From time to time, friends and relatives around him talk about how much money the child spends here and how much money it spends there, and then sighs and even complains...
I still remember that a few years ago, I accompanied a friend to buy clothes for the child. The child was only two years old. Then I saw the clothes the size of a small cloth, and it was 300 or even 500 or 600 pieces, and then talked about other expenses, and I was speechless.
Nowadays, many parents even started preparing before preparing for pregnancy. For example, both men and women need to exercise, maintain balanced nutrition and regular schedules, and say that this is better quality.
Then after getting pregnant, I started various prenatal education and nutritional supplements, and then I gained a few rounds of weight. Then we have to discuss whether is born naturally in or caesarean section. For example, in first-tier cities, it is a cost of 10,000 or 20,000 yuan. After finally giving birth, I still have to buy various imported milk powder and nutritional products. Many of the imported milk powder are purchased abroad or Hong Kong by friends or purchasing agents. A can costs at least 3000 to 400 yuan, which is not counted as the cost of purchasing agents. The cost of milk powder per month will cost two or 300,000 yuan. There are also the cost of children's clothing, colds, fevers, and even nanny. The expenses are unknown in a month...
When the child reaches two years old, many parents have to attend early education classes for their children. The cost is not low anyway, and then they have to go to kindergarten at the age of three or four. I didn't pay attention to other places. Private kindergartens in Shenzhen are at least 10,000 yuan per semester.
is equivalent to the tuition and living expenses of a child during early education classes and kindergartens. Even if he doesn’t hire a nanny, the annual expenses will be more than 40,000 to 50,000 yuan…
Then in elementary school, many parents even have to spend millions or even tens of millions to buy a school district house in first-tier cities for their children to go to a good school, and it is similar to junior high and high schools.
When a child is young, he has to watch at any time except for sleeping time at home. When a child is three or four years old, he is afraid of running out and causing trouble or being abducted. When he goes to school, he is afraid of not going to a better school or even an ordinary public school.
When children go to junior high school, they are afraid that their children will be rebellious, learn bad things, and early love will affect their studies. When they go to high school, they are afraid that their children will not be able to go to a good university.
In order for children to go to a better school, many parents hire tutors or cram schools for their children at all stages of elementary schools, junior high schools, and high schools, as well as various interest classes, and even many, just go to more than 10 interest classes for their children. You can calculate how much it costs.
When you finally graduate from college, you have to worry that your child will not be able to find a good job. Many parents even have to spend money or use their relationship to arrange jobs for their children. For example, if you are your son, you have to buy a house and a car for your son to prepare a bride price so that the child can get married smoothly.
When the children get married, they have to urge them to have children. When they have children, they have to take care of their wives and help them take care of their children. Then...
I feel that I have been giving and worrying about their children all my life. I am even studying and working hard before I get married and not having children, just to have a good job and earn more money to get married and raise children.
So, have you ever calculated how much money you have to spend on children, how much time and energy you have to spend?
Seeing the various efforts of many parents in their children now, I suddenly forgot how we grew up [covering our faces]
In fact, have you noticed that some of the good things taught in schools are not used in work and life, and there are some learning contents that are a bit repetitive in junior high school and high school, such as learning history and high school history together.
So I suggest that primary schools will be changed to five-year systems. In fact, some places were five-year systems more than ten or twenty years ago. I suggest that junior high schools and high schools be put together, collectively called middle schools, and also changed to five-year systems.
This way, you can go to college at the age of 16, which not only reduces the burden on students and parents, but also alleviates the problems brought about by China's aging.
The marriage age is actually changed to 18 years old. As an adult, he has the right to choose his own life and can also bring some positive effects on the aging problem.
There are also various interest classes and cram schools that children have taken since childhood. Have you noticed that it is actually useless for future work, unless you learn it well.
As for buying a house, a car, and giving gifts to children, or even taking care of children later, then you can choose.
In addition to the efforts of children, many people have also paid a lot of price for various face and vanity.
For example, even though you don’t have much money, you still need various loans to borrow money. You empty your six wallets to buy a house. You think that having a house is a sign of success. Of course, buying a house during the period when housing prices rose rapidly that year may be the right choice. But it is hard to say that you can buy a house after 2017.
For example, for the sake of face or vanity, buy luxury cars or even rent, buy bags and other luxury goods, entertain friends, relatives or relationships, and all kinds of good cigarettes, wine and other high-end gifts. Is this really necessary?
Seeing that low income, various high expenses and even debts, it feels tired when you think about it [cover your face]
, especially there are various vanity competitions and intrigues, comparing yourself, spouse, children, cars, houses, and income. Comparing is everywhere, and pressure is everywhere.
So, why do you have to live so tiring?
18 years ago, I saw a sentence in Wencuibao : Chinese people have two ways of living, one is to see how others live, and the other is to show their lives for others...
When you find out that you don’t pay your mortgage or sign up for your children with various interest classes, you feel much less stressed. When you are no longer vain, don’t care what brand the car and various consumer products are, and don’t compare, you will find that your whole person is much more relaxed [Yeah][Yeah]
Then you just want to open it, don’t force what you can’t get, don’t make promises if you can’t make it, and you will be fully clear [Quai][Quai]
So, why think so much when you are alive? Why make yourself so tired? Think about it, let it go, everything is simple...
