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How to improve my self-confidence is the most frequently asked question every time I open a new book sharing session. Most of the girls who ask these questions are more introverted and don't dare to actively express their ideas in front of others, but they are eager to change themselves.
On this issue, I think I still have a bit of a say.
Before going to university, I was also a girl with no self-confidence. At that time, I looked mediocre and had mediocre academic performance. I belonged to the kind of girl who would never be noticed by everyone.
I am envious of the beautiful girls in the class, who can sing and dance, have a cheerful personality and have many friends. I always wonder why they can be liked by everyone, and why don’t God give me such abilities and talents .
In this way, when I was in college, I accidentally entered the school's radio station and started contacting the broadcast host. When I heard someone praise my voice for the first time, I was very surprised, but that experience made me gradually build self-confidence, knowing that I also have advantages.
Slowly, I started to fall in love with the broadcast host, and also started to get in touch with speeches and debates. After graduating from university, because of this experience, I went to work in the provincial radio station and came into contact with a bigger stage.
When I heard my voice from the radio waves for the first time, I thought it was the most beautiful thing in the world.
Next, I started to do self-media, write articles, and record shows. I smoothly gained many fans, and published my first book smoothly, and achieved results that I had never dreamed of before.
now,There are many people who envy my life, and think that I can do everything I want to do is a special thing, and many people are asking me how to express what I want to express in front of everyone. Everything can be calm and gentle, is it natural to have such a personality?
I want to say, if you don’t understand my past, you will definitely not understand how difficult my transformation is, but it’s just this difficulty that made me what I have achieved today. I am very grateful for the one who never gave up. Working hard to change myself, I am even more grateful to those who have helped me.
Along the way, I have met a lot of excellent women, radio anchors, self-media people, writers, entertainers...I feel more and more that it is a great thing to be a confident woman. Because you have the confidence to make yourself better, have the ability to pursue the life you want, and have the courage to run towards your own beautiful future.
Of course, I have slowly discovered some ways to become self-confident from them and myself. I will summarize it to you today, and hope it will be helpful to you.
You have to accept everything you have Some people feel that their looks are not perfect, some feel that their abilities are not strong enough, and some feel that their voices are not good...In short, they have various shortcomings.
But I really want to tell you that there is no perfect person in this world, and those who are perfect in your eyes will have shortcomings, but you can’t see it, but in her own eyes, it may be Things that make her very distressed.
To put it plainly, in fact, everyone's shortcomings can only be obtained by their own attention, others will not look so carefully, so you don't have to enlarge your shortcomings infinitely, that will only add to your own troubles.
Of course, discovering our own shortcomings is also a good thing, because we can improve ourselves in a targeted manner. For example, if you feel that you are not tall enough,You can learn to dress to change your disadvantages. For example, if you feel that you are not in good shape, just stop your mouth and open your legs and exercise hard. For example, if you feel that your face is not good enough, then take good care of yourself and make up well, and keep it within a safe range. Make fine-tuning to make yourself better. For example, if you feel that you are inadequate, then study hard and improve.
Anyway, don't blame yourself, let alone blame God for not giving you enough. In fact, all your shortcomings are your characteristics. As long as you can accept it from the bottom of your heart and reconcile with yourself, you will develop in a good direction. .
hope that every woman can give herself some specific value, let herself shine in the field that she is good at. When you can do this, you will slowly build up your own self-confidence.
Never think about being perfect people, we will be the most unique star.
To encourage yourself to try It's "I don't think I can do it."
is such a "I'm afraid I can't do it" thinking that many people stop even if they dare not even try, losing the opportunity to make themselves better.
Failure is indeed a sad thing, but who in this world can guarantee that he will always be successful?
When I first started self-media, I had countless failures. The articles I wrote were not recognized by others, and the recorded programs were complained by others. I couldn't find my own style. I did it for a long time and no one liked it and had no income.
Faced with these, I also thought about giving up, but in the end I continued to encourage myself, let myself try again, and persist. Finally, I have my own online blog post, and I also have many fans who like me, which makes me feel very happy and satisfied.
I am very grateful to the self who clenched his teeth at the beginning. I especially like the self who didn’t shrink back then.If it weren't for that girl, there wouldn't be who I am now.
So, do you want to encourage yourself and try it boldly. Even if you fail, it doesn't matter. Maybe in every attempt, you will find what you are good at and build up your self-confidence.
