Nowadays, elementary school students are all in the evening and are relatively late after school in the afternoon. For example, my child comes out of school at 5:45, and when he gets home it usually takes after 6:30. Come back and wait for cooking, eating, tutoring homework, reading, and then washing and going to bed. Everything is like rushing, but it takes a long time to get it every day.
There are only 3 hours to go home from school, and I feel that there is not enough time. Especially when children are procrastinating in their homework, careless and playful, parents are also upset. Because the parent-child homework is constantly in full swing, two hours often pass in a flash...
During the day, children have to go to school and adults have to go to work. Only nights are together should be a rare parent-child time, but they are always spent in "spreading chaos", which shows that life is "a mess"!
How did your child spend the time after school? As the mother of the two treasures, I think I have done a very bad job in this regard. I learned an article about my child’s school time management not long ago. I feel that the method is very good. I will summarize and share it with you and encourage you together!
7:30: Parent-child communication time
Communicate with children. You can start from the way to school, and it is also a good chat place at the dining table. Understand children's campus life, help children solve problems and difficulties, understand children's psychological dynamics in a timely manner, and enhance parent-child relationships.
But during the chat process, don’t just care about the issues you care about. For example, parents usually ask their children: How are they performing in school today? How much homework has you written? How many points are tested...
Whenever a child says an unsatisfactory answer, you may not be able to help but start judging education. In this way, will inevitably "dead" . Over time, the child will no longer be willing to open his heart to his parents.
Expert advice
Education expert Qian Zhiliang said: A good communication model in childhood will lay a good foundation for future parent-child communication between parents and children.
suggests that parents can interact with their children sincerely through "5 questions", which is the basis for establishing a good parent-child relationship.
. What is the fun thing that happened today? evokes children's good memories in campus life, cultivates their favorable feelings for the school, and reduces the impact of negative emotions.
. What did the teacher say that impressed you? Deepen the child’s impression of what he learned, and also understand what he learned that day, and use this to achieve the purpose of letting him relive the classroom content.
. Is there anything that I find difficult? Many times, we only see that the child is in poor learning status and has poor grades, but we are not sure whether he is having trouble in his studies. Guide the child to speak out, help him analyze himself and solve problems.
. What interesting things did your good friend do? Understanding and mastering children’s social situation at school, guiding their “peer acceptance”, and creating a positive peer relationship will benefit the child throughout his life.
. Is there anything you need to help from dad/mother? The sentence not only expresses concern, but also gives the child a signal: no matter what happens, you don’t need to face it alone, and parents will always be his strong backing!
7:30-8:30 Tutoring homework/accompanying study time
Speaking of tutoring homework for children, many parents are full of "hard tears"! Even celebrity parents such as Yue Yunpeng , Andy Lau cannot escape the scene of collapse in tutoring their children's homework. What's more, we, academic masters, are rare varieties after all!
It is not surprising that the scene "was out of control for a while". I still can’t say it over and over again. Even if I have to jump to the Buddha, I have to jump! When it comes to tutoring homework, almost all parents’ worries are the same.
Expert advice
Irritability will never solve the problem. Instead of doing this, it is better to adjust your mentality and change your thinking to solve the problem.To accompany your child to do homework, parents are advised to follow 3 steps:
★Ask your child’s plan
For example, how many homework is there in each subject today? How many have been completed? Which subject is the most difficult to do, and how do you plan to solve it? Do the hard ones first or the simple ones first? How long does it take to complete... During the Q&A process of
, we learned about the progress of the child's homework, and the child was more aware of his homework, and he would be much more efficient in doing it later.
★2 Help children master the method
This method depends on the specific situation of the individual, for example, some children are difficult to memorize poetry. Then parents will tell them the memorization skills, such as paying attention to rhyme, finding out keywords, and understanding the meaning of poems.
And some children cannot remember words, we can teach them natural spelling, card memory, image memory, classified memory, repeated reading or writing to deepen memory, etc.
★Three checks and analyzes key and difficult points
First of all, the child’s homework must be self-checked. Parents will read it again. The focus is not on correcting the errors, but on combining the homework situation and test results to understand the child’s learning situation, such as which questions are prone to mistakes and why (Is it careless or not understanding).
helps children understand the key points thoroughly, find the reasons, and be good at summarizing and telling them which types of questions are more wrong, and how to avoid waiting for . If you accumulate knowledge points and methods to a certain extent, the chance of making mistakes in the exam will be much smaller.
8:30-9:30 Parent-child reading time
Maybe some parents ask, the child’s literacy has increased greatly, and he can read independently, so he still needs to accompany him? Although children no longer need you to introduce and explain to them, parent-child reading is more important to establish family reading habits and serve as a bridge for communication with children, rather than completing them as tasks.
Think about it, sitting with your child in the soft light to read a book is so warm and pleasant. There are so many benefits of reading, but most children's reading habits require parents' words and deeds and family atmosphere .
Experts suggest
How to cultivate children's interest in reading and make it a habit? What can we do when reading with our children? Regarding these issues, it is enough for parents to do three things well for their children!
. Read suitable books. What book a child read depends on what we buy for him. Generally, books suitable for elementary school students are nothing more than: story and picture books, fairy tales and fables, myths, classic children's beautiful articles, classic classics, popular science, celebrity stories, growth inspirational stories, etc.
. Create a reading environment and atmosphere. creates a comfortable and bright reading environment for children. You can place desks and bookshelfs in a study or in a corner of your home, install sofas, lay soft carpets, etc., so that the entire space becomes casual and interesting, allowing children to read relaxedly.
. communication when reading. can read quietly with the child, or talk and listen to each other; if the child wants to, he can act as his loyal listener; exchange reading experiences together, or evaluate the content of the book; he can also guide the child to continue the story and encourage him to show his understanding of the work in the form of painting.
written at the end
As parents, we learn in life practice every day, accompanying our children to continue to explore and move forward in the process of growing up. When you become excellent, your children will also change as you change.
No matter how busy or tired you are, you should know that your child only has only 3 hours after school every day. Do you have any better suggestions on how to achieve high-quality companionship and education? Let’s talk about it together.
