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Ancient Roman Poet Ovid said: "Personality evolves from habits."
writer Mao Fulu also said: "A person's failure lies in the shortcomings of his own personality, which has nothing to do with the environment."
But what modern parents often say is: "Children have weird personalities, and they are really unable to understand it."
In fact, the storyteller and the writer are two people with different horizontal line . They are also children. Each child's growth status and personality development . As parents, although we cannot completely think about what our children think and what their children need, personality is a major event that concerns children's growth in life.
Go back to the question that parents are concerned about: "Why is the weirder and more difficult to understand as children grow up?" The problem of
is not difficult to understand, because as children grow older, their cognition, ideals, needs, and emotions will change.
A mother told me:
Compared with many children around me, my son has a weird personality. He always looks particularly timid and unsociable outside. When he returns home, he is in another state. He usually jumps up and down at home. Not only does he say that he talks to his elders, he is so loud that even his neighbors can hear it. When it comes to the personalities of his parents, her father and I are both well-educated and cheerful. I don’t know why the children’s personalities are so different.
After listening to this mother's introduction, I always feel that many children now have this personality. At least many relatives around me are similar. They do whatever they want at home , and outside, they appear cautiously . When I was a child, my grandmother often called this personality "a hero who only dared to hide in the corner", which actually also reflected a change in the character of children's growth.
is obvious. This is an unhealthy external social interaction. At the same time, it is also an independent personality development that children will experience in their personality growth. If children want to develop excellent growth, they must pay attention to sound personality development. The personality development of children is like we sow seeds at the same time, and seedlings will only be emitted after a spring rain.
Since then, the growth of seedlings has also opened up different gaps. Due to the subsequent different lighting, irrigation , and nutrient , some of them have grown fruitful . ml6. Some bloom and fruitless , but it is different from plant growth . What is is that the best understanding between people is communication. No matter what relationship or kind of people, the communication between each other is to establish mutual respect is communication basis .
For example, many parents always complain that their children have weird personalities. This kind of that does not try to understand their children's personality, single or decisively understand . In fact, the fundamental problem is that it is not enough. " respects html l5"Children, we often say, "the older the child, the further the distance between them is from their parents." We even have no chance to speak calmly with . This is the anxiety and wrong perception brought to parents by different environmental influences. When we decide to let the child " listen to parents' words " from the moment we start, we are pushing the child outward!
So, if the child’s personality is weird and it is difficult to communicate with parents, the most important thing is not to complain, but to give the child a sound personality!
So, how can parents help their children establish a sound personality? "Encyclopedia Concept" first understand
Type 1: Self-disciplined children
Children with self-disciplined personality are also called perfect children, because self-discipline is almost that cannot be encountered . Self-discipline that even adults cannot control, in fact, the standards need to be lowered in children. Only in this way can it be easier to see the self-discipline of children.
It is worth mentioning that children with self-discipline also respect the rules in their daily lives, and they seem to be particularly rational and rational. They are inspiring to pursue perfection, and they will also do their best to achieve certain goals and expectations. In addition, perfect children also have a sense of order in which clearly rewards and punishments. When they encounter others doing something wrong or are lazy, they will not be able to help correct them.
When faced with self-disciplined children, parents need to take it seriously with full respect. Even if the elders in the family do something wrong, they need to accept and correct mistakes when their children make suggestions. If you, as parents, make mistakes, don’t think it will be embarrassing to be caught by your children, because taking mistakes is the best way to get along with your children.
Type 2: Sense-type children
Sense-type children seem to be the blessing of parents' cultivation in their previous lives. They are with good personality and they almost never disobey their parents' wishes. They are small as in life wear , and they are large as ideal life, , and they all seem to be under the arrangement of their parents. They come to as promised, but, where are there any children born sensible? It is just a kind of psychological state feedback based on a quiet personality.
Sense is a kind of elegance of children's personality. It belongs to a quieter type, but it is easily bound by due to the influence of personality. Especially, if parents' expectations are too high, it will bring a certain amount of pressure. They do not think that the love they have is . l5 free , so I will only work harder to get recognized , and this kind of personality that likes to consider the needs of others in everything, and it is just more desire to get the care of others.
So, if you have a child with a personality quiet and elegant , remember to protect it well and not over-consuming the child's sensibility. Support children's ideas and respect their wishes in daily life. Only in the environment of growing up full of care and abundance can children develop a sound and sensible personality. The innate is good at observing and thinking from the perspective of , it will be easier to gain the respect and favor of others!
Type 3: Confident children
Confident children seem to have their own dazzling halo. The praise and recognition received by is to inspire their spiritual strength to strive for . They often think that "appreciation and affirmation are loved", and after children have the external halo of confidence, they are more likely to be noticed by everyone.
Confidence is equivalent to successful people. They have lofty goals and ideals since childhood. They value their performance and pay more attention to the achievements they have achieved. Therefore, confident children are achievement children. In their learning and growth, they often maintain a clear mind and understand how to work hard, how to plan, and how to improve themselves !
For confident children, although parents do not need to worry much, they also need to remember that parents are always the first teacher of their children. Before they want their children to become, parents must work in this direction. The that sets an example subtly is the first compulsory lesson for parents!
