Now many people are criticizing China's exam-oriented education, and the loudest voice is that children are burdened with heavy burdens and stifle children's nature.
cannot deny that some of the knowledge learned in the classroom is not mandatory for all students, and even a lot of learning content is of no use to children’s future growth. Children don’t need to spend too much time learning. This is not what we are today. What to focus on.
But what you have to know is that under the current background of China's examination-oriented education, you cannot change this system, you have to adapt to it.
The so-called survival of the fittest is the same with education. Although exam-oriented education may still have many shortcomings and shortcomings, if the national college entrance examination is based on the so-called quality, how many poor and backward children in China can rely on this to get out of the family and see the outside world.
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6zchildren don’t want to go to school? Good communication is the key.
We often encounter situations like this in our lives. Children are not motivated to learn. It is normal for children to be tired of learning and to be lazy, or they are clearly working hard, but their grades just do not improve.
Children in primary and secondary schools are under a lot of learning pressure. Each teacher assigns a lot of homework. It is normal to go home every night and do homework until ten o'clock in the evening.
Many children complain over time that homework is too annoying, why go to school and don’t want to continue studying, it’s too annoying.
"Mom, I don't want to go to school anymore."
"Can I not go to school today? I want to be at home."
"School is too boring, it's not fun at all, I won't go today, I won't go to kill me Go to school." Almost every child has said these words above
. When
encounters this kind of situation, some parents will drag their children to school by force, some parents will use snacks to lure and warn them, and some parents will be furious and beat and scold.
Therefore, when hear their children say that they don’t want to go to school, moms and dads can stop getting angry first, but first think about why the children say this and listen to the children’s true thoughts.
Many times, children say "do not want to go to school", in fact, just like adults say "do not want to go to work", it is only a kind of emotional vent. What they need is only the understanding and tolerance of their parents.
If we can calmly listen to the child’s reasons and give the child an outlet for emotional venting, in many cases, there is no need for parents to do anything at all, and the child can find the state on his own and return to school.
If after listening to your child’s reasons, you feel that the problem of your child’s “don’t want to go to school” has involved school and classmates, then you should not complain about your child. Instead, you should take the initiative to find a teacher to communicate actively to solve the real problem .
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Reading is very hard, but I am happy when I get good grades.
Going to school is indeed a very hard thing. There is probably not a single child who likes to go to school. The only difference between
is that some children realize the importance of going to school and persevere; some children are overwhelmed by the hardship of going to school, so they give in. How
makes children realize the importance of going to school is something all parents must do.
Mom and dad should tell their children a goal. In the process of achieving the goal, they have to spend their time and sweat, and they have to work hard until they succeed. This process is definitely unhappy.
Happiness is reflected in the results of learning. The joy of learning will only be shown when a child achieves excellent grades and sees his hard work in return.
The child is a rubber band, and the parents and teachers are the ones who tighten the rubber band. If the tension is too great, it will break.
Children are lively by nature and have endless curiosity for things they are interested in.
But the reality is that children face a monotonous and boring campus life, fierce competition and anxious teacher groups at school. The pressure caused by exams and rankings has forced them to breathe.
At the same time, the home that should have been a safe haven is also full of competition.
"How much is the silent writing today? Look at the children of other people's families..." From the parents' point of view, it is a caring inquiry, but inadvertently exerted more pressure on the children.
At this time, the child is like a thin rubber band, and the teacher and parents are the ones who tighten the rubber band at both ends. As the pulling force gets bigger and bigger, the rubber band becomes tighter and tighter. If you don’t let go, the rubber band will break sooner or later. .
has found in clinical research on the psychology of teenagers and children that when children feel pressure, they will have subconscious resistance and psychological problems. These problems have an incubation period for a certain period of time, and generally do not occur in elementary school, but when they arrive in middle and high school, they are like a landmine.
is a parent, it is normal to have expectations of their children, but it is better for parents to keep their ardent expectations in their hearts than to put them on their lips.
"Tsinghua University, Beijing University", these concrete indicators of expectations will only cause endless anxiety and pressure for children, and make children resist learning.
Parents who have the ability to create an environment where children are willing to learn are qualified parents.
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6zWhen it’s right, parents should force their children
Mr. Cai Kangyong said something very well. He said:
"At the age of 5, I found it difficult to swim and gave up swimming. At the age of 18 I met someone you like and asked you to go swimming. , You have to say'I don't know it'; 18-year-old finds English difficult and give up English, 28-year-old has a great job but needs to know English, you have to say'I don't know it'. "
If you don't want your child to grow After regretting it, parents must take responsibility, walk in the front, and become a guide for their children.
tells children that if they don’t study well early in life, they will inevitably regret it when they grow up.
When the child wants to give up a certain study, say to him: "My child, hold on, I will accompany you."
As Long Yingtai wrote to his son:
"Child, I ask You study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future, to choose meaningful and time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living."
Learning is never the same. A light thing, it not only requires the child's hard work, but also the patience of parents.
When a child wants to give up, give full play to the "dignity" of the parents to discipline and be strict with the child. This is to truly love the child.
Sometimes, parents just want to "force" their children.
If parents force their children to learn what they don’t want to learn, it’s the parents’ improper actions; if parents force their children to do what they have already chosen, that’s the responsibility of the parents. Don’t educate the children halfway.
No matter what you insist on will be effective, there will be a sense of accomplishment when there is effect, and only when there is a sense of accomplishment will you persist. Over time, you can develop good habits. Let your children understand: If you don’t endure hardship today, you will endure hardship; Work hard for a lifetime.
In fact, the real education is to fight father and mother.
It is impossible for an excellent child to be born out of nowhere. Behind it, there must be countless hours and efforts of parents.
