Hello everyone, my name is Hu Junli.
A family education entrepreneur who accompanies mothers to raise children scientifically.
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This is the 351st study note: Educating children must not be insulting.
The following is the text of the study notes.
1. It must not be insulting.
Educate children:
You can do whatever you want, but it must not be [insulting] or [make children feel insulting].
Never be [insulting] at any time.
It doesn’t mean that the parents themselves think it is not [insulting], it must be that the children truly feel that it is not [insulting].
[Insulting] is the real devil!
2. Being Hurt by Your Expectations
If a person's actual attitude towards me is worse than how I want him to treat me, I will think that I have been hurt by him.
If we feel hurt, it is not that others have hurt us, but that our own wishes have hurt ourselves.
- Zeng Qifeng
3, sunshine mentality
Yale University 's six sunshine mentality:
1. Be unconditionally confident, even when you make mistakes;
2. Don't think too much, clear negative thoughts regularly;
3. Learn to forget pain and make room for sunny memories;
4. Dare to try and dare to be embarrassed;
5. Every day is new, and troubles and pains never last;
6. When facing the excellence of others, praise from the bottom of your heart.
