Author | Inspector (1909 words in total, read for about 4 minutes)
Family and children are used for love, not trash cans to vent their emotions.
When educating their children, many parents always like to let their children recognize their mistakes in front of others, so as to show their parents' majesty.
However, beating and scolding children in public often results in the opposite result.
A mother took her 7-year-old son on the subway. The child sat in the seat opposite her mother looking at her phone. She was about to arrive at the station. The mother didn't want the child to keep playing with her phone, so twisted the child's face hard.
The child's mask was pulled off. Seeing the mother suddenly getting angry, the child quickly put the mask on, and the mother then threw away the child's hat and took the child's phone away and was about to turn on. At this time, the helpless child quickly blocked it with his hands, so scared that he was at a loss.
The next scene made the passengers even more angry. The mother pulled the child and refused to let him sit again. After walking to another carriage, she threw away her schoolbag and forced the child to kneel down. The child had to obey his mother's words and kneel down.
At this time, the passengers persuaded: It is not appropriate to let the child kneel in public; the child does something wrong and says it well...
The mother retorted: This is my child, I will do whatever I want.
Just like that, the child lowered his head and knelt helplessly. After the station, the mother walked out of the carriage with her pockets in her hands, and the child quickly picked up her schoolbag, took the good things and ran out of the mother.
After seeing this scene, everyone shook their heads and felt sorry for their children. A parent who does not know how to respect their children, will the children be excellent in the future? Can you grow up healthily, worry-free and happy? Children's self-esteem has been trampled on by their parents since childhood, and they have trampled their face and shame under their feet. Is such a child smart and healthy?
★Parents should understand and respect their children's self-esteem
"What do you understand as a child!"
"What can such a young child have to have!"
In the eyes of parents, no matter how old the child is, they are always a child, but children will eventually grow up. They have to face the world alone, have their own judgment, their own opinions, and their own social circle. They will also have face and self-esteem, and are no longer the child who doesn't understand anything, can only laugh, and walk crookedly behind their parents.
As children grow up, their self-cognition is gradually forming, and they begin to develop self-esteem at around 2-3 years old. Although the word self-esteem is relatively empty, children will gradually have their own understanding through contact with their peers.
When the child is criticized by his mother, they will see if anyone around them is looking at him;
When the child goes out and wants to urinate, they will ask the mother where the toilet is;
When the child wants to decide the winner and lose, they hope to get praise;
This is the manifestation of the formation of children's self-esteem. They will pay attention to their image, do not want to be quarreled by their parents in front of outsiders, and do not want to make a fool of themselves. At this time, no matter how old the child is, parents must realize that they must respect the child, rather than force the child to be obedient.
When I took my child out to play the day before yesterday, a little boy about 5 years old was so fascinated by playing on the slide that he was so enchanted. His mother smiled and said to the people around him: "This child is so old, he still diapers. He just urinated one the day before yesterday. Could it be that he still has to wear diapers?"
When the boy heard this, his face turned red and he cried, "Don't say to me! You jumped rope yesterday and peed your pants."His mother changed her face when she heard the child say this: "You child, you are talking about me in reverse, you want to rebel! "
The child cannot express what he thinks in language, but from his anxious look, he can see that the wound he suffered inside was very painful. He doesn't want his mother to continue talking about his privacy, nor does he think it is a funny thing. In order to earn back his face and be fair, the child also told his mother's embarrassing things.
Respect for respect. If parents protect their children's face and self-esteem, then the children will respect their parents in a reward manner and listen to their parents' opinions. But if parents ignore their children's self-esteem and feelings, they may be more rebellious children, or children who are more inferior, have no self-confidence, dare not express their thoughts, and are tiptoe to do things.
★ "Leave face" for children, and it is also the reflection of parents' qualities
When parents express their children's privacy or quarrel and scold them casually regardless of their children's feelings, this is no longer the child is making a fool of himself. In the eyes of outsiders, this is a manifestation of parents' low emotional intelligence and dereliction of duty in education.
It is not scary for a child to do something wrong. What is scary is that parents use the wrong educational method to let the child make the second mistake.
The old saying goes, "Don't make family scandals public", and internal processing and digestion of internal affairs of the family, so that outsiders know, but what they may be mocking or despising.
Education Children are the job of parents and their own family . There is a problem with the behavior of children. If parents can handle housework behind closed doors and save face for their children, then the children will also thank their parents psychologically.
Parents respect their children, and the children will be willing to open their hearts, trust their parents more, and express their ideas. In such a loving and harmonious family atmosphere, children's mentality will be healthier, full of positive energy, and grow into an excellent and sunny person.
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Parents should not joke with their children in a joke way; don't use their own children as their children, nor should they use their own children. As an example, if you do negative cases, doesn’t even care about their dignity, so who can still be trusted? There is no harbor of peace and no one who is worthy of trust. It is difficult for children who lack a sense of security to have the confidence to face the unknown future.
When you see your child doing something wrong, hold back your temper first , tell the child that he does this wrong, and then communicate with the child patiently when there is no one. The dialogue between hearts promotes the relationship between parents and children, and the child can listen to parents' suggestions more, correct mistakes, and become a better self.
Parents, have you ever quarreled with the child in public?
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