In recent years, children’s mental health problems have continued to become younger and more concealed. Parents have not paid enough attention to their children’s mental health, which has become an important reason why children’s mental health problems frequently occur.
Aizhihui Family Education Teacher Yang said, “Mental health is more important than quality education. To become talents, adolescents must first become adults and be a capitalized person.”
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Children’s psychological problems are always accompanied by growth. Elementary school, university, as the parents of children of different ages, do you pay attention to your children's mental health?
Health is "a good state of physical, psychological, social adaptation and morality."
However, the existing health management is actually biased towards physical health while ignoring mental health.
Children’s psychological problems are the same as physical health, they are born and grow with them. I often see such parents whose children have colds, fevers, decreased eyesight, loose teeth and other diseases. They are very anxious. They immediately go to the hospital for professional treatment, register the most expensive experts, buy the most expensive drugs, and wish they could get sick for their children.
If the child says, "Mom, I don't want to go to school", "I don't want to communicate with my classmates", "Why am I unhappy every day", "I don't want to talk to anyone"...
"You are just pretending, hit you I'll be honest with one meal.", "It's okay, kid, it'll be fine in a few days"...maybe parents will say.
Children’s psychological problems come from this way. Parents use the concepts of the previous generation and take it for granted that they don’t care. They directly neglect the children’s feelings and cause the children’s psychological burden. Not going to school for a long time, autism and other problems.
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What psychological problems might happen to our children?
According to statistics, among the children and adolescents under the age of 17 in my country, at least 30 million people suffer from various psychological problems. The psychological and behavioral problems of left-behind children, single-parent children, and only children are particularly prominent.
common psychological problems affecting mental health include learning problems, such as test anxiety, learning difficulties, etc.;
interpersonal problems, such as school maladjustment, truancy, etc.; emotional problems;
behavior problems, such as bullying, self-harm, and recklessness Taking risks; bad behavior problems such as Internet addiction.
Early detection and identification of the psychological problems faced by children and adolescents can help them shape normal personality and correct behavior patterns, regulate their emotions and learning pressure, and enhance the ability of children and adolescents to face frustration and pressure.
needs unconditional love from parents, equal treatment, friendly circle of friends, and attention to children's mental health.
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To love the child, feel him, accept him
Parents want to give their children unconditional love.
Unconditional love requires parents to understand the child, feel the child with heart, and accept the child in all directions.
Unconditional love requires parents to be able to give their children the freedom to be themselves, to support the children to become themselves and realize themselves.
"The Secret Corner" Zhu Chaoyang's mother Zhou Chunhong, when Zhu Chaoyang was very young, she divorced Zhu Chaoyang's father. With his meager salary, one person pulled Zhu Chaoyang up.
looks like she does not require repayment for the love she gave to her children, but in fact she wants to repay it. What she asked for was Zhu Chaoyang's absolute obedience to her, and she wanted to have absolute control over Zhu Chaoyang. Z1z
Zhu Chaoyang, who grew up in a single-parent family, is no longer just her son in a sense, but her entire life, binding her happiness and life to her son.
How can children be happy in such an airtight, similarly surveillance environment? That glass of spilt milk shattered Zhou Chunhong's heart and made Zhu Chaoyang walk on a road that was destined to be unhappy.
"Love" has very rich connotations, such as warmth, care, tolerance, comfort, encouragement, reward, praise, trust, support, etc. The love of parents for their children is the most precious nutrition in mental health.
Only children who are bathed in the shower of love can feel safe, adapt to various environments, learn to interact with others, and form a lively and cheerful personality.
loves him, but not spoiled or spoiled;Pampering and spoiling make children develop bad habits of willfulness, dependence, and selfishness. Blindly "praising" makes the child's ability to withstand frustration weakened.
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Your child is not actually your child
Your child is actually not your child.
They are the children born of life's desire for itself.
They came to this world with the help of you, but not because of you.
They are by your side, but they don't belong to you.
What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts,
because they have their own thoughts.
What you can protect is their body, but not their soul,
because their soul belongs to tomorrow,
belongs to tomorrow you can’t even dream of.
…… (——Gibran)
In real life, although many parents want to know the inner feelings of their children, the traditional roles unintentionally revealed will cause obstacles in communicating with their children.
For example, some parents call themselves "commanders" and they always have a commanding tone when talking with their children;
some parents are like "preachers", like nagging, telling children what they should and should not do;
Some parents feel that they are smarter than their children, and put on an omniscient look in front of their children. This attitude is also easy to disgust their children; some parents are critics, and their speech often contains ridicule, sarcasm, or giving. Children "label".
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love; give the child a friendly circle of friends
create a healthy psychological environment for the child, which is a circle of life composed of relatives and friends.
If the family is harmonious, and the parents respect each other, understand each other, and tolerate each other, the children will be in such a very democratic, enlightened and harmonious family. They will gradually be influenced by the ears and eyes, and receive subtle education and infection.
Children’s friendship provides many important functions, including companionship, stimulation, body and emotion. In different developmental periods, each function has different degrees of importance.
Many studies have proved this statement. More than half of the children mentioned for emotional or behavioral problems have no friends or experience difficulties in peer communication.
Compared with children who lack friends, children with good friends have higher self-esteem, they are less likely to feel lonely, and they perform better socially.
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If you have a psychological problem, seek professionals in time.
Children will encounter various psychological problems during the growth stage. If you think your child’s mental state is not good, you can try to find the problem from your parents first. change. Z1z
Frozen three feet is not a day's cold. If the child's state is not corrected in time through the efforts of the child and family, it is necessary to conduct professional psychological consultation in time and let the professionals solve the problem for you. The
expert will teach children the correct concept of self-growth and the positive force in life while guiding the children's psychological problems. They will be very helpful for future learning and growth and become a strong person.
tend to be more mentally healthy people who are more able to ask for help, they are more courageous to face problems, take the initiative to make changes, and have a more optimistic attitude towards the future.
Actively seeking help is an ability in itself, and it is also a performance of being responsible, caring and wise.
