I don’t know where to start, but the old man became the main force in raising children. Whether it is taking children outdoors or picking up and dropping off children at the kindergarten gate, most of them are grandparents or grandparents.
There is a "new style of raising children" that is rising. The elderly are not tired, and young people also like it.
Many people, including the elderly themselves, think it is natural to help take care of their grandchildren. There are also some elderly people who want to live their own lives, but they still grit their teeth and persevere for their children.
However, my neighbor is a grandmother, but her ideas are very different. She told me that many people around me have emerged a "new style of raising children". The elderly do not tired of their children and are grateful, the family is harmonious, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along happily.
Since her son and daughter-in-law have to go to work, the son suggested that the elderly couple should move over to help take care of their grandson and relieve the pressure on young people.
Grandma actually thought about it for a long time because she felt that if the whole family lives together, their life concepts and parenting concepts will always be different. After getting along for a long time, it will inevitably lead to chaos. Many families around are examples.
But I can’t help but my son and daughter-in-law beg me again and again. Moreover, no one takes care of the child, so picking up and dropping off at kindergarten are all problems. In the end, grandma agreed.
However, before going, she expressed her own opinions. If her son and daughter-in-law can agree, she will go there with confidence and boldness. If she does not agree, she will not go anyway.
First point: The elderly also need to rest
The reason for this is to consider it from two aspects.
As soon as the child comes, the child is energetic, while the elderly are limited in energy. It is really easy to be overwhelmed to help with cooking and housework, and taking care of the child.
A long time of fatigue, anyone would have some negative emotions. If this emotion is brought to the family, it is easy to cause quarrels.
Secondly, in addition to having enough food and clothing, what children need most is actually the company of their parents. The impact of parents on their children is the most profound.
So, when you get off work or rest, you have to take over the matter of taking care of your children, so that the elderly can replenish their energy, and you can also participate in the growth of your children.
Second point: Respect the lives of both parties
You sleep in, eat snacks, and make friends, I don’t care about all of these. But you don’t interfere in some of my life philosophy, such as frugality, being affordable, going downstairs to chat and dance with friends.
Only when we respect each other can we get along for a long time. Otherwise, you will be dissatisfied with me this time, and next time I see you will not deal with it. No one will be happy about this life, and it will also have a bad impact on the child.
Third point: Respect the growth of children and do not compare them with others
There is a mother-in-law in the community who sighs at home every day.
The reason is that in the child’s class, parents are rushing to check in spontaneously, learning to recognize words, learning to add or subtract, and memorizing English words. The daughter-in-law was unwilling to let her child fall behind, so she forced her child to read and scold her if she didn't know her, which made the child cry every day.
Since I asked me to take care of my children, you can't compare your own children with this or that, learn this and that one time. If you learn so much, adults and children will be under great pressure.
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After listening to her talk about these, I couldn't help but secretly admire her, what a wise old man, ! not only has a sense of boundaries with the younger generation, but also leaves space for each to advance and retreat in moderation. Such a family is strange if it is not happy.
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