Suddenly, the mother opened the car door, turned around and leaned into the car, grabbed the breakfast from the child's hand, put it into her mouth, ate it neatly, then pulled the child who had not yet come to her senses, pulled him out of the car, and walked towards the school not far away.
This video resonated with many mothers. They said that they could understand the mother's mood very well. They also have the same baby in their home. If the child is allowed to eat it, he can eat it until the get out of class is over.
It is a common phenomenon for children to be procrastinated and procrastinated. In fact, what develops children's habits is related to the parenting style. According to a study, the more parents pay attention to primary school students' emotional warmth and understanding, the less likely the child is to procrastinate. The more severe the parents treat their children, the more punishment they punish, the greater the possibility of procrastination.
In addition, if parents do everything, their children do not learn to make plans and have no sense of purpose in their hearts, they will also like to procrastinate.
As the saying goes: Everything is planned, and if it is not planned, it will be abandoned. If parents begin to consciously cultivate their children's ability to plan around school age, their children can generally learn and live efficiently.
Cultivate children's ability to make plans, follow the rules of their children's growth and development and proceed step by step. Generally speaking, parents can do it in two stages.
Stage 1: Let children understand the orderliness and thinking logic of doing things.
Around the school age period, when parents do things with their children, they should tell their children more about the order of doing things. For example, if you want to go to the park, we can say to the child: "Baby, let's bring out the things we have, then put on our shoes, go out and close the door, and then go to the park."
wants to clean the room, we can say: "Baby, let's clean up the toys on the floor, put them back in the storage box, and then place the storage box neatly."
In this way, the child can understand that everything he does has a certain order. This concept is implanted into the child's head, and the child can do things in an orderly manner in the future.
In addition, teaching children to understand time is also a parenting task for parents at this stage. Because understanding time is the first step for children to develop the concept of time.
Sometimes, even if a child knows the scale on the clock, it does not mean that he has the concept of time. Time is invisible and intangible, it is an abstract thing. Young children don’t know how long it takes to have an hour?
In order to allow young children to have an intuitive understanding of time, we can teach children to "draw time". Parents guide their children to draw a circle, then mark the time scale, and let the children draw the time for eating and sleeping. Slowly wait until the child gets familiar with it, and then let the child draw the time to go to school, do homework, read picture books, etc. In this way, the child can intuitively see what he has done in a day, and he can still see that the time of the day is limited and it will be gone after it is used up. I am familiar with the tasks in this stage of
, and I can proceed to the second stage of tasks next.
Stage 2: Planning and practice stage.
Starting from the fourth and fifth grades, parents must cultivate their children’s two skills. The first skill is to do a learning process sheet. Do it according to each lesson.
For example, if a child wants to achieve a learning goal, parents must ask him to formulate a learning process table, first break down the goal task into several small tasks, each small task must be marked with the start time and end time, and then executed as planned.
With this process table, it is not easy for children to procrastinate.
The second skill is to establish a "priority first" mindset.
The niece told me that her baby son always remembered that there was still homework not completed when she was sleeping. As long as he doesn't keep an eye on him for a day, he will "do something wrong". The niece complained: "Where is the child's reading, it's me. I'm so tired."
In fact, when the child has multiple learning tasks, entertainment, interests and hobbies, and many things are piled up together, the child has no clue and is prone to procrastination. At this time, parents should guide their children to think about what is most important, what is important, and what is both important and urgent, and then sort these things and deal with them one by one.
Learn the thinking model of "first things first". Children will not always think about playing and watching TV first. When they are about to sleep, they will remember that there are still homework to do and things to memorize. When these trainings are first started, parents may find it troublesome. However, when children develop habits, parents should not focus on their children's homework. Children can be efficient in their studies and will never procrastinate again. In this way, when the junior high school stage, the child can make his own study plan. For a child who has plans and arrangements in everything, they are not prone to making mistakes in their work, and they are more likely to succeed when they grow up.
Learn the thinking model of "first things first". Children will not always think about playing and watching TV first. When they are about to sleep, they will remember that there are still homework to do and things to memorize. When these trainings are first started, parents may find it troublesome. However, when children develop habits, parents should not focus on their children's homework. Children can be efficient in their studies and will never procrastinate again. In this way, when the junior high school stage, the child can make his own study plan. For a child who has plans and arrangements in everything, they are not prone to making mistakes in their work, and they are more likely to succeed when they grow up.
