The same is true for Meng's husband. Meng's husband is 65 years old, yes, 20 years older than Meng. At the beginning, my husband was a friend of Meng's father's father. He was originally called an uncle. He has been in their house. He looked handsome in that era. He wore sunglasses and was a divorced man.
When the 25-year-old sister Meng, who was born in love, got on the back seat of the 45-year-old uncle’s motorcycle for the first time, the world seemed to be theirs. It’s windy, it’s definitely a scene in a small town.
Break through the shackles of public opinion and choose this uncle without hesitation
Sister Meng and Dad’s friends are together, this news spread like wildfire.At that time, Ms. Meng's parents almost wanted someone to interrupt the man's leg, saying, "When you are a brother, you want to be our son-in-law." But Sister Meng was still with him without hesitation.
At the beginning, this man was still a little accomplished. Working in a local bureau is also considered to be within the system and has a certain social status. If you are ten years younger, even if you are divorced, you won't be so disgusted by your family. However, it is really 20 years older. This gap allows parents to see the crisis in the future, which will ruin the happiness of their daughter.
Women in love are brainless, and the tricks of Yingyingyanyan, who are used to seeing young boys, are so touching for the 45-year-old uncle's maturity and stability to handle everything properly for you. The uncle introduced sister Meng to a relatively good corporate job and bought a lot of things for her. Even the parents needed to see a doctor or something, and found a good relationship in advance.
Slowly, the attitude of the family has also changed. After the uncle persisted for five or six years, Meng Jie also succeeded in becoming a leftover girl in a small city. For this reason, the parents' caliber also softened, and they finally got the marriage certificate just right.
Slowly, life faded away from the sweetness and bitterness
After getting married, it was a sweet life and gave birth to a daughter. But the good times didn’t last long. Since reaching the age of 50, her husband’s memory has rapidly diminished, and his ability to think and react is not as good as before. In addition, when the 55-year-old unit assigns him to the leisure department, he has no real power anymore. Those interpersonal relationships are also very realistic and drift away.
At the age of 60, her husband retired and suffered an acute cerebral infarction in the poker game that year. After treatment, although his life was not serious, his reaction was slower, his walking was trembling, and his hands were wobbly like a rattle. "We have been separated for 5 years, because of his old man, I can't bear it", this is the voice of Meng Sister. But Sister Meng will not get divorced. Although she has no love, sex, and spiritual communication, she cannot shirk the responsibility of taking care of her because her husband is the father of her daughter.
Every time I see middle-aged couples of similar age, they are still full of vitality.Sister Meng couldn't help but envy her as she walked away. However, as the saying goes, this is her choice. The choice made many years ago has the path of today. What can I say?!
The girl once knew that life was not easy, but she didn't want to joke about her innocence. This is a frustration of choice, not a deserved one. Such an improvised marriage is not wonderful, but Meng Jie has learned to chew on her own and bear it silently.
The union of old and young wives, will you regret it?
It is inevitable to think twice about life. The same is true for love. If you choose this road, the road in the future may not be smooth, and the scenery along the road may not be what you want to see. However, no one can rewind and start again.
I have to say that the marriage of old couples and young wives does make people addicted to it at the beginning, it is a love that makes one's heart beat by one's own choice. However, when the years gradually faded away from the magnificent appearance and returned to the simplicity of life, I realized that the relationship between ideal and reality is very painful, and we must pay a price for it.
The last thing I want to say is that the negative effects of such age difference will continue to occur as the marriage time is long. Do you mind "old couples and young wives" or "old wives and young husbands"?
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