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"My parents don't have a son like me"
There was a very popular post on major forums. A netizen complained about his ten-year-old nephew. This little nephew
is a very good kid, and he is also outstanding in various specialties of Olympiad, Go, and roller skating.
However, this child thinks: "I am too good, my parents do not have such a good son." The reason for
is: parents don’t have much money, they can only drive more than 100,000 Nissan cars, classmates have Iphone7, He only has a phone watch.
This is the typical "little white-eyed wolf" in people's mouth. The biggest failure of
as a parent is not to have no money, but to be disliked by the child who raised him, all because this child does not understand gratitude.
There are many parents who think that “children will naturally be sensible when they grow up.”
But when a child who does not understand gratitude grows up, will it really get better?
He has stayed in Japan for five years and has never worked. The tuition and living expenses are paid by his mother's monthly income of RMB 7,000.
's mother raised debts everywhere, but couldn't get the money. He actually stabbed the mother who came to pick him up at the airport for 9 dollars.
The 25-year-old youth should have been independent, relying on their own part-time job to solve (or partially solve) the cost of studying abroad.
But he enjoys the greenhouse life provided by his mother's hard work with peace of mind. When his mother can't afford to pay, he is not grateful and turns his resentment into nine dollars. The
case reminds all parents. Children who don’t understand gratitude will only become more terrible when they grow up.
"The big tree looks at the seedlings, the people's big looks at the small".
In fact, when the child is young, the parents' influence is the most profound and direct.
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is grateful that you need to learn from childhood
A Thai public welfare film quietly became popular in the circle of friends. The protagonist of the
short film is an elementary school teacher named Ba Zuo. He takes his mother with dementia to work every day and asks her to sit in the last row of the classroom.
This arouses the curiosity of the children and causes the children to be distracted in class. Parents of
also have opinions. There are even parents who plan to transfer their children. Principal
talked to Ba, about him taking his mother to class, which caused the parents to disagree, saying that he could help find a good nanny to take care of his mother.
was rejected by Ba Zuo. From Ba Zuo's point of view, his life was given by his mother. Now his mother is old and only knows him and can only be taken care of by him.
When Ba Zuo was talking with the principal, Ba Zuo's mother was lost.
Bazuo looked for her mother everywhere, and the students heard teacher Bazuo's cry and spontaneously helped the teacher find her.
Although parents worry that their children will not concentrate in class, they feel the "change" of their children: a child gives his mother a big hug after school.
watched his mother driving, a boy said: "When I grow up, I will drive you too."
The children learned the most precious thing from Teacher Ba Zuo, and that is gratitude.
is grateful that we need to teach the children well.
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Children know how to be grateful,
is the biggest comfort in a family
In Hui County, Henan Province, there is also such a boy. His name is Lu Zikuan and he is eleven years old this year.
's father suffers from myelodysplastic syndrome. He has been struggling for several years and must have a bone marrow transplant as soon as possible.
Dad can't wait for a suitable donor. For the family, Lu Zikuan is the best candidate.
He loves his son and is willing to give up treatment.
Lu Zikuan wanted to donate marrow to save his father. He smiled and comforted his father and said, "It's okay, just take something from my body and put it in your body."
But they still have a problem. The doctor said that the donor weighed the least. To reach 90 catties, the heavier the better, but the width of the road is only 66 pounds.
Lu Zikuan said confidently: "Isn't it just getting fatter? I can do it." He began to gain weight. Braised pork, rice, eggs, milk...what can he eat to gain weight? He never eats fatty meat before, so he is too tired.
But in order to save Dad, Luzi gritted his teeth and swallowed thick pieces of meat into his stomach.
has gained 36 kilograms of fat in just three months.
On July 18, he accompanied his father to Beijing for treatment. One week before
, blood was drawn. After that, the mobilization needle was injected several times a day. The pain was so painful that he could not sleep. The big beads of sweat dripped from his forehead, but he didn't cry or cry. Make trouble, because everything is for dear father.
A child who knows how to be grateful, has a sense of responsibility in his heart and has the courage to take it. They are still young, but they are powerful arms for their parents. Children like
, when they grow up, are the pillars of the family and the support of their lovers. No matter what kind of work you are engaged in, it must be safe and reassuring.
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How can we raise a grateful child
1, let the child learn to be independent
The growth of a child is a process of continuous learning and progress. There is only one way to learn to walk, talk, eat, dress...
grows quickly, that Just keep trying, time and time again.
What parents need to do is to teach them the right way, give guidance and encouragement when their children have reached the age suitable for doing something, instead of doing it all alone.
When children have the ability to do things independently, their sense of responsibility will increase day by day, and they will also gain a sense of value and happiness.
Parents who don’t take care of themselves raise an independent child, understand their own things and do their own things, and are grateful when others help themselves, because helping is a sentiment, not helping is a duty.
2, good parent-child relationship
There is a famous saying: "Failure is the mother of success", this sentence can not be more appropriate for children.
For this world, children are new to the world, full of curiosity, but they are not capable enough and occasionally mess things up.
Parents need tolerance and patience to treat their children, and they can share their happiness when they do things that make people happy. When
makes mistakes, it will accept their imperfections and understand their difficulties. Li Meijin, a professor at
Public Security University, said: “If the child has done something wrong, it is best for parents not to do anything, but to adopt a silent method. There is a word in psychology called long-gaze. When parents are waiting for the child to explain, the child There will be an echo in the heart." This kind of echo of
is that children can feel the love, care and tolerance of their parents for themselves, which will promote their inner guilt.
has the so-called "thanks to parents for not beating or scolding", which allows parents and children to maintain a good parent-child relationship.
A good parent-child relationship is like a nutrient solution, nurturing a child who knows how to be grateful, and let the child see the parents' dedication to themselves.
3, learn to reject children
Parents who will not reject can not raise a grateful child. There is a story in the
movie "Goodbye, Nor Seen".
Chen Bolin plays the role of Manager Chen. He sees his long-lost father with a lame leg and working hard. But he saved his meager salary and went to a brand-name shoe store to buy a birthday present for his younger son. The younger son of
disliked that the shoes were not the latest models, and aggressively said that he wanted to buy a laptop. The father took the computer leaflet and asked Manager Chen which one is better. The youngest son of
was clubbing with a group of friends. After being drunk, he was violently beaten by Manager Chen. He curled up on the ground and said, "Why are you hitting me, why?" Don't know how to be grateful?
Because the father has never rejected his son, he will only say "OK" to his request.
appropriately rejects the child, and gently explains why he cannot satisfy him, so that the child will learn empathy from the perspective of the parent.
oneA child who understands empathy will one day become a child who understands gratitude.
Thanksgiving is the inheritance of love. Children have love in their hearts and live in the sun.
still remember a previous public service advertisement of CCTV "Washing Feet for Mother".
At the beginning of the video, a mother told her child to wash her feet and tell a story. After washing, she went out to fetch water for her mother-in-law to wash her feet. The child ran out to see this scene, so she secretly fetched water.
Mom went to the child's room and didn't see him. In a blink of an eye, the child came over with a basin, "mother wash her feet"!
This is the transmission of love, passed down from generation to generation. When you know how to be grateful, you can give love. The kid
also feels this love and will also be grateful.
It can be said that teaching children to be grateful is the blessing of a parent's life .
