Neighbor Mrs. Wei and Mr. Wei suddenly had a quarrel on the morning of the weekend, and the noise was loud, and the neighbors came out to persuade him. Mr. Wei sat on the sofa smoking and not speaking, while Mrs. Wei cried with tears in her nose, and the child was so scared that he hid in Grandma Wang's arms that he did not dare to say anything. In order to calm the dispute between husband and wife, Mrs. Wang took her child Tutu to her house first, and I took Mrs. Wei back to my house, and the husband kept it and persuaded Mr. Wei.
After Mrs. Wei’s narration, I realized that the couple quarreled because their son Tutu wet the bed. "This child is already 6 years old . and can wet the bed . His father blames me. I don't call the child at night. Isn't he a human? Can't he scream? This morning, and kid , saying that he wants to let Tutu have a memory . I really don't know how he is a father."
"Don't be angry, it is normal for children to wet the bed. As long as it is not pathological, it can be changed. You two are just too anxious. When they quarreled, they vomited the conflict, but they scared Tutu. How inappropriate." Seeing Mrs. Wei still angry, I quickly comforted her.
5 5 factors for children wetting the bed
In life, many parents find that their children are 5/6 years old, or older, are still wetting the bed, and think this is wrong, and even beat them to correct them. In fact, parents don’t have to be nervous, and their children don’t have any major physiological problems. Children wetting the bed is generally related to five factors:
1, age factor
html Children under the age of 02 often urinate their pants during the day or at night, or urinate anywhere when they are having a lot of fun. This has nothing to do with how many times adults teach them, but is related to the child's neuromodulation ability and incomplete development . For babies of this age, parents think that it is normal for them to wet the bed, but if they are a little older, they think it is wrong.
In fact, for children under 5 years old, or even 5-7 years old, during the day, they can control urination of with , but they will wet the bed at night, which is still related to physical and neurodevelopmental factors.
tips: If you are over 5 years old and have more than twice a week and last for more than 3 months, it may be enuresis . You can take your baby to check it out. Then the right medicine will be given.
2, bladder capacity
Only people store urine in the bladder, the bladder will send messages to the brain, and the brain will wake us up and go to the toilet. But for children with relatively small bladder capacity, they cannot store much urine. If they cannot wake up in time, they will wet the bed.
3. Psychological factors
I have seen a little girl who was wetting the bed when she was 8 years old. One day her mother took her to me and the girl was very embarrassed when she told me about this. After
was used to push the child away, I asked my mother if she had blamed the child for this matter. The mother said that she would scold the child when wet the bed and When children are concerned about bedwetting, will form , pressure , and the possibility of bedwetting will increase relatively.
4. Living habits
Drink water before going to bed, and you will get up in the middle of the night. I think many adults have a deep understanding of this. The same is true for children. If you give the children water or milk before going to bed, and if you can't wake up, it is inevitable that wet the bed.
5, genetic factors
Studies have shown that if parents have the habit of wetting beds when they were young, then children have 70% chance of inheriting . So, don’t dislike it when your child wets the bed, after all, 70% of the factors come from parents.
Treat children's bedwetting problems correctly
When children have bedwetting problems, please do not beat the child like Mr. Wei, nor do you scold the child like the 8-year-old girl. The impact on the babies is incalculable. Some studies say that bedwetting is the third most serious psychological trauma time for children, and the degree of injury is second only to parents' divorce and quarrel.
When you find that your child wets the bed, parents can do the following three steps.
First of all, it means understanding and protecting children's self-esteem.
In fact, children are ashamed, especially those over 5 years old. When they find , they wet by themselves, their first reaction will be afraid of , or find a way to hide "evidence" . At this time, the attitude of parents is very critical to them.
tell your child with empathy: " bedwetting is also not is a embarrassing thing. It is normal for you to be at your age. Dad (mom) will do this when you are so old. It doesn't matter." When babies hear such words, they will relax their nervousness and their self-esteem will be protected.
Secondly, children can be reminded during a specific period.
Once chatted with a friend who was a kindergarten teacher. After mentioning whether the child had wet the bed, she said that for some babies who had the habit of wetting the bed, they would wake up in about an hour to let the child urinate.
This is a good way to prevent children from wetting . Parents can set an alarm . According to the age of the baby, wake up every time between 1-2 hours. When the baby can control urination on his own, there is no need to be so troublesome.
Finally, develop good routines before going to bed
Work routines before going to bed are very important for improving the baby's bedwetting. There are two habits that parents recommend to refer to:
1. Don't play too late at night
Don't let your children play too late at night, otherwise you will become more excited the more you play. The more you are excited, the more you are you will be able to sleep . The more you can't sleep, the more you can't sleep, the more you will sleep, the more you will sleep . Even if you can control your urination by yourself, is too tired because is . If cannot clear in time, will also wet the bed;
2. Don’t drink too much water
. This is mentioned above. If you drink too much water at night, the number of urination will increase. You may need to go to the toilet once in 0.5 hours to 1 hour. Children are very sleepy and wet the bed.
Therefore, you must help your baby develop good bedtime habits and try not to drink water 2 hours before going to bed. With good habits, the problem of bedwetting will be greatly improved, so there is no need to worry about bedwetting!
Once chatting with my cousin, she said that when she mentioned wetting the bed, she thought that she was sleeping soundly when she was a child. As a result, was suddenly awakened by . When she woke up, she saw her mother angrily looking at her herself. At that moment, is not only pain , shame , more is fear .
I think many people have had similar experiences with my cousin. Adults always feel that children wet the bed and will have a memory after taking a few more times. This method has certain effects, but it also has certain harm to children.
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Wetting the bed is a normal and shameful thing for children. As parents, they should help them get through it smoothly. When you are blaming your child, don’t forget that you have experienced such a thing, put your heart in it!
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