Type 4: Creative children
Creative children have more ideas. They have liked since childhood, fantasy, adventure, destruction , and even sensitive . For example, when watching TV, you will not be drunk, and you have to find a way to smash the remote control to see why the TV is controlled. If parents do not guide them correctly, the next step may be to study the broken remote control, but to find a way to get into the TV and find the truth.
Creative children have artistic cells since childhood and are very stubborn. The more you don’t let them do, they have to find out what they don’t want them to do. This is a curious desire, and also a persistence and discovery of creativity. They will disdain the authority raised by their parents. , and it is not a bad thing for children to be creative. It’s just that they are not mature enough and do not know how to explore or discover correctly.
At this time, parents need to take on the guide in their children's creativity. From a certain perspective, they should understand the sensitive mentality of being loyal to creativity. If they are worried that the child will cause damage or are in danger, they can design a relatively safe space for the child and explore with the child. On the one hand, they can guide correctly, and on the other hand, they are also a supportive attitude towards the child in the company!
Type 5: Knowledge-type children
Most of the knowledge-type children have the excellent qualities of loving learning and independence. They often look calm. Sitting there, they look almost deaf ears and deaf things outside the window , and wholeheartedly The scholarly atmosphere also leads to a lack of social exercise.
So, the top academic children in the grade look full of achievements and glory. In fact, there are very few friends around them . From the perspective of physical and mental health, knowledge-based children are not necessarily confident. They are vacant and lonely in their hearts. Because of their pursuit of knowledge, they think nothing is more meaningful than independent space and thinking and learning .
For knowledge-oriented children who study hard and strive to pursue their ideals, parents should not care about and be complacent . In addition to giving their children the most basic respect and care, they should also pay more attention to combined with work and rest. If conditions permit, they can take their children out for travel and hold knowledge painting exhibitions. Encourage children to break through the vision of Frog in the well , and only after children's knowledge-oriented personality will have a broader opportunity to sail.
Type 6: Loyal children
Loyal children are also called honest children. They will feel nervous and afraid of when facing strange environments, but honest children have a loyal and kind heart. When they encounter things about as much as they can and will help without hesitation. That kind of kindness comes from the brave release of their original hearts.
If a child has a loyal and kind heart, please remember not to blame the child at any time timid and afraid of things , because their courage is just not yet time to be inspired. At this time, we either encourage children to try more new things or accompany their children to solve problems, because loyal children will define love as "absolute support".
fully trusts and supports children. This is also the way to get along with without absolute support and without absolute trust. Life is originally reflected in contradictions to move forward and fall, and children also need such an opportunity to realize more self-worth !
Type 7: Lively children
Lively children will be enthusiastic and active. They are like a rock music, and the melody can't stop for a moment. They usually like to try all kinds of new things. They prefer freedom and do not like to be bound by , and they may also seem more unruly.
In this regard, we must realize that not following the rules does not mean that children are not excellent. Lively children. They are optimistic about . The elders in the family must also give freedom appropriately. If you want to develop this personality into more sound management, you must abandon traditional stereotyped rules and methods.
Please remember that let children learn in a free and lively and interesting way to get along with each other, and combine work and rest, so that the changes in children will be more obvious and vivid!
Type 8: Dominant Children
Dominant Children In fact, they have a relatively strong Leadership consciousness when a group of children play games together, children with strong leadership consciousness do not like to be controlled or dominated by others, and often tend to obtain initiative in the game. In order to achieve this goal, they will rack their brains to and use methods.
When encountering dominant children, parents must be careful not to impose interference in . This will easily lead to negative consequences of quarrel with children. In order to better help children improve their personality, we must fully help children to do a good job in leader awareness . When children work together or play games, we must guide children to gain control through "suggestions" and "options" as much as possible.
For example, what can you do and what else can you do in this game? Give suggestions and then throw out options to control your teammates, so it is easier to get active thinking and cooperative awareness of . After all, the ultimate goal of domination is not to satisfy vanity, but to achieve the goal and complete this thing better.
As the saying goes, everyone is full of fire and fire, and the team is also the most powerful partnership force in the world!
Type 9: Quiet type children
Quiet type children are relatively harmonious Quiet type children. They are indifferent and do not like to compete. When parents educate this type of children, remember to set goals that meet their children's abilities and have plenty of time. Excessive urging and coercing will only make the children more and more confused, and even confusion and uneasiness that they will not be able to do.
Silent children believe in one truth: "If you give, you will get rewards." Their efforts are basically the attitude of the cleansing oneself, and they also particularly long for the trust and support of their parents. They believe that "being loved means not creating trouble in harmony." The "invisible" efforts and the drifting with the flow without causing trouble. In fact, behind quietness is the children's efforts and enthusiasm.
To sum up, different children have different personalities and excellence. They all say that "a mother has nine sons, each with its own differences." We must fully understand the attributes of the children and correct them through the most basic support, encouragement, respect and companionship , and believe that every diligent effort will bring sweet rewards!
I am Lan Ma, focusing on the analytical author in the field of parenting, and use personal examples and various family education examples to record the moments of parenting. Friends who like it, welcome to follow @Lan Ma and talk about parenting and learning and growth together!
