was four or five years old, his son seemed to have many questions every day, waiting for the adults to answer. For example, once I was writing something, he was eating lunch next to him: "Mom, why should I eat rice?" I raised my head and stopped my work.
"Because you have the strength to eat, you can learn and play!"
"Why do you have to eat rice to have strength? Can't you eat hamburgers and fries?"
I looked at him helplessly, thinking about the child's mind Did it pretend to be a "hundred thousand why"? The frequency of "why" in this home is too high.
Why does the leaves fall? Why sleep? Why should I pay for something? ...It made me realize: He is no longer the kid who believes everything and listens honestly to everything!
He is becoming a person with independent judgment and independent thinking.
love to ask questions=Being smart
In theory, the advanced cognition of the human brain will accelerate at around 5 or 6 years old and enter its golden age.
American educational psychologist Benjamin Bloom once put forward a famous theory: thinking ability pyramid . From bottom to top, this pyramid shows the development process from bottom thinking to high thinking.
Thinking Ability Pyramid
• Memory : It involves simple memory of speech, without the need to reorganize and process the original input information.
• Understanding : Thinking with a goal in the reading process.
• Application : Apply abstract information to new situations.
• analysis : express the opinions and logic of others in your own words.
• Comprehensive : apply perspective and logic transfer to other situations and lives.
• Evaluation and creation : Derive logical and can influence others' opinions or positions.
Memory, comprehension, and application are all primary thinking skills, and analysis, integration, and creation are advanced thinking skills. When children are 2 or 3 years old, they are basically in their infancy. At this time, they do not have the ability to independently choose the world, but simply understand and remember, and all applications are surface imitations. The obvious performance of
is that they have no obvious objections to what they said to you. Usually adults think that children at this time are easy to take and are more obedient.
When a child grows up, he will have his own ideas, and even if you say the answer, he will ask questions. It is the "analysis" and "evaluation" of advanced thinking skills. The child’s advanced cognitive development is about 5 or 6 years old is the golden age. As parents, we must cultivate children’s thinking skills during this time period.
Faced with children's rising cognition and increasing questions, the attitude of parents is very important. If they choose to perfuse and lie, then the accumulation of refusal will destroy the child's thinking ability. If things go on like this, the child's curiosity will gradually diminish, and will always stay at the elementary thinking stage and lack progress.
So, what are we going to do?
To guide children to "self-generate"
When children ask questions, if they have enough time to guide, they can "self-generate" answers as much as possible.
Daniel L. Schwartz mentioned in "Science Learning Stanford Golden Learning Principles": In solving problems, a part of information is used to compose complete information, and self-generation is the process of retrieving this part of information.
"Memory" is often used as a phrase, but it is more appropriate to separate it into "remember" and "remember". "Remembering" is to collect and catalog the information obtained for the first time, leaving a short trace in the mind. And "memory" is to make memories and internalize it into self-existence. The self-generation of
relies on "memory" to function.
For example, a question that many children will ask: "Mom, where do I come from?" To guide children to generate answers, we can answer:
"What is the little flower on the balcony before it blooms? Of?"
"a seed, buried inIn the dirt. "Z1z
, "Why is it buried in the soil?"
"Afraid of being trampled on?"
"How did it bloom later?"
"Watering and sunbathing!"
"Yes, actually everyone is one At the beginning, it was also a small seed, so are you. In order to protect you from being hurt, you were in my stomach from the beginning. Guess how you grew up?"
"Eat, Come to sleep!"
Each step here is a reminder for the child, and it is best to combine the language that the child understands and the example that he often comes into contact with.
You can say the first half sentence and ask him to answer the second half sentence, or take the initiative to ask him questions and kick him the "ball". These are better than giving him the answer directly. Image source of
: Internet
Although we all know that children ask questions to gain knowledge, many parents still feel annoyed or unable to answer.