To find a circle that suits you more
Along the way, I am very fortunate that I have a few like-minded friends who often help me to discuss with me. The problem also affirms my hard work and dedication.
Sometimes when I feel that I am particularly bad, they will continue to cheer me up and let me see that I have so many good points and that so many people love me.
In such a loving circle, you will gradually build up self-confidence, but if you choose a circle that is not suitable for you, you will gradually lose self-confidence in the constant blows.
As an adult, you must have this intuition, that is, don’t force yourself in circles that don’t belong to you, just like the new season’s " 奇葩说", if you feel that your peers are better than you Good, then you should change circles.
Everyone has their own circle. Don't always make ineffective efforts in those circles that make you feel pressured, let alone hurt yourself in circles that are beaten and denied.
Finding what suits you is more important than anything else.
You must have your own hobbies
Things you don’t like, no matter how much you give, there will be no good results. Just like me, I learned pipa from an early age and spent a lot of time And energy,But since I really don’t like this instrument, I don’t even have a car in the end.
But when I grew up, I found things that I liked, such as broadcast hosts, such as playing the piano. I practiced and researched endlessly and never felt tired.
Because I really like it, it is easy for me to find out where my strength lies. After I gradually gain something, I will be very satisfied and happy.
If you are also a girl who wants to build self-confidence, the first thing to do is to find your own hobby, and work hard to persevere in this matter, so that you can get twice the result with half the effort.
I hope you can be a girl who talks about your hobbies, because such a girl is really beautiful.
To set goals for yourself
Life without goals is confused, which is why many girls around me are not confident.
I used to be a person who didn't know how to set goals for myself, but when I was doing self-media, I met a lot of excellent self-media people. They set long-term and short-term goals for themselves, and then worked hard for them. struggle.
Seeing their passionate blood, I understand what setting goals means to us. Because you have goals, you have motivation, and because you complete them, you will gain self-confidence. This is a virtuous circle. It is much better than working hard without knowing why you work hard.
If you can’t find your direction in life for the time being, then my advice to you is to set small goals, such as persisting in practicing calligraphy for 30 days, such as learning a piano song, such as losing 5 pounds of meat, such as taking the test A certificate.
When you complete these small goals, you will gain confidence, and you will slowly find your favorite area, and then work hard for it.
Life is such a continuous upgrading process, try this method,It's really effective.
Must have the ability to think independently , Because they are very independent and have the ability to think independently.
Although everyone is crying for independence, I believe that not everyone understands the meaning of independence. Independence is actually that you know what you want and can work hard for it. If you achieve it, then congratulate yourself, if not Realize without denying yourself, adjust your goals in time, and keep improving yourself.
I hope that every girl can have this ability, not to be affected by the people and things around her, she changes every day, can't find her own life direction every day, and loses self-confidence in the confusion.
Of course, this kind of ability needs to be accumulated. If you don’t have it now, don’t worry. When your experience and experience gradually enrich, you will start to have it slowly, but the premise is that you must learn to think, and It's not just like everyone else.
To maintain your own bottom line and principles
In this complicated world, many women are easily influenced by the outside world. Others like luxury goods, she also wants luxury goods, others do full-time, she also does full-time.
Seriously, I don’t think there is anything wrong with liking luxury goods, and I don’t think it will be bad to be full-time, but you have to keep your bottom line and principles, that is, don’t touch things that don’t belong to you.
I have seen too many women, because I look up to these things that do not belong to me, and then I lose myself. In order to get these, I don't hesitate to give up my most precious things. In the end, I also lose the happiness that belongs to me.
A truly confident woman will focus on herself,They have never been kidnapped by these things from the outside world, and they can feel the truest needs in their hearts.
I hope that every one of you can work hard in this direction, and hope that every one of you can become a confident woman with a bottom line, principle, and confidence.
The matter of enhancing self-confidence is actually not difficult at all. Starting from these 7 aspects and changing yourself, you will soon feel your own change.
Of course, changing this is not easy. It requires determination, perseverance, and step out of the comfort zone. But life is so short, how do you know how good you are if you don't fight for yourself, don't let your future self look down on you now.
I hope that in the new year, every woman can increase her self-confidence and meet her best self.
.I am Xiyan, a columnist, an old girl who is neither old nor old. I like to write warm words and do emotional programs. "The rest of your life is related to me" has been published. If you have a story, remember Come to me.
