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After the final exam is over, what parents care most about is how the child is doing.
Therefore, many parents will ask their children how they are doing when they are out of the examination room.
If children feel good about themselves in the exam, they will naturally share the exam process happily in the face of parents' questions.
But if the child feels bad about himself, the parent's inquiry will only be a deeper hurt.
Parents say "how did you do on the test", for a child who fails the test, it is tantamount to sprinkling salt on the "wound" to deepen the child's negative emotions.
In the minds of children who have failed in the exam, whether it is a daily question of "how did they do on the exam" from their parents or classmates, they always feel that others look down upon themselves.
will make children feel annoyed, helpless, and have a strong sense of depression because of unsatisfactory grades.
Therefore, as a parent, in the sensitive period when the child has just finished the exam, he should pay more attention to the inner changes of the child.
encourages children to regain their confidence in learning, instead of asking about their grades blindly.
So when it comes to encouragement, parents should also learn to go step by step and find the right method to achieve better encouragement effect.
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Parents try not to show negative emotions.
How well your child performs in the exam can actually be seen when the child walks out of the exam room.
Generally, children who feel good about themselves will have a smile on their face, but on the contrary, they will have a sad face.
Because for children, examinations are their most important thing at present, and children can more or less perceive the importance of examination results to them.
Therefore, children who can't hide their emotions tend to express their emotions in the first place.
When the parents see this, they don't need to ask too much to know the exam situation.
Therefore, in the face of children who are in a bad mood when they walk out of the examination room, the parents' emotions should be opposite to that of the children.
Parents may have emotions and will be angry and complain about their children's bad exams, but don't show it so that the children can see.
If parents behave too negatively, sighing, it will cause a psychological burden on their children.
Therefore, what parents have to do is to calm down, use a peaceful attitude to communicate with their children, and in a reciprocal relationship, encourage children and help children get out of negative emotions.
Only in this way can children effectively listen to what their parents say and regain their confidence in learning.
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Helping the child vent their negative emotions
If you fail in the exam, no matter who you are, you will feel disappointed and will have negative emotions, and children are of course no exception. It is normal for
to have negative emotions, but if the negative emotions persist for a long time, then parents’ help is needed.
For this reason, parents should consciously help and guide their children so that they can vent their negative emotions.
Sometimes parents don’t need to say much, just relying on body language can help children ease their emotions.
Hug the child, or gently touch the back of the child's head, use body movements to comfort and care for the child, and let the child feel the care of the parent.
This is the best way to comfort and encourage.
When the child's mood calms down a bit, the parent can appropriately divert the child's attention, take the child to the amusement park, or watch an interesting movie with the child. These behaviors of
can help children vent their emotions and quickly jump out of negative emotions.
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Encourage children to fail in
exam is not equal to failure in life
When the child is out of negative emotions, parents should promptly encourage the child through words.
creates a warm and positive space for children's hearts.
What parents should tell their children at this time is that a failure in an exam does not mean a permanent failure.
and take this opportunity to tell children that failure and success in life go hand in hand, there is no permanent success,There is no permanent failure.
teaches children to summarize lessons from failure, find out the main reason for their failure in the exam, and correct and overcome it.
Whether it is because the exam did not perform well, or the answer was careless, even if the exam was not prioritized, parents must accept the reality peacefully.
encourages children not to fall twice in the same place.
warns children to remember the lessons of failure, regain confidence, and catch up.
In short, after the final exams are over, parents should not blindly care about how their children are doing in the exam, they should learn to observe their emotions and feel their children’s emotional changes.
Use appropriate methods to encourage children appropriately, which is the greatest concern for children. Parents of
should also understand that grades are only temporary. If parents scold their children for temporary grades, they will be trapped in negative emotions and lose confidence in learning.
Therefore, the first thing parents do after their children have finished the exam is to encourage them, regardless of their grades.
If the grade is good, then it is to let the child keep up, if the grade is not good, that is the best comfort to the child.
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