Intro:
In ancient times, people’s thoughts and concepts were mostly: "Many children are more blessed." It depends on whose family the people are prosperous, and whose family has more children, it proves that the happier the family is, and it also means The whole family will flourish. Later, the term "children and daughters" came up again, which meant to have children, one boy and one girl, that was the best combination, and it was able to pass on from generation to generation, and the little padded jacket knew how to love people. This was the happiest combination. .
But recently, this statement has also been broken. The happiest family combination selected on the Internet was released, but it was unexpectedly: the combination of two daughters. In fact, the modern young people's childbirth model can hardly jump through these four circles. They are "a male and a female group, two male group, two female group, single male group or single female group".
Next, we will look at the advantages and disadvantages of several combinations.
Single boy or single girl group: Mostly "too lonely"
First, let's take a look at the only girl or single boy group, which means that this family only has one child, which may be a little boy or a little girl. Especially in previous years because of family planning reasons, many families chose to have only one child, but more parents still want to have another child.
As long as there is a little boy or girl, the child is really too lonely. There is no brother or sister to play and fight together, share and company, not only the child is slightly lonely, but also the loneliness of the elderly in the future.
Once the child has something, it means that the parents will be left unaccompanied in old age. The evening scene is very bleak, so it is very likely that they will be slightly lonely and desolate in their old age.
-a male and a female combination: most of the "contradictions"
also has a combination, that is, a combination of children and daughters, there is a man and a woman in the family. This kind of combination looks perfect, but when I study it carefully, I find that this kind of relationship under the family is full of contradictions. Since
is a male and a female, it is very likely to trigger the idea of patriarchal patriarchalism. Many parents find it difficult to achieve a fair balance and may cause "aunt-in-law conflict" in the future. Even due to the different genders of the children, a series of family conflicts will erupt with some old-age issues and inheritance issues.
Therefore, the so-called combination of children and daughters is not as happy as everyone thinks. The key is to look at the education of parents, otherwise not only parents will have a lot of pressure, but the family will also have very big conflicts.
Two-boy combination:
has a great pressure. Another combination is two-boy combination, that is, two little boys are born in the family. Perhaps this is the most undesirable pattern for many couples. Once two little boys appear, it means that the burden of the family is even heavier.
The cost of raising young boys is high. Not only do they have to be brought up to college, but in the future, they will marry a daughter-in-law and bring children. Looking around us, in fact, most of them are borne by their parents. If there are two boys in the family, the financial situation of the parents is simply "stressful". It is very likely to reduce the overall quality of life of the family and also reduce the happiness of the whole family. The needs of the two children will not be met. There will also be a feeling of inferiority, which is not a very ideal model.
Two-girl combination: the atmosphere is harmonious.
is the two-girl combination in the end, that is, two girls in a family. This is the "happiest family" among the many population monuments today. For families with two daughters, there is no need to worry about the bleakness of having only one child, nor the contradiction between two children. Girls are more considerate. Sisters can talk to each other in private, give ideas to each other, and rely on each other when they are not with their parents.
all say that the daughter is the "intimate little quilted jacket" of the parents, and the cost of raising is lower than that of the two boys. It can not only relieve the financial pressure of the parents, but also the two girls will get along well, without the parents having to worry about it. The family is very harmonious, which makes it the happiest combination in the eyes of netizens.
In fact, no matter which combination, each has its own advantages and disadvantages. The key is to look at the parents' own mentality and education methods. As long as the children are educated properly, then no matter which combination, the children will work hard and be very filial Yes, parents will be happy in their old age, and the family will eventually become very harmonious.
If there is a problem with education, it may happen even for two girlsAll kinds of contradictions. So this also requires us to look at the problem with a dialectical perspective.
So in the process of raising children, parents especially need to pay attention to the following three points:
•Establish a scientific concept of childbirth, "Buddha" treats the gender of the fetus
Many parents especially want to know the gender of their children during pregnancy. Understand, but the child’s gender is still Buddhist. As long as
is one's own child, it is a kind of fate. If you insist on asking the child's gender, it will not be as you wish. With a normal heart, life will be simple and easy.
•According to the actual situation of oneself and family, choose the number of children
Some couples see that others have second children, and they follow suit. They do not consider whether their family's economic and material conditions can withstand the pressure of raising two children. If
cannot afford to have a second child, it is not only irresponsible to the child, but also exerts a lot of pressure on one's own life in disguise.
•You are responsible for giving birth to a child, and provide a good education to your child.
Having children and raising children is not just a simple matter of eating and feeding, but more importantly, education. Having a correct outlook on life and values, knowing how to be filial to parents, knowing hard work, and developing in the right direction, then such a family is happy, regardless of the gender and number of children.
Don’t deliberately expect the sex of the fetus. Boys and girls are the same. When it comes to the number of children, don’t blindly follow suit. You should choose which one to have children according to your own family’s actual conditions and your own physical conditions. Quantity. After being born, you must be responsible to your children, teach your children to be filial and kind, and give them a good education. In this way, no matter which combination it is, the family will have a very happy life.
What kind of family group are you? Which combination model do you think is the happiest?
