Article | Fortunately pregnant sister (senior maternal and child nurse, original is not easy, please do not plagiarize)
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neighbors have a son and a daughter, after the wife gave birth to the eldest son, he is completely a "strict father" image, to the son His requirements are extremely strict and he often yells at his children, but since the birth of his youngest daughter, he seems to be a different person. He holds his daughter all the time, and surrounds her daughters all the time. He speaks gently and softly when facing his cute daughter. Even the wife said that she had forgotten herself after having a lover, and the eldest son became jealous. As far as the current trend is concerned, Dazhi is a typical "daughter slave." How did
daughter slaves form?
According to a psychological study, it is a natural response of the brain to doting on a daughter by a father. The answer to the daughter’s question is more emotional, while the son is more rational.
Due to the different social role positioning, when fathers see their daughters happy, their brains responsible for visual processing and facial processing are activated, and they will also be very happy. When they see their son expressing excitement, the brain will do this His reaction was just a blank expression: Oh.
In front of his son, the father must show masculinity, perseverance, and not good at words, like a "macho father", in front of his daughter, they immediately transformed into a gentle "heart-warming dad".
A father who actively participates in the growth of his daughter can bring his children enough confidence and a sense of security to help them establish a close and healthy relationship with their partners in the future. The daughter can learn how to get along with men from the father, and the daughter will grow up. The criteria for choosing a spouse are mostly based on the father's appearance.
In life, those girls who are unscrupulous and coquettish relying on their boyfriend’s love, mostly have a father who has loved her, loved her, and spoiled her since childhood. On the contrary, those who suffer from gains and losses in love, dare not lose their temper, and always feel wronged. Most of her own girls lacked the care and love of their father during their childhood.
It’s not wrong for fathers to pet their daughters, but they must be moderate, otherwise they may bury the following hidden dangers-
hidden dangers of over-loving their daughters
1, daughters become arrogant and self-willed
If the father loves his daughter excessively, the child depends on the father Love, unscrupulous trouble, and forgiveness for doing wrong and acting coquettishly will undoubtedly make children develop an arrogant and self-willed character. They do not understand empathy in their relationships, and it is difficult to manage an intimate relationship.
2. It’s not conducive to the child’s independence.
If the father always revolves around his daughter and depends on his daughter for everything, he will mistake the child for thinking that he is the center of the world. "Princess Jiao", if the daughter cries, the father will make various accommodations, which will make the child willful, lack courage and independence.
3. Boys in second-child families are vulnerable to injury.
If there is a one-child and one-daughter family, the father’s attitude towards the two children will be very different, which will make the boy’s inner scales imbalance, become sensitive and low self-esteem, and even affect the relationship between brothers and feet. After all, boys also have a soft heart under their strong appearance, and they also need the care and love of their father.
How should a father pet his daughter?
1. Spoiling instead of spoiling
When petting your daughter, you must have certain principles and bottom lines. When the child's request is unreasonable, don't easily satisfy it. It is best to adopt a strict and compassionate education method to give your daughter enough safety At the same time of feeling and encouragement, children can welcome their own life independently and confidently. After all, no one except their parents will treat you unconditionally. Girls can only take the initiative in their destiny if they live independently and confidently.
2. Cultivate your daughter's independence
No matter how much you love your daughter, you can't do everything for her. When you reach a certain age, you must know how to let go. First, start by cultivating daily basic self-care ability and cultivate your daughter's independence. If a daughter is overly dependent on her father, when she leaves her original family, she will become anxious because of the loss of her father’s umbrella, and will lead to constant quarrels with her husband.
3, a friend who is a daughter
no matter how much she loves her daughter, she can’t let her form "everything is centered on me"Do not have a special sense of superiority. Fathers must learn to be friends with their daughters. You can chat with each other openly. In the growth education, let your daughter think more, choose more, and make more decisions. Let your children solve problems independently. Children have correct values.