, especially preschool children, are not good at disguising their emotions. Whenever they have a problem, they want to know the answer immediately, which will add "worries" to parents inadvertently. The other is that parents have limited cognition, not everything can be answered, and there are some things that are not clear in a few words.
If you are busy right now and don’t have much time to answer your child, you can do this:
, like the question above, instead of using answers such as "sent for phone bills" or "picked up on the road" to perfuse your children. Simply say "come out of mother's belly".
Children may be sensitive to the fact that their mother should be answering questions seriously, but they will also want to know the details. Then you can say: "Later, mother will tell you this secret that belongs to you and me. Mom now I don’t have time, I’m not good at speaking.”
gave the child a simple answer first and gave him a buffer space. The most important thing about is our attitude, which will let him know what his problem is. What was seen was not fooled.
For older children’s questions, we can also suggest that when we are free, we will take him online or search for answers in books. This process is far more meaningful than obtaining results, but provides children with a way to find answers the way.
This is also an important way of self-generation.
Three points of self-generation
Here are a few practical examples to explain to everyone the three points that guide children to self-generate:
1, the difficulty of the clues should be well grasped
For example, the child asks "Why do people eat? "If the child already understands the structure of the body, you can remind him, "What is the stomach? What happens if it is empty?" If the child has not been exposed to relevant information, the information presented cannot be so complicated. Find the reminder tag in the familiar life experience.
Two days ago, my son asked me: "Mom, what meat is the best?" I thought he didn’t know the terms such as elbow meat and tenderloin, but he just took him to eat Peking duck recently. I replied: "This meat needs to be grilled in a hanging oven and put on sauce from Beijing." My son quickly replied: "Beijing roast duck is the best meat!"
I went on to say, meat you think is delicious , The meat that you eat with the person you like is probably the best.
reminds children that what they have seen in their lives, children’s minds will immediately come up with a roast duck with tender skin and tender meat.
On the contrary, if we suggest that elbow meat is the best, and the child has not seen it, even if the description is very appropriate, the child will not be able to answer it. Because this message has never appeared in his mind, let alone the beauty of it.
2. Ask the child
with open questions. Before we answer, we can throw the question out. This is both lazy and useful. "Why do you think this is?" The child will first mobilize all cognition and memory on his own initiative, and add a prompt from the parent to give a general answer.
Once my son asked me, "Mom, why does the bird fly?" I said, "Because it has...what do you think it has?" My son thought for a while and replied, "The bird has wings!"
Through your conversational communication, one by one, one by one.With children thinking on their own, 's answers through brainstorming are much deeper than those directly given by parents.
3, strengthen the path from the clue to the answer
can use the past experience together as a clue.
"The last time I went to the mall, why did you cry?"
"Because my mother didn't buy me hamburgers, so I cried."
"Why buy hamburgers?"
"Because I was hungry."
"I was hungry." The stomach is uncomfortable, so I want to eat burgers. Do you know why people eat?"
"Because you don’t eat, your stomach will feel hungry and uncomfortable."
guides the children to play "self-generation" by constantly giving clues in the memory "effect. The path from the
strengthening clue to the answer can also be expressed through practice. Once during breakfast, my son asked me, "Why are some of the same big cakes sweet, but some have no taste?" I said, "Some of the cakes are filled with sugar, and some are not." My son still said it was very good. Looks puzzled. So when we got home from get off work that night, we started making pie, and the knowledge was acquired manually.
Sometimes allows children to actively participate in this is also a very useful clue , easy for children to think and understand the answer better.
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In recent years, parents have paid more and more attention to their thinking ability. Many parents are willing to spend tens of thousands of yuan to enroll their children in various thinking training cram schools, but they are unwilling to answer one more question from their children. I thought I had paid a lot, but I just ignored the most effective way to cultivate children's thinking ability in : answer the questions well.
Question and answer communication between parent-child relationships is the best starting line for children.
Every child is the best question maker, answering the questions well can protect the child's thirst for knowledge. As children get older, guiding them to think about how to ask quality questions is a top priority.
